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Fantasia, sorry to hear of your not so good time at the doctors, positive vibes for you x
EH, like the skirt idea too - that is most of my skirts at the moment so as soon as I can wear any of them without feeling squished round the middle I will be happy! Having said the other day that I was useless at diets and trying to make it work with exercise, I have actually been making an effort to eat more healthily.. it seems to go quite well during the day (today I have had salmon with salad and fruit for lunch) but quantities (and chocolate) still get a bit out of hand in the eveningsDebt@16.12.09 £10,362.38, now debt free as of 29.02.2012."I cannot make my days longer so I strive to make them better."0 -
Ok coming up for air now. Yes a manic day but just been put into perspective by a member of staff who rang me in floods of tears about something. Always somebody dealing with far worse than me.
Crickett, this is going to sound harsh and please forgive me if I offend, I mean this for the best. You have posted several times now about weighing yourself and have been given excellent advice and reasons why you might be weighing heavier whilst exercising. Please do take time to stop and think about all of this. You seem to be set on self sabotage by insisting on weighing yourself. EH has some good ideas there about the skirt/trousers. Now - is part of the weighing a part of a group that you are involved with (ie weightwatchers etc)? If so then do you HAVE to go every week? If you do then please put the scales away at home and concentrate only on the weekly group weigh in. After all they will have well calibrated scales and home scales are never as good. If you are going to succeed at that 119 lbs then now is the time for you to start THINKING differently too. You will never reach your goal whilst you are obsessing with weighing yourself all of the time.
Right off my hobby horse now. It was said with big hugs in mind too by the way.Some days there aren't any trumpets, just lots of dragons. Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow -- Mary Anne Radmacher0 -
(((Fantasia))) that's really horrible news, please look after yourself and try not to do what I did last week and google your illness too much as I really scared myself with what the current treatment for me would be and didn't particularly think of what might be. I made myself feel rather miserable and am trying not to focus on what might happen but on being the best I can from now on so that I can try and change the prediction. Your new exciting life starts now sweetie x
((Crickett)) I know what it's like to do the weighing thing and understand everyone's comments but having tried myself not to, I am slightly obsessively weighing myself each day, and am recording what I eat....not ideal, but try not to weigh yourself and don't beat yourself up. You're a very lovely person no matter what size is on your skirt label x0 -
Fantasia, great to see you posting but PAH to that diagnosis and a whole week of being ill. Now dont you go getting down on yourself here. You have stopped smoking and that might be why it is all coming out now. After all that YUK has to be flushed out somehow. I am sure that you will get back on the right track and that you can be treated. Be kind to yourself.
I was going to ask if somebody could stop the merry go round cos I want to get off. Having one of those days but reading everybody's woes on here puts it all back into perspective. Deep breaths I am going back in!!!1
Any one heard from Parsnip? Do we have an offshoot yet?
Cheri, I feel such a hypocrite now. I STOPPed smoking, past tense, and started again as I always do. I cannot lie, but the cycle has got to be broken somehow, diagnosis is a tentative one, I have to have it confirmed after the x-ray, but extensive spyrometry today isnt looking great. My focus now is to get rid of the fags totally, I have a great dane to take care of and a new job to to go back to.
Trying to knock the self pity gene out of my make up 1st is the goal of the day, and then to tackle the smoking thing, again.0 -
Crickett Why are you focusing on numbers? Why do you have to weight yourself, or measure yourself? Do your clothes not tell you that you're toning up and getting healthier? If you dread weighing yourself, and measuring is even worse, then why put yourself through the stress. Tell you what, I bet that in your wardrobe you have a pair of trousers or a skirt that is just a smidge tight in the waistband? Take it out of the wardrobe, safety pin a note to the front with a date a fortnight away written on it, then leave the garment hanging, and on that date try it on, having carried on with the exercise and healthier eating - I BET it will fit you by then, and you'll have a concrete proof then of the fact that your body shape is improving. Repeat with the next garment that is slightly too tight until you've achieved what you want to!
I focus on numbers because if I don't focus on something to see the weight/inches coming off I won't keep on track properly. I need to keep the focus on that big old number reducing because otherwise I will stray off into another world and I won't get to where I want/need to get to. The other reason for focussing on the weight is if I do manage to lose 5 stone then I can go back to the NHS and ask them for help to have a baby. If I don't then they won't treat me, won't help me, nowt. Unfortunately going into the consultant and saying "...I have lost 3 dress sizes and feel fantastic" won't help when they weigh me and say "you haven't lost enough weight; we aren't going to help you".
Having said that, I like the tight clothes idea... and will try that too.Crickett, this is going to sound harsh and please forgive me if I offend, I mean this for the best. You have posted several times now about weighing yourself and have been given excellent advice and reasons why you might be weighing heavier whilst exercising. Please do take time to stop and think about all of this. You seem to be set on self sabotage by insisting on weighing yourself. EH has some good ideas there about the skirt/trousers. Now - is part of the weighing a part of a group that you are involved with (ie weightwatchers etc)? If so then do you HAVE to go every week? If you do then please put the scales away at home and concentrate only on the weekly group weigh in. After all they will have well calibrated scales and home scales are never as good. If you are going to succeed at that 119 lbs then now is the time for you to start THINKING differently too. You will never reach your goal whilst you are obsessing with weighing yourself all of the time.
I know it seems I am intent on self sabotage, but really all the weighing is to STOP me self sabotaging, not to encourage it. I haven't weighed myself, got depressed and gone off to eat a pint of ice cream. Yet. I have weighed myself and got depressed! For me, that is serious progress! :rotfl:
I am not involved in any club or programme, because if I did that, I would lose the will to live. I have tried all of them anyway. And while they worked for a time, it did not last. So, seeing as freeing myself from this burden of excess weight cannot be beyond my wits, I am doing it all on my own.
Our bathroom scales have gone kaput, so I use the Wii Fit board as my scales instead. Yes, they are not accurate, but they are better than nothing. And like I have explained above, I need to have some way of measuring my success. And Weighing does feel like the lesser of two evils.
I am not obsessed. Really, I'm not. I weighed myself last Wednesday and yesterday and the Saturday weigh was mistaken curiosity after sweating buckets and doing lots and lots and lots of exercise. I wanted to see if there had been results. Clearly not the ones I wanted! I will not be doing that again!You're a very lovely person no matter what size is on your skirt label x
Thanks.That's a lovely thing to say!
Right... off to walk around town for a bit and then meet up with hubby for dinner and a concert. Looking forward to it."A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort"Herm Albright 1876-19440 -
Fantasia - fancy doing a deal? I'm tackling the need to lost a HUGE amount of weight as soon and as safely as possible, as quite frankly if I needed my op tomorrow, they wouldn't be able to do it as it would be dangerous and have a very limited chance of success, so I'll support you in the smoking if you give me a kick in the heiney if I post about eating chocolate/carp food....I will send good vibes anyway of course0
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Fantasia - fancy doing a deal? I'm tackling the need to lost a HUGE amount of weight as soon and as safely as possible, as quite frankly if I needed my op tomorrow, they wouldn't be able to do it as it would be dangerous and have a very limited chance of success, so I'll support you in the smoking if you give me a kick in the heiney if I post about eating chocolate/carp food....I will send good vibes anyway of course
That sounds like a plan, thank you;)0 -
Good Afternoon
Crickett- done be hard on yourself, muscle weighs heavier than fatyour doing well.
Fantastia- sorry to hear about your diagnosis.
Parsnip the tooth is better thankyou, hope baby parsnip appears soon
The bag will be finished after I have eaten my tea, got bling for it today.Boiler pot £30.92/£10000 -
We have been out in the Scottish Sunshine all day - in fact I am in the kitchen rustling up something lighter than the chick pea curry I had planned.
Only really popped in to see if we had a baby Parsnip - hugs to you love, bubs will be with you soon.
I never really made the connection with your weight and a baby Crickett - but I am off to find as many cute baby pictures as I can - I think you should create a Dream Board for your kitchen /screensaver / office drawer of what the REAL goal is.
Because its not to fit into that skirt is it? Because if it was you would already fit into it.
Its to hold a baby Cricket ball in your arms!!! And that is a goal I can completely 1000% relate to.:smileyhea
I ma having agreat time with my houseguests - but also a search to soul for the right goal kind of time too, so if I am out of line, just slap me but what I want most for you are teh kind of days I have just hd inthe sun with my boys.
Off to griddle some chicken and toss some salad (and make frozen yogurt just in case you think I had been possessed by the healthy eating fairy completely.):D
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Hey everybody hope you had a good afternoon. I've felt pants, so I predict an early night for me once DS has finally gone to bed :cool:
I don't wish to bring the thread down but not sure how many of you might have seen this thread in the Arms. I didn't know Hyder the OP but his thread was so inspiring and a timely reminder that life is far too short. Fantasia this bit is not soley directed at you BUT should your diagnosis be the Emphysema then you have the best motivation EVER to quit the fags. Yes they are a drug, it is an addiction but perhaps this is the Universe giving you the final boot up the 'arris to do the final push. I really don't want to be reading a thread like Hyder's about someone who I find so upbeat and inspiring xxxx
Crickett - your post reminds me of conversations had with my H. He's a numbers man, I am always telling him not to allow a piece of equipment make him feel badHe tells me it's all about the numbers so I can kinda see where you're coming from, along as you treat those numbers with kid gloves xxx
I have a gift for enraging people, but if I ever bore you it'll be with a knifeLouise Brooks
All will be well in the end. If it's not well, it's not the end.Be humble for you are made of earth. Be noble for you are made of stars0
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