Memorygirls - The Matrix Re-inspired

InaPickle

Memory_Girl wrote: »

So now I don't know what to call this "other" way of working? Portfolio career, still sound so "businessy", Patchwork - a little haphazard, Jigsaw has possibilites but may be more regarded as play rather than work.

So any suggestions very gratefully recieved from any wordsmiths out there.

MG

Surely - if looking at all aspects of the person's life is part of the solution not the problem, and to quote Sue 'To focus exclusively on one aspect of life without looking at the whole person is a formula for failure' - that the term to be used here is 'hollistic'?

fantasia322

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Exactly the point they have now reached - I think the biggest issue is that they simply had no idea of the day to day issues involved with kids etc - they are all to a man, married or in supportive realtionships that, well, support them to concentrate ONLY on business.

One guy has even employed a PA for his wife to assist HER in takig care of all the details so that he can build his business even quicker.

So now I don't know what to call this "other" way of working? Portfolio career, still sound so "businessy", Patchwork - a little haphazard, Jigsaw has possibilites but may be more regarded as play rather than work.

So any suggestions very gratefully recieved from any wordsmiths out there.

MG

This is easy, its quite simply "tapestry"
Planned but not set in stone, Evolving but only segmentally linked to defined, recognized strategies for business blah blah de blah.
You do what you do MG, but you do it your way because that is what works. Never mind the mentors, you arent 70p and 3 nappies anymore, you are so much more .........tapestried, if there is such a word.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7q-1OAbNXg&playnext=1&list=PLA93A8B0E025E626B

Triciaxx

I’m slinking out of lurkdom to put in a pennorth on the subject of the mentors. I’ve read most of the ‘Matrix’ threads over the last year and have been concerned at the effect on you and your health and well being of the speed with which you have been urged forward. A mentor is an advisor and you do not have to take advice if you have doubts about it.

With respect, I have found (from painful experience) that some people who set themselves up as mentors are actually on an ego trip with their own goals. I’m not suggesting this is the case here but I would urge you to analyse the advice they give in the same way that you would advice from anyone else.

You have abilities and experience which you should take pride in. You have motivated a lot of people on here to move forward and have acted as a focus point for many ideas which needed drawing together. You are well qualified to take your own decisions.

By all means go ahead with the programme but also seek other input, as has been suggested, this could well be from women.

Charles Handy is the most down to earth expert I have had the pleasure to read – and I read his early books in the late 1970s. His wife, Elizabeth, is his business partner and has co-authored 2 of his books and has (or maybe had – they are well in their 70s now) her own business as a photographer. I think that may have given him a more rounded view.

Please try not to label yourself or your career. To suggest that you have a ‘portfolio business’, a ‘patchwork business’ or whatever other label could be limiting. You may find one thing that makes your heart sing and can provide for your family. Equally, you may find that you change course several times. You may find that a variety of income streams works best while your children are young.

IT DOESN’T MATTER! I know you need to earn money and have been where you are, but in the greater scheme of things your quality of life is what matters and is what will be best for your children.

fantasia322

Absolutely agree with the above,
well said.

I fail with words sometimes, but there is always someone who is on or lurks on the Matrix who can eloquently express exactly what i was trying to say xx

thriftyscotslass

Those positive vibes must be working Fantasia - it's either that or the thought of a bottle of cider that will be mine in about 5 minutes when the last 3 teenagers have been collected :j:j:j.

Phew the energy of the young - they have shrieked non-stop for the past 4 hours - keep breathing Thrifty, it's almost finished :beer:.


Eta: I like the idea of your life being the creation of a mosaic, a work of art - now that speaks volumes :T

fantasia322

Oh God Thrifty lol
I have DSS1 aat the moment upstairs with a pretty little thing called Jessica (aged 20).
DSS1 is 18 (just).
Am telling OH its time for Jessica to go home, and DSS1 is ignoring me shouting.
TIme to send leyla upstairs methinks lol.
It worked they have both comedown stairs after being rounded up by a large Great Dane lol, Jessica's taxi is coming in 5,
So they are now sitting on the couch trying to make small talk about the X-box kinect. God help me.
Lol Jessica's taxi has been and gone and she told DSS1 she does not like dogs. Tough lol, apparently she is allergic to dog hair (after eing here since 3 this afternoon

Bitsy_Beans

Morning Matrix-ers.
Don't have much to add to the mentors debate than what's already been said
Too tired to think straight, restless night with DD. Not sure if she's got mild croup I have a cold myself, glands etc hurt. Ho hum life carries on.

Think I may have lost one of my courgettes I planted. I stupidly forgot to heel the soil after I'd planted them (used my hands) and the one it looking a bit poorly Got lots of savoy cabbage and broccoli to plant up as they are getting quite large. Spring onions not doing much, nor are the onion seeds I germinated same time as cabbage. Will have half the plot empty of things don't pick up. Treated myself to a lovely new pink galvanised watering can Rose feel apart on my plastic one and I've been struggle to water without it. At least this one the rose screws to the spout so children shouldn't be able to run off with it

Enjoy your Sunday everyone.

susan946

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Morning Matrix-ers.
Think I may have lost one of my courgettes I planted. I stupidly forgot to heel the soil after I'd planted them (used my hands) and the one it looking a bit poorly

Oooo Bitsy - courgettes like lots to drink - but not to drown, obviously. Try firming it gently and water little and often.

I'm always amazed, when I've raised plants from seeds, just how emotionally attached I become to each of them!! On dark evenings I can be found in the greenhouse, baby watering can in hand, crooning gently to them (please don't tell on me or someone is bound to want to have me committed!!)

I have melons ready to go into a grow bag in the greenhouse. I can't use them all so I'll have to go ask the neighbours if anyone would like a couple as I can't bear to throw any away!!!!

Sue

Firewalker

MG, the discussion seems to have moved to gardening but I have been thinking about your business and what to call it (how to define it). Pickle and Tricia have a good point - one of them by saying that you need to apply a holistic approach and the other by reminding us that naming things is (can be) restrictive.

It seems to me that you are talking about Lifestyle Design where 'life is your work', one does'n think about business or career but about skills, competences and flexible (and fluid) income generation. It may be worth having another look at Tim F. book; when one gets behind the American posturing it makes sense; and there is a movement called Lyfestyle Design around him (but the movement is bigger that him). I know, I know...young men again. But there is nothing that young men can do and women in their prime (with children and all) can't - it simply has to be done differently.

Hope your back is better.

Firewalker

Craftyscholar

Sort of feeling positive about yesterday
- stump of old fuchsia dug out, plus some rogue seedlings that I didn't spot till they appeared above the existing shrubs:mad:, so brown bin full for collection tomorrow
- some sewing done so progress made on that project

However I know perfectly well that I was also frog avoiding:o
So now going to start nibbling.