Ignorant comments

daska

Richie-from-the-Boro wrote: »

If I might offer a precise interpretation, finding understanding from the population [ of the group ] in the general and expecting empathy in the particular from your good self I found a one~on~one attempt at devouring another disabled person by attacking their only means of internet communication.

My comments to you were / are not offensive - your comments to nannytone were / are offensive. My comments to you were / are not ignorant and should not offend you. I will defend all disabled from abuse at every opportunity, and in this case even when its .. .. disabled .. .. on .. .. disabled.

As an aside, I never thought dmg24 and I would disagree, but there you go another learning experience for me.

thanks, my brain got stuck on 'branch predication' and I couldn't think outside it...

ROFLMAO the whole of this thread has been about how offence can be taken at comments - when others can't see what the problem is. So from that point of view how dare you state that your comment isn't offensive, if I or indeed anyone else finds it to be then it is... PMSL

I would have expected more offence to be caused by my response pointing out the complete lack of logic on the part of another poster - which I suspect you took to be an attack on nannytone but wasn't.

(but it's not completely unheard of for me to disagree with dmg)

Richie-from-the-Boro

daska wrote: »

ROFLMAO the whole of this thread has been about how offence can be taken at comments - when others can't see what the problem is. So from that point of view how dare you state that your comment isn't offensive, if I or indeed anyone else finds it to be then it is... PMSL

I would have expected more offence to be caused by my response pointing out the complete lack of logic on the part of another poster.

(but it's not completely unheard of for me to disagree with dmg)

I was expecting you earlier than this, feel free daska to have your say, now we await diolch's appearance.

SingleSue

I am always being asked what have I done to myself as I use crutches and personally I prefer this to being automatically classed as disabled.

I don't think of myself as disabled, I am still in the realm of believing this is temporary and I will get better....thus, I claim no disability benefits nor take advantage of special measures for disabled people. So when someone starts making provision for me on the basis they think of me as being disabled, it niggles me (I am very polite about it and I do understand why they are).

What I am trying to say is that different things will offend different people, some people will take normal comments as being ignorant, others will just ignore or it will just go straight over their heads.

Mind you, being told that my autistic son should not be in normal shops with normal people made me pretty mad! I am afraid, I did lose my temper over that one.

jetta_wales

Richie-from-the-Boro wrote: »

I was expecting you earlier than this, feel free daska to have your say, now we await diolch's appearance.

And you have the Gaul to acuse another of cyber jolting with silly comments like this?

I think you need to calm down a tad to be honest!

I also can't stand the "you've (in my opinion) offended a dissabled person thus I must tear into you for it on their behalf as they clearly can't stick up for themselves" reaction.

Nannytone - I find the magnifying software a royal pain in the !!! too I just get lost all the time trying to use it and would also rather just hold a laptop etc half an inch from my nose instead (sometimes I wish my nose was smaller so I could get closer lol. Still loving my iPad though as it's a he'll of a lot easier and lighter to hold close, best gadget I've ever bought.

If you get fed up of repeatedly having to explain why you post in bold then maybe a line in your signature would eliminate the issue?

On a lighter note I had a funny coment this week using my cane and holding both my dogs leads in my free hand as my other half needed his hands free for a moment. A lady walked past us and said "Ahh what pretty guide dogs" now if they were labs or other big dogs maybe it could have been logical but I've no idea why I'd have two of them. But one's a sheltie x chihuahua he's only about 10 inches to shoulder and the other is a pedigree Papillon and she is absolutely tiny, way smaller than most cats and half the weight. I couldn't help but chuckle after she'd past and it did make me smile :-) Bless, if they ever tried to stop me walking into traffic I'd just fall straight over them lol.

lilly81

I just telephoned the local ice rink to ask what the disabled/carer rates are and was told it would be £1.90 for the wheelchair! :mad:
Erm.........

eskimo26

lilly81 wrote: »

I just telephoned the local ice rink to ask what the disabled/carer rates are and was told it would be £1.90 for the wheelchair! :mad:
Erm.........

Oh my, sounds like some wires got crossed! Unfortunately they don't teach much about disabilities in schools outside of the biology so ignorance is rife. Did you try and explain it through?

My next door neighbour is bedbound and in extreme pain, When I was a teen i forget the keys for my house and the neighbours let me because it was freezing. He was there in his bed in the living room and we were chatting, i had been studying a bit about how disabilities are genetically passed on. I thought i recognized his disability from my studies. Turns out his wasn't genetic at all!:o

Said he would never in a million years have had children if there was even a tiny chance they would get it. Never seen such a sick person so passionate. Bless me i was only young but i was so embarrassed, his wife hid a smile behind her hand i think she seemed amused and happy to see him so alive and passionate. Amazing guy though, I remember he had a Japanese nurse so he took it upon himself to learn japanese with her because he said "i might as well do what i can."

nannytone_2

i am registered blind, and my grandson was left severly disabled after getting viral encephalitis at 18 months ( he passed away last May)

on a positive note though......my eldest grandson is 7 and has grown up with a disabled nanny and brother. he never questions why some people are 'different' he just accepts that they are. he automatically goes out of his way to hold doors open for pushchairs and wheelchairs alike........and he's been an absolute godsend since he started reading fluently!

my disabled grandson also went to an able bodied nursery...........where all the other kids found him strange to begin with , but very soon just accepted him for who he was.

when he got his first 'walker' the other kids were so excited.........'Aiden's got a bike!!'

he would have gone to a special school for his own benefit, but the younger children can mix with people that are 'different', the less the differences matter in later life.

sunnyone

nannytone wrote: »

i am registered blind, and my grandson was left severly disabled after getting viral encephalitis at 18 months ( he passed away last May)

on a positive note though......my eldest grandson is 7 and has grown up with a disabled nanny and brother. he never questions why some people are 'different' he just accepts that they are. he automatically goes out of his way to hold doors open for pushchairs and wheelchairs alike........and he's been an absolute godsend since he started reading fluently!

my disabled grandson also went to an able bodied nursery...........where all the other kids found him strange to begin with , but very soon just accepted him for who he was.

when he got his first 'walker' the other kids were so excited.........'Aiden's got a bike!!'

he would have gone to a special school for his own benefit, but the younger children can mix with people that are 'different', the less the differences matter in later life.

My grandbubs is two now and he sees me as "normal" and wheelchair was one of his early words because to him its a normal thing that nan needs wheelchairs to move, he also likes my stair lift and he loves to drive my powerchairs, his nan's bionic!

He also know's that nan's deaf so he needs to face me so that i can lip read him and that nan's hands dont work very well so ask granda/unc to open things for him.

Kids are so adaptable and I wish adults would try as hard to see disabled people as normal and not child like idiots who need you to speak to very loudly and slowly too while using daft hand jestures.

pipkin71

sunnyone wrote: »

Kids are so adaptable and I wish adults would try as hard to see disabled people as normal and not child like idiots who need you to speak to very loudly and slowly too while using daft hand jestures.

My two have certainly adapted as we have lived with my health becoming worse.

Agree with your comments here

Lucy1973

Had been in agony recently with an arthritic hip,so was proud of myself recently when I went to tescos. Ended up going down the tramelator,but was just stood to the side of it,didnt move and just let it take me down to rest my hip. A couple of witches said in a loud voice "you can walk down it you know" then cackled at eachother. That was it for me. I had been feeling ok up until that point. With lack of sleep etc I got upset.:mad: I wish people would think a bit more before they spoke.:mad: