Memorygirls - The Matrix Re-inspired

ClootiesMum

Fantasia...... your first re-post..... reading it - I can see how it hurts, but if you take away the big & technical words it sounds so like a toddler having a tantrum when he doesn't get what he wants.

I can't (& won't even pretend) to give official, legal advice but cherisong & scaredy-cat seem to know what they are talking about.

But you are not warped/twisted and/or disturbed. He may have a problem - you do not (apart from him). In a deleted post you had mentioned that you hoped this was temporary - please think very seriously before you restart a relationship with a man that can call you this & makes you feel as dreadful as you do.

PM people if you don't want to talk on the thread - or use the phone..

And just out of curiosity - does his step-son believe his behaviour is acceptable? If so - do you really want him in the house?

As MG said - hold fire until you can get proper legal advice - but as well as what you've been advised, I believe Shelter might have some advice too.

Take care.....

Ellidee

:grouphug: for Fantasia and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zX4SqnCLwiA

Gemmzie

Or pop over to the other side which is more private. Keep talking if you need to

tellmeitsfriday

Thanks for the decorating tips Tricia and Thrifty Seems to pale into insignificance mind...!

Fantasia - look after yourself sweetheart - no rash decisions, but make the right one, with the right information... if i were you, and it was safe, I would stay until Monday when I'd spoken to someone "in the know" xxx

MrsMoo2U

I was about to suggest the other side too.

clairewop

Evening

Fantasia, sorry to hear your having a bed time at the moment, wish you lived nearer me, I would have taken you and Leyla in. (my cats are used to dogs.)

Talking of dogs, we may have a new one whilst over the big cheese, there was a dog rescue charity there, DH and DS2 both fell in love with a little girl dog called Leyla, who was very mistreated, so they have filled in the forms to see if we can adopt her. They will phone us next week, to arrange a home visit.

Didn't do as well as normal, but did ok.

ClootiesMum

OK - I'm going off-line now but Fantasia.... sadly I'm not in a position to offer money towards a deposit but I have A LOT of stuff in the garage that you can have/use - pots/china/living room unit/spare TV...... so come Monday, if there'e a change in situation, please let me know.....

And Claire - you are wonderful (DH is on a night out so I don't want to offer without speaking to him, but it may be better for Fantasia to try to hold out until advice is recd too). And your new arrival to be - that's wonderful. Pictures are compulsory

MrsMoo2U

Fantasia, I am going off MSE for a while. I am logged in over the other side but wont be around for a while. Will check back in on the other side and here soon.

Karmacat

I popped back on this evening, and am horrified at what one of our own is going through .... Fantasia, this is a big thread, there'll almost always be someone around right when you need them. You sound absolutely devastated, and I understand that from the inside, believe me. I understand what its like when someone attacks you like that, and the world opens up underneath you.

When its that bad, its survival, for tonight. And that can be as basic as remembering to breathe in and out. You have Leyla right now, yes? I guess you'll have to feed her. Can she "go" in the garden, or do you have to take her for a walk? Can you walk properly? That might sound a mad question, but its really not, there have been a few times in my life when my legs didn't hold me up because of emotional stress. But even when its that bad, you *can* get through, just the next bit, then the next bit. And you'll find out what to do next, you will, truly. MG has already found a local contact for you, there are serious offers of practical help on this thread, just do what you need to do.

With love to you.

clairewop

Clootie, I have had a look on the website but she's not on there yet.