how do other mums to little ones manage?

helen81_2

Hi,

I used to get alot more done around the house untill I discovered MSE :rolleyes:
Now I have to drag myself away from my PC! lol

Helen x

Aril

I think it comes down to the type of person you are and accepting that you are a good enough mother not superwoman. I worked 1-2 Sundays a month when my son was a toddler and my OH could look after him as I needed to be with adults. Likewise I couldn't do the toddler group thing...I tried it once and got cornered by a woman who thought I would enjoy a discussion of the ongoing saga of the contents of her son's nappy!!
I am quite houseproud and for myself personally [and it really only me I'm talking about] I actually get more stressed if the house isn't reasonably clean and tidy. However, I did accept that it couldn't be perfect [you don't have kids and pets if you want that]. We always had a large wooden trunk [with slats incase the small person decided to climb in it!!] where I could tidy away all his toys downstairs in the evening to make it back into an adult space. I had a routine of tackling regular housework jobs on certain days and I would always load the WM the night before so I could run it first thing. Ironing was done in the evenings. I'll freely admit that I'm simply not the sort of Mum to sit and play with my son for hours [I haven't the patience] but I always cooked with him, read him loads of books and took him on lots of walks. I also made sure that I had friends with children of a similar age who came round but with whom I had something in common other than just children. As my MIL says...whatever stage you're at at the moment it'll pass and she should know she's had 6! As many others have already said...it really does get easier and the time does pass incredibly quickly. They're hard work at this age but their approach to life and their innocence is amazing!
Aril

gerturdeanna

Reading this thread has made me feel very guilty that I should be a SAHM to my two children 3 and 16months.
But I don't and if I did I think I'd go mad!!I work Mon-Thurs 9-5 whilst they go to nursery. I do spend Fri-Sun with them and have quality time (I hope).
But I never seem to have a tidy house. I am married but ...well, blokes hey!!

cobbingstones

Hi all

I've subscribed to Flylady, and tried to reflect on my situation. I'm going to try and make this work. But like alot of fellow SAHMs have said the isolation and bordom is getting me down. My daughter is fab fun and I love her company, but my son (9mths) seems to winge and demand me from 6am onwards. I know it will stop one day. Prehaps cleaning the house is my way to do something for me, sad as it sounds!

3KIDSNOMONEY

Even if we take nothing else from this thread, we should all have some comfort in knowing that we are not the only ones in these sorts of situations, we are allowed to feel guilty, lonely, etc. 'the grass is always greener' comes to mind.

Maybe even take some comfort that the kids will look after us when we're old!

lil_me

Sending you hugs, I remember what it feels like to be overwhelmed. I've started getting a lot more organised now, my boys are 5 and 7 now, but I found when they were little routine was the most importnat thing. Unfortunately oldest only slept an average of 4-5 hours a day from the age of about 14 months.

Being a SAHM can feel isolated, lonely, and all those associated feelings, but you're not alone, always remember that, there are many of us SAHMs including on here. The rewards from being a parent full time are more rewarding than any job I have ever had.

Best of luck with it, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, hopefully the support you've had and will continue to have will be your guiding torch.

LJM

hi im a sahm and i love it being able to spend all my time with my babies is what i value most in life,i only have one at home now my other is in year 1 and i miss her all time she is at school,im not overprotective or anything i just enjoy them being in the home playing makes it feel alive.i tend to do my cleaning in fits and starts am getting a routine going now though,i get easily distracted if my little ones come up and ask me to play then i do.if there quite happy and content then i start rushing around trying to get as much done as poss,i do tend to do alot of my cleaning in the eves though i just prefer to do it that way

Sadierhianne

Have just been reading the post from the single mum - i had my second child as a single mum - relationship went pear shaped whilst i was pg - i found it loads easier to be a single mum, even with a newborn and a 6 year old, i was organised, tidy and spent loads of time with my children - it was after meeting my husband, taking on his child full time and then having my third child that really took it's toll. I am not sure why i was so efficient as a single parent but it all seemed loads easier - actually i am sure that if i didn't have my husband life would be much easier even with three children now. One of the kids has left home but i still have a three year old and i am hoping that when she starts school it will get easier although i doubt that i will reach that level of organisation that i yearn for.

I also find that the more unorganised i get, the less incentive i have to catch up on chores so it all gets to a stage where i can't cope = then i start to feel overwhelmed and low.

I do think that i will regret not spending more time with my children when they have grown up.

Miss_Money

right a new day and i thought id post to see how everyones doing. Hope everyones ok DD is back for another nap, think shes gong through a growth spurt! so im having an hour to myself!!

Miss_Cinnabon

Well im having a crap day, wrote about my woes on daily thread! cant be bothered writing it again:rotfl: i need to chill:rolleyes:

Kyle