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Willow92 wrote: »

How many of you lot have blogs? I've recently recovered the password to an old Blogger account and would like to follow some blogs

I have one although it's still in it's infancy and well isn't actually about anything in particular other than the ramblings of my day to day living

Fantasia - Hugs for you, you might feel in blahdom BUT I think you're already setting goals with Leyla AND giving up smoking. Might not sound like goals but they certainly were xxx As for your OH if he won't go to Thailand how would he feel if you went with a friend??

TMIF - Hope you're feeling better today.

Bitsy_Beans

Marru - re birthday cake......it wouldn't be a 3D one, that's waaaaaay beyond my capabilities but I could look into how feasible a design is. I can't make any promises but I'll have a look. When would you need it for? what is your budget as these types of cakes aren't as cheap as the ones in the shop due to cost of icing etc. Send me a PM with your answers

Dustykitten

Very successful trip to town

Went on my bike to help getting fitter and saving money
Took a few books into the oxfam bookstore and found one of DS1's A level lit texts for next year in there
Found a lovely new teal cardi to replace one of the items I bunged in the rag bag this morning
Found a shirt (in the sale) to replace the one DH retired last week
Socks in the sale to replace the ones ragbagged with DS3

Did buy a new travel rug, half price but lovely and waterproof backed for £5 to take to wales. Saw a lovely little cupboard in a charity shop which I was tempted by as a little restoration project. Trouble is there is nowhere in the house for it so I'm leaving it to see if it is still there tomorrow/saturday when I've thought it through.

Time for a cuppa now and a few bit of paperwork before the school run. DS3 has a friend home for tea so I think I'll do a bit in the front garden whilst they play in the back.

thriftyscotslass

fantasia322 wrote: »

Content is the word I would use (mostly). Happiness comes in fleeting phases I find. I have been depressed occasionally, but never in a dark place. As for the nicotine addiction, I will always be a 'smoker', but I'm a non-smoking smoker if that makes sense.
I am at peace with somethings, I am content with some things.
My other half is a plodder, lives totally in the moment, which is good. But I'd like to make plans about things occasionally, set goals occasionally, have something to work towards occasionally.
I want to go abroad (maybe Thailand) he doesnt.
Anything I've done, I've done alone. Like Leyla. I just wnet ahead and did it because I knew he would go with the flow.
And if he doesnt want to do something it isnt up for discussion, its frustrating, so I think if I want to change things, and it isnt up for discussion, then there is no room for compromise. Rock and a hard place.

I'd like to save for a holiday somewhere, I can now because I'm not wasting a fortune on cigarettes, so maybe I should just do it with a friend.

Content and in the moment is a good place to be. So without sending your life into an out of control roller-coaster ride, you'd like a bit more ooomph and va va voom and oh isn't playing.

Is there somewhere else abroad that oh would like to go to? What would he be like if you saved in secret and surprised him with a two week break away? (My friend did this for her oh as he would never agree to go anywhere, he had a ball - of course it could just as easily have gone the other way). Going with a friend sounds like a possible option. Or... you could be our very own Shirley Valentine .

Sending hugs and positive thoughts, Thriftyxxx


Eta: wtg Dustkitten, you've done loads

Willow92

I've just had a call back from The Princes Trust as I heard they do small grants for various things or so it says on the website. Turns out they just do low interest loans around where I live and I've got to go for a meeting next Wednesday to see if I can get one. It's in Rugeley so immediately I had negative voices in my head saying "I can't get there, I can't do it." Hm....I'm still in two minds whether to go to this meeting next Wednesday. There will be a small group of us which is immediately greeted by "YOU HATE TALKING TO STRANGERS! YOU CAN'T DO IT!" in my head... I am probably making a fuss about nothing but I'm really terrified.

tellmeitsfriday

Take your business plans, your ideas, your financial plans... they want to know that you want to do it and that it might succeed

If you come across as well as you do on here, you have no worries about meeting people. Tell the silly voices to bog off

Is there a train station at Rugeley (sorry, I don't even know where in the country that is :$!)

Willow92

So I need to get some plans done... Oh dear, I'd need lots of help with that!

Oh and probably not, I've heard it's a small town full of people who speak like farmers....that's what people at college said! Never been there in my life.

fantasia322

Willow92 wrote: »

So I need to get some plans done... Oh dear, I'd need lots of help with that!

Oh and probably not, I've heard it's a small town full of people who speak like farmers....that's what people at college said! Never been there in my life.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rugeley_Town_railway_station

Cheery_Daff

Ignore people from college willow and find out for yourself! I bet people in Rugeley say your town is full of people who speak like farmers and so what if it is? Can you really characterise everyone in the same town by the way they speak? No, complete nonsense of course, and you should treat it as such. There are, I believe, 2 train stations in Rugeley, so should be easy to get there.

Go to www.thetrainline.com and check out train times from where you're travelling from. It will give you prices to (sorry if you know this already!) Go in plenty of time!

Everyone else will probably be a bit scared too, and they'll be used to dealing with scared people, so don't worry! Or you could even ring them and tell them you're a bit scared, and ask for a private meeting? But you might not want to do that. Deep breaths!

As for plans - have a sit down and think. Have a look at their website - do they give examples of what they've funded, or what you should take? Call them back and ask what you should bring if you're not sure. Think about what you want to do (dog walking, pet sitting, or whatever), who you will want to do it for (local area, where you can get to, what you can offer), and also think about what you will need the money for (advertising? How much do you think you will need?)

Sounds to me (and apologies if I'm wrong) that this is a meeting for a chat about what you want to do, rather than an actual application and decision meeting. Which means they'll probably give you a fair bit of help and encouragement.

The Princes Trust are a fab organisation working with young people to get their ideas off the ground. I know people who've had dealings with them in the past. They'll be friendly and helpful, and are out to help you, so USE THEM! They won't be expecting you to go with a fully fledged business plan.

Yes, you're a bit scared, but it will be an opportunity to practice travelling by yourself, and doing something a bit scary by yourself, and you'll feel GREAT when you've done it, even if you end up without the loan. And the next time you go and do it, it won't be half so scary

So go woman!

Karmacat

Fantasia, "content" is a great place to be for your day to day life. Nobody expects (erm, should expect!) to be happy 24/7 - you're right, the form of happiness I was referring to is contentment.

However, I'm a bit confused by the two bits I bolded below... they look contradictory to me: your OH goes with the flow, but also won't discuss if he doesn't want to do something. Now I'm writing it, I can see they're not *quite* contradictory, but .... I dunno, it just looked like a clash at first.

fantasia322 wrote: »

Content is the word I would use (mostly). Happiness comes in fleeting phases I find. I have been depressed occasionally, but never in a dark place. As for the nicotine addiction, I will always be a 'smoker', but I'm a non-smoking smoker if that makes sense.
I am at peace with somethings, I am content with some things.
My other half is a plodder, lives totally in the moment, which is good. But I'd like to make plans about things occasionally, set goals occasionally, have something to work towards occasionally.
I want to go abroad (maybe Thailand) he doesnt.
Anything I've done, I've done alone. Like Leyla. I just wnet ahead and did it because I knew he would go with the flow.
And if he doesnt want to do something it isnt up for discussion, its frustrating.

Excellent post there above from Cheery! :j I should take some of that to heart myself.