My home is a mess

bearcub

Hi FW! Shame about the caravan, but I can understand why it's a good idea to sell it. I'm gald you had good weather after a rainy start. It's been very muggy here today, with only the occasional sight of sun. About an hour ago, I had to draw the curtain partly across the window, because I couldn't see the computer screen. Now, it looks like this part of the Island has been cast adrift as a thick mist has rolled in from all directions. :eek: I'm fine, thanks.

Well done, Jps. Always make sure you have a bolt hole!

After throwing all my paper into the recycling bin, I suddenly realised that I no longer had the notes I needed for the new newsletter. Went through all the waste paper - no luck. Then found I'd separated the useful stuff, and put it on top of the printer. Ho hum!

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi everyone. Sorry, have just read the recent posts and none of it has gone in my brain! I am feeling sleepy and a bit headachy now but have had a productive day. Managed to hoover and dust the bedrooms, change all the sheets, do a mountain of other washing and clean the bathroom. Nothing downstairs has been touched but the kids helped with their bedrooms which I was really pleased about.

Will be back tomorrow when I will hopefully feel a bit less fuddled.

YL x

jpscloud

bearcub wrote: »

After throwing all my paper into the recycling bin, I suddenly realised that I no longer had the notes I needed for the new newsletter. Went through all the waste paper - no luck. Then found I'd separated the useful stuff, and put it on top of the printer. Ho hum!

Glad it turned up bearcub even if you did have to root through the recycling!

FW sorry to hear about your caravan too. It must be a big wrench to give it up.

Cat501

oldtractor I'm with you, I do believe that when things are really bad, and if you have quite a serious mental issue with hoarding, just getting rid of things as quickly - and with as little thought as possible - is important. I know it's not mse or green bearcub and it's obviously not what I would recommend in general :o

sorry about your caravan FW That's a real shame!!

Nothing to report, except some more of the never-ending dishes done. Had a nice healthy tea but I'm starving now - however, I've had reports of another cranefly in the kitchen, ever so kind of him to come and assist me in my diet!:rotfl:

hugs all, sleep well xxx

laurel7172

Sigh. Changing schools is an option I considered, but, horrible as it sounds, I honestly don't think anywhere else would have her at this point.

I don't want to say too much about the school and teachers, because I don't live in a big town and I'm sure I've said what it is...and if I said *how* I know personally which teachers are any good, I think we'd be identifiable, by the school at least.

However, one of her "real" subjects (back at you, Bearcub, re General Studies) has reportedly the best set of subject teachers in town (she did well in one paper, badly in the other), another is being re-marked because *everybody* did badly, and the other...in which she's getting consistent fails, well, I'm saying nothing. As it happens, I have a good A Level in that subject, albeit a quarter of a century old. I've offered to try to help before, but she wanted to do it on her own. Now, however...we're going to start a study group once she gets back to school, focusing on exam questions and practice (I may be out of date but I'm a fast learner, handy with a mark scheme, and, unfortunately, she cannot do any worse).

I think she's personally committed to the idea of university. I've practically begged her (not this week, I have more tact than that) to have some idea of a plan B (i.e. something that doesn't require ABB grades, whether it's a course with lower entry requirements or a job), but she says she'll just re-sit.

Anyway...drama over for now. All we can do is our best.

On a positive note, I got my new contract today I wanted the responsibility and the challenge and never even asked about the money. I'd heard rumours, and obviously hoped they were true, but I wasn't counting on it.

Wow. The highest rumour was too low, and I'm almost *doubling* my salary I won't be noticeably better off, because I was so badly paid before that I was heavily reliant on tax credits, but it feels so very, very, good.

And, my rather wonderful dad came over and did my tiling while I got on with scraping the walls (yes, still...I've lost three full days this week to my stay-up-all-night-vomity thing, another to A Level results and haven't been at my most efficient the rest of the time)...and it looks fantastic. Now all I need to do is make good the walls (plenty of work in that alone), redecorate and decide whether I'm painting the cabinet doors, redecorate the hall, stairs and landing and, and.....

(Of course, the sensible option would be to finish the kitchen and REST).

laurel7172

Cat-I got straight A's when only a handful of people did that a year. I went up to sixth form college exhausted and desperate for anonymity (twenty-odd schools feeding in meant twenty-odd people just like me, I hoped), but it turned out that I had the best grades ever in the history of the college...and everybody knew about it. I was clinically depressed within weeks, and dropped two grades below what I needed in one subject. It's actually one of my greatest regrets that I didn't have that paper re-marked. I'd never got a D in my life, *EVER*, and that included every practice paper and mock. But I'll never know.

Anyway, I did another course via clearing, but I met my ex H in my first year, and I doubt I would have hated myself enough to end up in an abusive marriage if I hadn't already felt such an abject failure. So there's a lot of baggage and a huge, possibly disproportionate, amount of fear (terror, actually) for my daughter's entire future wellbeing mixed up in this.

All together now...she is not me and is not doomed to make the same mistakes.

I'm glad your daughters have found courses that suit them, Cat xx

Cat501

Laurel, you're so right - there is a fear of them making the same mistakes we did, but mine are going to college which I never did, and your DD will do well in the end I'm sure - especially as she's committed to Uni as you say

I didn't even care THAT much about my D, it was in Maths and I knew it'd take a miracle for me to scrape a pass in that (especially as I did no studying for it!). It was the Bs which devastated me, I wasn't anything like the high flyer you were but in those three subjects I'd got the highest mark in my year at O Grade and Bs at Higher made me feel an abject failure - despite the best attempts of my parents to tell me otherwise. Of course there was (is!) something in my make up which made me react so badly, drop out of school and education entirely and get married too young to an unsuitable man, but those grades were the catalyst. At least you got through it and made a success of your life Laurel (((hugs))), maybe one day I'll be able to do the same xx

eta thanks for kind words about my DDs. OK it's not uni, but hey, I do not care, as long as they are happy and fulfilled I've been the worst possible role model to them so I'm very very pleased!

footymadgal

Morning all. Sorry I haven't been on here since the weekend. I must try and pop in a few times during the week to keep me motivated all week. From what I can recall I did some washing and ironing during the week. I also put a few things away that have been hanging around for a while. Other than that I've been at work all week and have come home, cooked the tea and washed up. I definitely need to do more during the week and not leave it all until the weekend.

Yesterday I bought a new shower curtain and so I'll be ironing it and before I put it up I'll give the bath a quick clean. I've also got yesterday's washing to iron. I've just put another half load into the wm.

I'm making a bran loaf today (I soaked the ingredients overnight) but not sure what else I'll be doing yet, although there are plenty of tasks to choose from!

Cat501

Morning messies. Up early as DD1 stayed at a friend's last night so I can come in the living room without waking her up and putting her in a mood:j

So far I've finished the dishes, but I have no other plans for the rest of the day - nothing appeals!:(

I'll have to wash DS's school stuff though.

Have a good day everyone xxx

jpscloud

laurel7172 wrote: »

Sigh. Now, however...we're going to start a study group once she gets back to school, focusing on exam questions and practice (I may be out of date but I'm a fast learner, handy with a mark scheme, and, unfortunately, she cannot do any worse).

That's the ticket - practising exam questions is just the absolute best way to improve grades if they do it with some effort. I'd also try to get hold of some A* answers to compare with as well.

laurel7172 wrote: »

On a positive note, I got my new contract today I wanted the responsibility and the challenge and never even asked about the money. I'd heard rumours, and obviously hoped they were true, but I wasn't counting on it.

Wow. The highest rumour was too low, and I'm almost *doubling* my salary I won't be noticeably better off, because I was so badly paid before that I was heavily reliant on tax credits, but it feels so very, very, good. ).

:j:j:j

Congrats laurel! That is wonderful news!

Re. the kitchen... I know exactly how you feel, I'm randomly picking up on different jobs as I go round the house, but know I should settle to one room and DO it. I'm attempting the box room clear-out and repainting today. :rotfl: