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tellmeitsfriday

Bl!ddy Drs!

No offer of counselling or sick note? G!ts!!! I don't know if anyone else has mentioned it yet - but they pills take at least a month to have any positive effects, and you might even feel a little bit worse to start with (that's why you usually get offered a sick note too!). Persevere though - and maybe take up the OH counselling instead... but not much point doing that until the pills kick in (as you probably know).

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr. I don't think they realise how hard it is to tell someone how you are feeling when you're that low... ratbag Dr!

greenbee

((((crickett)))) hopefully the pills will work. I suspect the doctor may have been trying to see what reaction he got and possibly hoping to galvanise you into action. However, WE know you are addressing your health issues positively, and so do you. Remember too that exercise can help with depression, so persevere and you may solve both problems at the same time. Whenever the exercise is feeling tough, think of all those lovely endorphins running around making you happy!

I went for a walk before breakfast which was lovely... Only 2 miles, but it does get the day off to a much better start having some exercise and fresh air and seeing the wildlife out there.

(and helped me calm down after someone scheduled a short notice call in and then cancelled it at the last minute...:mad:)

So try to think positively. You've got the pills, so that's help with the depression, and you're helping yourself with the weight loss which will help with everything else...

Souk08

Oh no Crickett, thats not very supportive is it? Have a hug and one step at a time.

Thanks for all the positivity surrounding my job stuff. I know I'll get something, it's just the waiting and not knowing that narks me a bit.

FW, it's SOOOO on its way, for all of us.

Well had a carp work day yesterday and have had to change all my plans around for the weekend due to staff sickness, no ones fault just not great when work spills over into my life. Has all worked out grand though as I now have an extra day this week to spend with my sister and will see her and my parents today.

When I come back tomorrow night then thats the last I'll see of her for a year or two, depending on my work stuff and me being able to go out there next year. Its a strange situation as we are close and I do miss her, but shes really happy and sorted over there. Also I'm used to this being the way it is. As adults we have never really lived in the same country so we always have loads to talk about.

X

Cheery_Daff

(((((((Crickett)))))))) poor you! I expect he measured your height to work out your BMI (not entirely sure, but 'overweight' obviously means different things depending on how tall you are). Pah to him being insensitive though Some people just have no idea! Take those tablets, carry on as you are doing, keep exercising, and hopefuly you'll be feeling better soon. And don't be afraid to go back if necessary - and see a different doc if you'd rather! xx

EssexHebridean

Morning all. Crickett - I have been having an ongoing battle with my Drs over the weight thing. I'm on the contraceptive patch - have been for some years now, and when I was put on it originally I was slightly larger than I am now, and nothing was done about weighing me at that stage. About three years ago I needed an appointment on the quick for the refilled prescription (work had been hectic and actually getting off in time to be able to make and keep a Doctor's appointment was a nightmare until I eventually got to the stage where I *had* to get more patches right away)and had to see a different Doctor. What I wasn't told was that she was on her post-qualification placement - which apparently GP's have to do before they become "full" GP's. This meant that a) she'd not familiarised herself with my notes at all, and b) she was determined to do everything "by the book". It also meant that as she was unfamiliar with the patch she had to get another Doc in to oversee the prescription issue. They asked me to "just pop onto the scales please" to which my response was to stay firmly seated and say that actually, no thanks, as I "don't do scales". This flummoxed them a bit. They then told me that they couldn't issue me with the prescription unless I was weighed, to which I pointed out that it hadn't been a problem for the previous 4 - 5 years, and that the pair of jeans I was wearing that day were the same size and make as I had been wearing when I was originally prescribed it. This to-ing and fro-ing went on for some time until eventually they gave me one month supply of the patches and told me that I would need to come back in a month "prepared to be sensible about being weighed as everyone needed to know how much they weighed" - I asked why. That also flummoxed them a bit.....the eventual vague response was "to know whether you're healthy or not" - which I pointed out was nonsense - if I wanted to know whether I was overweight or not I have a perfectly good mirror, I'm under no illusion that I've a healthy BMI but I felt that being a bit overweight and comfortable with that was better than the yo-yo dieting which would without question, for me, follow a session on the scales. I wrote a letter of complaint to the practise manager demanding an apology (which I got) and that the Doctor's concerned were spoken with (which they apparently were). The senior of the two also tried to strong-arm me into choosing a different contraceptive - she was pushing me towards the injection first (had she read my notes she would have seen that I am severely needle-phobic), then the pill (my reason for being put on the patch in the first place was that I only have to remember that once a week - the likelihood of me remember a daily pill would be pretty much zero!) and then almost every other option. On doing some research later it became pretty obvious that her only interest was in getting me off the patch due to price - it's around twice the cost of the next highest priced option for the surgery!

The point I'm trying to make is that if you KNOW you're overweight, you CAN just refuse to be weighed at the surgery if that makes you more comfortable. Remember they can't actually force you to do things like being weighed, and a polite "no thanks" leaves them floundering as so few people enforce their rights on this. If you are happy weighing yourself at home, then next time do that before you go so you can then say "I weighed myself this morning and I'm XX lbs lighter than I was last time I was here - I know I'm still overweight but I am consciously making an effort to deal with this so I'd appreciate not being lectured on something which I can see for myself when I look in the mirror please"

I need a constructive day today as I have three full days paid work this week so have less time to get the "usual" stuff done here. Off now to collect Avon books I think.......

Have a good day all - will check back in later on!

Triciaxx

Marru wrote: »

Aaawww Fantasia - She has so much love in her.

Kitty cat coming tomorrow :j I need to dash to get her on my lunch break (and then leave early to see my shrink - boss won't be happy). Talking about my shrink. I am going to tell him that I don't want to go anymore. It makes absolutely no difference and organising going there is causing more stress. I think the cat will be more therapeutic.

Must dash....

Good for you. Kitty will be much more therapeutic and absolutely non-judgemental!

crickett1234 wrote: »

Morning all. At work following very early morning doctors appointment. Not sure who was more sleepy, him or me!!

I told him everything. He weghed me and measured my height (why?!) told me I was morbidly obese and had the BMI worth crying over (no sh*t sherlock. I hadn't worked that out myself. Sigh) and then gave me a questionnaire to fill out. I must have scored pretty high because he gave me a prescription right away of a medium strength anti-depressant and told me to come back in 6 weeks, or earlier if I was feeling ropey. So, now I feel like crap because he pointed out how obese I am, plus I am having a down day anyway. Oh well... at least I have the prescription. I will get it filled at lunch time and get on with it.

I shouldn't laugh but the idea of a doctor faced with a patient who is depressed, saying she is "morbidly obese and had the BMI worth crying over" sounds like something out of a sit-com! I was reminded of the old Stanley Holloway monologue.

I know it is hard to ignore such insensitivity but don't let it get to you any more than you have to. And do go back, preferably to a different doctor, if you don't see some quick improvement.

Off to Blubberhouses today to a smokehouse. Is that cryptic enough?

tellmeitsfriday

I was told by my doc that their computer would not allow a prescription to be issued for the Pill (and possibly other contraceptives) unless it had a BMI calculation in its records. He admitted it didn't matter what the BMI was, just that it had to be there!

I have heard that the patch is very expensive hence why they never ever offer it as an option!

When I was off with depression, my doc was so nice to me, and I had just assumed that was normal.. they shouldn't be doing the job if they don't know when to cut people a little slack and deal with the one thing they've come in about

clairewop

They don't weigh me when I have the pill injection, only take my blood pressure,

I'm off now, need to go to post office then cover Emma for an hour, then mum has an app at 2.20.

Cheery_Daff

Well said EH! :T

Bitsy_Beans

EH - I think I luf you well done for doing what you did.

crickett - some Drs have zero people skills, my GP is like that. shouldn't be in the if tharts the case IMO. Try and see his comments sliding off your teflon coated back, they are just words. You are working on your own plan on your road to being slimmer. Have a hug and I hope OH can offer you some better support xxxx

Tricia - yep thats cryptic enough for me :rotfl: I've no idea where you are going

Got truly awful headache which I woke up with so have struggled to do food shopping and now just plonked on sofa with DD. Can't see me getting much done until painkillers kick in and do their job. Hope I feel better in time for DS sports day. I need to feel well so I can turn into the highly competitive mother :rotfl: