how do other mums to little ones manage?

Mics_chick

Whoopee! :j I love this thread it's like I've come home!!!!
:beer: Cheers to all you lovely like-minded people!! :T Well done and keep it coming!!

Would love to me more motivated - always want to be more organised, want to cook more instead of takeaways, want to exercise more, do more activities with the kids, keep the house cleaner and tidier but I'm addicted to the goggle box in the corner - anyone successfully extracted bum from sofa and sorted themselves out?

I'm becoming addicted to MSE too! :eek:

boysmum3

As a mum of 3 boys (2 are at school) I know how frustating and hard it is to be at home. Don't get me wrong ds3 is fab but after 3 years of ds2 being at fulltime school to go from having time to work, socialise and do housework to being able to just about manage dinner on a good day......its been a struggle.

Guilt is part and parcel of being a mum - starts at conception!!! I constantly feel guilty about not having the time to give to them all.

Reading all the replies with interest, I am definately starting menu plans, and will use the slow cooker more often than once a fortnight!

As for toddler groups - hate them!!! They are the same now as they were nearly 12 years ago with ds1! Some of the conversations you hear amongst the mothers used to make me blush...lol!!!
However i would highly recommend seeing if there is a local indoor play area (wacky warehouse type thing) that run toddler sessions - mine does it is more expensive than a church hall type group but IMHO well worth it if you can stretch to it. Theres tons of space for children to run around and you can go on the slide too!

plzhelpmesave!

I've got a 4 year old, 2 year old and just had no. 3, and don;t know how i am doing it all! feel soooooooo tired and worked out the other day (or middle of the night!) that i haven't had a proper nights sleep for about 4 years!! Absolutely love my kids, but like everyone else feel guilty for not being the supermum that i thought i would be. I just expected things to fall into place the way i had them worked out iin my head and planned to do lots of activities and outings, which never happen. Instead, kids end up in front of the telly most of the time, which sets off the guilt again. Hoping things will get a lot easier when DS1 is in school next september, as only in pt nursery at the moment.

I do feel like a whinging mom at the moment as all i do is go on about how tired i am, how sick the kids have been, how nobody understands etc, but need to let it all out somewhere!

chewy62

:j Hi everyone! What a briiliant thread! I have 2 boys age 2 and 4 and am thinking of another but not sure when! I think that you always think that all the other Mummies are coping brilliantly, because nobody likes to show they're not. I'm not like that and always vent off and cry when things get on top of me.

I felt like this on Monday night, had a good cry to hubby, he then started washing up and doing the boys bath, and we actually went out for a meal last night!!!
I get sick of looking at the same four walls even though I go out quite a bit, and the more I'm in the house, the more I look round finding fault with everything, when the house is fine.(not mega clean or tidy, but as long as I can find the kettle!)
Anyway, keep the chins up folks, I think kids are more fun than hassle really!:T

cobbingstones

Hi all,

I started to meal plan but forgot most of the ingredients due to my daughter finding it great fun to play hide and seek in Tescos. DS now having a ball with waking again at 12am, 3am and up bright eyed at 5am. I've ODed on caffine and trying to mop up the water (cups of tea!) on the toilet floor and passage. Now discovered the shampoo all over the bathroom. Help! Sanity needed.
Hope you and your babes are having better days xx

Mermaid

Hi there,

I've got a 3yo and an 18mo, so I know where you're coming from! I've found that you have to persist at baby groups and maybe try a few if possible to find one where you gel with other people. One of my local ones has a lot of childminders attending it, and they do tend to be very cliquey, so I don't go there too often. I've found one run by my local church is the friendliest, even though I'm not a church goer.

The best way I've found to make new friends there is to ask other mums about their own children (a subject we all love to talk about!), this is an easy way to get to know them. Also get down and play with your children and encourage other children to play with them, this will draw the other childrens' mums in, and will get you talking to them too.

Befriend any newbies who turn up, one of my close friends I met because she was sitting at the group with the childminders all by herself looking lost, we found we'd got more in common there than with any of the others.

Try talking to other parents in the park, this is a fantastic place to meet other people.

Above all, look upon having children as a wonderful opportunity to have new experiences and meet new people.

Love,

Mermaid

Mermaid

Hi there,

I've got a 3yo and an 18mo, so I know where you're coming from! I've found that you have to persist at baby groups and maybe try a few if possible to find one where you gel with other people. One of my local ones has a lot of childminders attending it, and they do tend to be very cliquey, so I don't go there too often. I've found one run by my local church is the friendliest, even though I'm not a church goer.

The best way I've found to make new friends there is to ask other mums about their own children (a subject we all love to talk about!), this is an easy way to get to know them. Also get down and play with your children and encourage other children to play with them, this will draw the other childrens' mums in, and will get you talking to them too.

Befriend any newbies who turn up, one of my close friends I met because she was sitting at the group with the childminders all by herself looking lost, we found we'd got more in common there than with any of the others.

Try talking to other parents in the park, this is a fantastic place to meet other people.

Above all, look upon having children as a wonderful opportunity to have new experiences and meet new people.

Love,

Mermaid

boysmum3

plzhelpmesave! wrote:

I've got a 4 year old, 2 year old and just had no. 3, and don;t know how i am doing it all! feel soooooooo tired and worked out the other day (or middle of the night!) that i haven't had a proper nights sleep for about 4 years!! Absolutely love my kids, but like everyone else feel guilty for not being the supermum that i thought i would be. I just expected things to fall into place the way i had them worked out iin my head and planned to do lots of activities and outings, which never happen. Instead, kids end up in front of the telly most of the time, which sets off the guilt again. Hoping things will get a lot easier when DS1 is in school next september, as only in pt nursery at the moment.

I do feel like a whinging mom at the moment as all i do is go on about how tired i am, how sick the kids have been, how nobody understands etc, but need to let it all out somewhere!

If it makes you feel better I only have one 20 month old at home all day, 2 are at school and even though I've been doing this mummy thing for nearly 12 years and I still feel like I stumble through the day. I took my eye of the ball at bedtime yesterday - tidied some toys up just outside the room where ds3 was...turned round and had climbed onto table and was standing tall and proud...in sleepsuit feet....I still feel sick now!!!!
Also got a note in ds2's(age 9) bookbag from school today, he hasn't done the last 4 weeks worth of maths homework - I feel guilty as things have been so mad last few weeks (OH only home weekends and they turn into catch up time) I haven't been supervising homework as well as i should, just a quick look over his shoulder. So spent 2hours this evening with him trying not to shout at the 'I can't do it' whining! Got to go and see his teacher tomorrow and convince her I am not a terrible mother!!!
And its playstation in our house rather than telly but we all have something that gets used more than we are happy with!!
Just to finish me off tonight everyone moaned about,picked at or left the healthy nutritious tea I spent ages preparing!!!!!!!!!
Why can't they stay as 1month old babies - how easy is that bit (though you don't think so at the time!!!!!!!!

Mics_chick

Just thought I drop a line at first convenient moment today! :rotfl: (hysterical laughter!!!)

My parents dropped around unexpectedly and you couldn't see the lounge floor (but then they used to seeing it like that!) now successfully shovelled most of it into skip ready for tomorrow... :eek:

Time for bed I think

Mics_chick

Hi anyone still out there? Thought I'd raise this thread and see if everyone is OK...?

The 'routine' that I did have seems to have totally gone to pot - getting up really late - dd missed pre-school for a couple of days now :mad: (angry with myself) - some days kids only get 2 meals :eek: but they don't seem very interested in food anyway cos they've got a tummy bug.:eek: :eek: Better get to bed and try to get daughter to school tomorrow...

Drop a line if you feel like it MC