Ignorant comments

shegirl

I think if I took notice of all the comments I've had regarding my autistic son and my life with him I'd have driven myself nuts by now (surprised he hasn't driven me nut to be honest lol ) One that really gets me though is the one I have had a couple of time now from strangers 'are you going to have anymore kid to compensate?' ouch!!!When they come out with that I'm not 100% sure if they mean to compensate for the child I 'should have had' (which I think is the case with some) or for not having the motherhood other mums have and missing out on so much .

Some people are far too sensitive though and take offense at things that aren't meant to offend ie asking 'what have you done to yourself?' is a light hearted way of making conversation/enquiring about an injury that many many people use with other adults and children

formaldehyde_perfume

Yes, of course, I'm obviously far too sensitive and as such have no right to comment on something that offended me.

I wonder if you would have been offended if someone had asked what you did to your son to make him autistic, to me it felt similar to how I imagine you would feel about that.

But anyway, I will try and leave this thread alone as it has gone off topic from the original post.

In future I will think twice about posting on this section of MSE and I'm certainly not going to post a new thread asking for advice unless i am very desperate.

Torry_Quine

formaldehyde_perfume wrote: »

Yes, of course, I'm obviously far too sensitive and as such have no right to comment on something that offended me.

I wonder if you would have been offended if someone had asked what you did to your son to make him autistic, to me it felt similar to how I imagine you would feel about that.

But anyway, I will try and leave this thread alone as it has gone off topic from the original post.

In future I will think twice about posting on this section of MSE and I'm certainly not going to post a new thread asking for advice unless i am very desperate.

I'm really sorry you feel like that but the phrase 'What have you done to yourself' is a normal phrase and it would be best if you didn't read too much into it. I hope that you can manage to put this behind you.

dealchaser

shegirl wrote: »

I think if I took notice of all the comments I've had regarding my autistic son and my life with him I'd have driven myself nuts by now (surprised he hasn't driven me nut to be honest lol ) One that really gets me though is the one I have had a couple of time now from strangers 'are you going to have anymore kid to compensate?' ouch!!!When they come out with that I'm not 100% sure if they mean to compensate for the child I 'should have had' (which I think is the case with some) or for not having the motherhood other mums have and missing out on so much .

Some people are far too sensitive though and take offense at things that aren't meant to offend ie asking 'what have you done to yourself?' is a light hearted way of making conversation/enquiring about an injury that many many people use with other adults and children

The comment I couldn't get my head around regarding my autistic son was "its such a shame as he is so good looking". What was that supposed to mean

PhilipP_2

lilly81 wrote: »

On Friday a friend of mine said 'your lucky your son's Autistic and you don't have to work. I know you look after him but you bought him in to the world'
That has really peed me off! :mad:

I think you said it just right in the title of your thread. It is just a comment from someone completely ignorant. And it is sad, especially when this person is a friend.

GlasweJen

daska wrote: »

So, though some might have read my question and automatically assumed it was rude or that I had a nasty intent it was actually a genuine question. (And that laughing smiley was, I hold my hand up and admit it, a little dig aimed at Glaswejen for not being able to follow the logic of my previous comment.)

feel free to dig away, i don't usually notice the subversive digs what with being autistic.

nannytone_2

daska wrote: »

if your post is correct then obviously nannytone won't be able to read and respond to any of my posts...
:rotfl:

let me explain (yet again lol)
i CAN read nbormal text, but in order to do so, I have to be so near the screen, that I am in a position that I am unable totype.
Having the bold on, gives me a few inches of room to use the keyboard.
It would be even better if I could use Caps too, but I realise that would appear rude!

Queen_Of_The_Jungle

What a d*ck, get some new "friends" !!

dmg24

nannytone wrote: »

let me explain (yet again lol)
i CAN read nbormal text, but in order to do so, I have to be so near the screen, that I am in a position that I am unable totype.
Having the bold on, gives me a few inches of room to use the keyboard.
It would be even better if I could use Caps too, but I realise that would appear rude!

Unfortunately the bold type comes across in the same way. It would be easier to read/ less harsh if you deselected the bold option before posting - that's all I do (albeit changing different elements of the format).

Have you looked at any of the reading assistance software available?

nannytone_2

I've tried the one that magnifies what you point to with the cursor ( that's when I manage to find the cursor lol)
It just 'confuses' me and I cant get along with it.

to be honest I prefer to use the computer as it is. I seem to manage OK most of the time

) I 'unchecked' the bold before i clicked 'post' and it didn't work!