Memorygirls - The Matrix Re-inspired

tellmeitsfriday

I realise that - just that they like to keep it in the family...

Even Kate isn't a 'normal' "commoner" - she went to a £28k a year private school - very nice I reckon!!

I wonder if the RF are a net income generator or a net cost... when it's all added up... time to make them a bit more 'Swedish' as FW said

clairewop

I've been quite lucky and met a few of the royal family, first I met princess Ann, when I was taking part in a disabled horse riding weekend, she came to present us with rosettes for taking part, before she pinned the rossette on my blouse she asked if it was new, My answer was yes it was bought special for today, so she pinned the rossette onto my skirt so not to spoil my new blouse

Then I met Princess Di when I went on dreamflight with BA, My mum and dad were with my disabled sister behind the barrier and she insisted that my sister was moved in front of the barrier so she could see, mum explained she couldn't see anything, but Princess Di said didn't matter, asked why she wasn't going on the holiday, mum said she was too disabled, Princess Di said if she was allowed to go she would have looked after her.

Then on the way home from Dreamflight, Fergie pioleted her own helicopter to see us back.

troglodyte

OOh Claire haven't you been rubbing shoulders with royalty!

Enjoyed the wedding highlights here - and also amused to see that some people look good in almost anything, while others, even with the benefit of top designers and plenty of money, still manage to look terrible!

On the topic of cousin marriage, I was reading about jaw deformities a few days ago and was fascinated by the story of Carlos II of Spain He had a scarily narrow and intertwined family tree, and his death and the war that followed was the occasion on which John Churchill distinguished himself at the battle of Blenheim and was given the land on which he built Blemheim palace. History is interesting!

susan946

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Its only a few days before I start working with the Mentors again so I would also like to take some time to create a framework / set of groundrules for how we work together now.

They have been suprisingly good at accepting that the way were working before perhaps wasn't approporiate - I think a lot of earbending by a lot of wives has been going on, but the simple upshot is.

They have worked in the past solely with Guys - those guys were either single or married with wives / support networks in place and so didn't have to deal with all the "keeping the home together and being there for kids" stuff.

I am female, on my own and am responsible for everything - and as everyone knows "doing it all" and doing too much is a recipe for burnout - which does not benefit the kids, me or the mentors.

So I need to write a new set of rules of engagement - a new model of work for 2011, how you can do a little bit of everything and still kiss your kids whn they scrape a knee.

Should be, ahem!!! interesting this time around - because things that are of upmost importance to me - don't even feature in many of the mentors working model at all.

Mars and Venus - Eh???


TTFN


MG

This made me smileto begin with and then made me quite cross!!! Sounds like the mentors need mentoring on 'real life'. Being a single Mum throws this strongly into focus, but balance is essential for anyone. Nobody, but nobody, is an island. We all have a portfolio of commitments we have to honour - to ourselves and to others - families, friends, neighbours, the wider community.

Did they not establish, early in their work, what the boundaries were; how much time and energy could be made available for this project? To focus exclusively on one aspect of life without looking at the whole person is a formula for failure. Review, evaluation and modification of the process of change should, surely, be an integral part of the moderation process - not something that is undertaken only when someone is (and I'm searching for the right words here) at the point where they can't go on and their health is jeopardised.

NOW...........That may be quite a controversial view, however it's over to you lot to shoot me down now..........

Sun's shining here. Bluetits are feeding their babies in the garden. It looks a wonderful world out there. Have a good day

Sue

Memory_Girl

I'm up - ouchy!!! But a bit better. Not sure I will be able to get DS1 to his golf lesson today though - I really can't see my scrunching up to get in the car to drive him there. I do hope he is not too disappointed.

I had a dream they were doing a "Who Do You Think You Are?" on the Matrix Ladies - to find out who had Royal Connections. Groatie Queen obviously won hands down :rotfl:...................... but it is funny how Dream Logic lets you accept all sorts of stuff.:D

Apparently FW was very closely related to a Queen - only the "castle" she was supposed to inherit was the one from "Chitty Chitty Bang Bang" :rotfl: Talk about muddled metaphors, confused geography and barmy connections ................... I'm putting it down to the painkillers and a childhood spent terrified of the "Childcatcher"

All is sprouting here at MG Manor - My Plum tomatoes are through, my cherry toms are doubling their leaves and my Artics are pushing up too - best result of the day is that our Bok-Choi is ramping through. I swear there are 20 more sprouts than yesterday.

I know it sounds like we are really late sowing - but being further north we have held off as long as we can as there is no coldframe, no green house and only two windowsills to play with.

OK - brainwave.... called the pro shop and got them to swap his leeson for one on Monday which gives me another couple of days to get better ...................... and they have just transfered him - no charge :T. Who says Golf Clubs are stuffy, stick-to-the-rules environments

Now I will text his BF Mum and see if we can get him over there to play - which should cheer him up no end.

Trying to be positive here .............. because I am a little bored of this back TBH - but at least it is slowly geting better ............. and if I had been at the wedding yesterday I am sure I would now be suffering from a huge hangover - so there's another positive:p

MG

Memory_Girl

susan946 wrote: »

To focus exclusively on one aspect of life without looking at the whole person is a formula for failure. Review, evaluation and modification of the process of change should, surely, be an integral part of the moderation process - not something that is undertaken only when someone is (and I'm searching for the right words here) at the point where they can't go on and their health is jeopardised.


Sue

Exactly the point they have now reached - I think the biggest issue is that they simply had no idea of the day to day issues involved with kids etc - they are all to a man, married or in supportive realtionships that, well, support them to concentrate ONLY on business.

One guy has even employed a PA for his wife to assist HER in takig care of all the details so that he can build his business even quicker.

So now I don't know what to call this "other" way of working? Portfolio career, still sound so "businessy", Patchwork - a little haphazard, Jigsaw has possibilites but may be more regarded as play rather than work.

So any suggestions very gratefully recieved from any wordsmiths out there.

MG

Craftyscholar

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Exactly the point they have now reached - I think the biggest issue is that they simply had no idea of the day to day issues involved with kids etc - they are all to a man, married or in supportive realtionships that, well, support them to concentrate ONLY on business.

One guy has even employed a PA for his wife to assist HER in takig care of all the details so that he can build his business even quicker.

So now I don't know what to call this "other" way of working? Portfolio career, still sound so "businessy", Patchwork - a little haphazard, Jigsaw has possibilites but may be more regarded as play rather than work.

So any suggestions very gratefully recieved from any wordsmiths out there.

MG

It possibly says something about their ability to change that they have stuck around and are now willing to see which route you need to take.

Patchwork can be very regular and organised - in fact it usually is.

A jigsaw is also a tool that cuts pieces which need to fit together accurately.

TBH I see nothing wrong with portfolio career - your plans do include a need for an income stream - which is business - and you will have to organise your time so that everything has the time it needs - even if the plan only exists in your head and is adjustable - so a 'business-like' approach.

MrsMoo2U

susan946 wrote: »

This made me smileto begin with and then made me quite cross!!! Sounds like the mentors need mentoring on 'real life'. Being a single Mum throws this strongly into focus, but balance is essential for anyone. Nobody, but nobody, is an island. We all have a portfolio of commitments we have to honour - to ourselves and to others - families, friends, neighbours, the wider community.

Did they not establish, early in their work, what the boundaries were; how much time and energy could be made available for this project? To focus exclusively on one aspect of life without looking at the whole person is a formula for failure. Review, evaluation and modification of the process of change should, surely, be an integral part of the moderation process - not something that is undertaken only when someone is (and I'm searching for the right words here) at the point where they can't go on and their health is jeopardised.
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NOW...........That may be quite a controversial view, however it's over to you lot to shoot me down now..........

Sun's shining here. Bluetits are feeding their babies in the garden. It looks a wonderful world out there. Have a good day

Sue

Susan, what a great post. I had been mulling over MGs previous post because it bothered me too. I also couldnt think how to put it but I do think MG that the way in which you were mentored perhaps created the health issues to some extent. My understanding of Mentors is that they are there for you to ask for help and guidance, not for them to tell you how to do things. The more I read about your mentors the more I wondered if the balance was there for your particular circumstances. I do think that, whilst these mentors will be great on the getting organised and how to build a business front you are lacking in somebody who has been where you are and still built a business. Is there any way that you could find a mentor seperately from the group of men. How about taking a look at something like this or searching out a single mum in Scotland who is a business woman. Connecting with somebody who has been through what you are going through will be so empowering for you

Craftyscholar wrote: »

It possibly says something about their ability to change that they have stuck around and are now willing to see which route you need to take.

Patchwork can be very regular and organised - in fact it usually is.

A jigsaw is also a tool that cuts pieces which need to fit together accurately.

TBH I see nothing wrong with portfolio career - your plans do include a need for an income stream - which is business - and you will have to organise your time so that everything has the time it needs - even if the plan only exists in your head and is adjustable - so a 'business-like' approach.

I agree that patchwork NEEDS to be very organised. I don't know why you even have to label what you do. Why can't you say that you are a business woman? Most of what you are planning to do anyway all links together like a jigsaw so perhaps if you need to label it then the title of the business should cover all. I think Jigsaw is already taken though!

greenbee

cherisong wrote: »

Is there any way that you could find a mentor seperately from the group of men. How about taking a look at something like this or searching out a single mum in Scotland who is a business woman. Connecting with somebody who has been through what you are going through will be so empowering for you

Good thinking Cheri... I was thinking along the same lines:

http://www.womeninbusiness.co.uk/

Indidentally MG, I have a number of different mentors for different aspects of my life. As my current employer doesn't offer formal mentoring (they claim to provide it for new starters, but really that's just buddying), I still work with mentors I've had in the past. It really bugs my boss which is a good enough reason to do it really . I also use a lot of coaching for specific things (which reminds me... I have to send an email about some voice coaching...) although some of my colleagues don't realise they are coaching me, they just think I'm interested in them! (It's great working with people with such monumental egos... they tend to think its all about them :cool:).

As for the idea of a portfolio career... have you read Charles Handy 'The Elephant and the Flea' It's about 10 years old, but he was one of my favourite business management writers when I was doing management training. Back in 2000 he was talking about how the world of work was changing.

In fact... I might have a look and see what I can download as audio books for my next trip...

My attack on my study is going well. My work shelves, desk, filing cabinets etc are sorted, and I have done the worst of the filing. The pile left is receipts which I need to sort for work expenses (something fun to do tonight ) and I then need to empty/clean/sort the big bookcase. I'm alternating it with working in the garden - I've done all the easy planting, and now need to bung a few things in at the back, which will be hard work as I haven't touched the soil for a few years, and I haven't paid it any attention at all for the past year (since the hard landscaping was done... I've been working front to back...)

Dorastar

Agree with everything that's been said about the mentors - I used to joke with dh that in work life balance I did the work while he had a life! Maybe you should call it a 'balanced' approach - balanced in your favour and to your rules and needs rather then the mentors.

Glorious sunshine and very windy today so got third load in WM - ds soaked the bed last night so all his bedding including pillow(!) are already on line.

Am plodding through housey stuff and then onto workey stuff once icklies are in bed and I can focus. Plan to go to seaside tomorrow and meet up with friends who live there too so got to get stuff sorted before then.