Get annoyed with parents

sashadesade

I'm 27 and I find myself adopting more and more of my parents annoying traits as I get older. I dread to think what I'm going to be like by the time I'm 40... :eek:

sassyblue

andymc29 wrote: »

She sounds like my Mum!

and mine!! Though l love my mum dearly she is extremely hard work, if l try to stop her moaning by being positive it falls on deaf ears, if l refuse to join in and gently ask her to be positive she'll say 'l'm only telling you something, you're a right misery today' !! :rotfl:

If my mum won the lottery she wouldn't change it's just how she is. I can't win so l let her get on with it, as for sounding like her one day, it'll never happen, my mum is soooo negative and l refuse to be.

Something she does that riles me is sit talking to someone then when they've gone she'll say 'she's a right nosey cow isn't she?' - honest to God you can't win!!

xangeleyes

Yeah your mums sounds like a very !!!!!! off person. I can't stand this in people, I'm sure she's nice in other ways.
You need to talk to her about it, she needs to calm down before she causes herself a stress related illness.

It sounds like she's forgotten what it's like to have young children.

pinkteapot

Absolutely normal beyond a certain age I think. I lived at home for a year after uni and it drove me nuts. Once you've been away to uni you just get used to the freedom of living on your own (even if with housemates). I moved out after a year and mum and I got on a LOT better from that point.

Now I'm 30 and I'm starting to agree with her on things and sound like her. :eek:

Why do you go home so often? I only went home three times a year in vacations while at uni... Simple answer would seem to be to make the visits a bit less frequent (but keep up the phone calls).

jinky67

:hello: thats my Gran that is:rotfl:

KxMx

Just smile, nod and go hmmmm while thinking of something else. Find that very useful myself!

hudgebadger

Just remember that

you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family

Everyone is different in life and that is what makes life so worth living.

My mum annoys the pants off of me, but I still love her to pieces.

Finally My dad does not see eye to eye with me on a lot of things in life, and got even more upset when reminded by my mum that I was excatly like him .

olibrofiz

Yep, mum drives me mad but mostly I try to see the funny side of it and leave her to get on with it. If I don't react to her moaning she sulks and won;t speak to me so I get some peace

sarah*a

Nimeth wrote: »

I hear ya OP. It's my MiL who drives me round the bend though, always sitting about moaning about her various twinges and 'ailments'. She spends far too much time looking through the Medical Book of Doom and self-diagnosing, when she isn't in the doctors trying to get other diagnoses. Lord knows I love her, but it sure is frustrating when most of her 'problems' can be solved with a proper diet and a little exercise.:wall::p

:rotfl::rotfl:

My MIL and I play 'oneup' on meds and ailments - everything I or anyone else gets shes had - and three times worse

2gorgeousgirls

I know what you mean. My mother irritates me but I've come to realise that with us, the problem is me. I am always in a rush, work, 2 kids, the usual. Whereas my mum is in her seventies and has slowed down, has arthritis and angina.

When we are together I find it hard to slow down and get irritated and am so relieved when it is time to go home. We live 70 miles apart.

When she comes to stay with me, I can't get on with my normal routine and find that the housework etc falls behind which stresses me out - again my problem, not hers.

I am trying to sort myself out and appreciate that she won't be around forever. I find myself constantly reminding myself (in my head) that I will miss her when she is no longer here and to slow down and be thankful for the time we have together. Its not easy when I am usually running round like a headless chicken and never have time to relax.

On the other hand, when she comes to stay, she relaxes so much that she thinks she's in a hotel, to the extent that she leaves the towels in the bath when she's leaving!:)