My home is a mess

Soworried

That is not pathetic bearcub, it is natural. My daughter is 15 now and we are so close, the thought of her moving out is awful already.

Can you not move with him faith if that happend? Try not to worry unless it happens. x

Yes I do realise that these two sentances make me a hypocrite.:D

sonastin

Phew, just about managed to catch up. So much going on that I can't respond to everything but I'm still chuckling at the cricket-fiasco, even if it seems like ages ago to the rest of you!

Holiday was OK - weather was fine but OH and I hit something of a rocky patch while we were away. Things are back on the level for now but I'm dreading the next time I need a holiday. He just isn't the stop&do-nothing type but sometimes I need to switch off. If I drag him away, he sulks and spoils it but he's also said he's not happy about me going on my own or with friends/family and leaving him. He can't have it both ways but thats going to be a battle for another day.

Visit from M-I-L went OK too. She arrived with her sister, they plonked themselves in front of the Olympics and promptly fell asleep on the sofa. Was well and truly a waste of 2 days of annual leave but at least my house was sparkling for 2 days. Well, apart from OH's clothes. I put them on the bed when I tidied the bedroom in the hope that he'd take the hint and sort them into laundry/put away but no. He just went to bed. At least he put the clothes back on the floor again - which is an improvement on just climbing in under the duvet. I have now learned that training him requires even more baby-ish baby steps than sorting out my mess!

But while the house is straight, I'm determined to keep on top of it. We're away for another weekend next weekend (doing his stuff so no moaning!) so I'm setting that as an achievable deadline - just gotta keep the place looking lovely for another week. If I can manage that then hopefully another week will follow. And maybe another. But we're just starting with one week atm.

Hope all are coming back on the right side of the various ailments, illnesses, bugs and bothers. Its tough when external factors grind us down but it is our choice how we react to them. Remember - stress is a response and therefore something that we can control, even if the stressful events aren't.

jpscloud

Emms hope your appt went well. Well done Soworried, I know about social anxieties myself and I am glad you're having positive experiences.

Isis sorry about the course, but hopefully it's onwards and upwards for you.

Faith the weather here is crap as well, only today it's teasing me with bursts of sunshine. Everything is still soaking wet though after it rained stair-rods earlier.

Well, ladies and gentlemen, I have cracked and invested in a Dri-Buddy. It's a big (for me) purchase, at £59.99 but I had £17 of nectar points that I'd been saving (I rack them up commuting in term time) so I used those to bring the price down.

I have been reluctant to put the washing machine on as I know I can't get things dry in this weather. The dri-buddy costs a bit to run, but it's much cheaper than a TD or having the gas heating on, which is my only other option.

I saved a very surprising amount just by turning off the hot water boiler recently, so in a way the dri-buddy was already paid for and although I'll have the heating on in the winter and dry things on the radiators as usual then, it's the wet summer/spring/autumn months when it will really pay off.

It also gives off a bit of heat (not to mention a nice clean linen smell), so if I have it in the same room with me, I think it will let me get away with leaving the heating off longer in the colder months as well.

I've got it on now, it's purring away behind me. It's basically a hat stand with a glorified hairdryer in a bin bag, but there's no way I would trust myself to build one without creating an enormous fire risk!

Cheese and biscuits (with Olympics) for tea tonight, and out with parents tomorrow.

Have a lovely evening, messies all.

Edit: welcome back Sonastin! Glad the holiday and family visits went ok! The cricket fiasco was hilarious (with hindsight) but I feel like a real pro cricket keeper now. They are chirping away happily in their faunarium, and I have even managed to take out and replenish the food bowl every two days without any mishaps.

The trick is to scare them a bit first, just enough to make them scuttle for cover (the well-prepared cricket wrangler has plenty of hiding places already provided for them in their habitat - something I got horribly wrong at the start!!) Then before they recover enough to come out and see what you're up to, you whip out the food bowl and replace the lid!

wilf55

well gd has taken an old vanity box home with most of the sylvanian furniture although i still have the house and hotel here! she has played all day with them

gs has just messed around with anything all day as he does and generally keeps himself occupied.

in the meantime have done nothing except washing i probably have 2 loads left but not sure if i will get them dry so will leave til tomorrow

have got a 2 draw filing cabinet and want to cover it with old beanos for ds so gonna have a look and see the best way to do it

by for now

jpscloud

wilf55 wrote: »

have got a 2 draw filing cabinet and want to cover it with old beanos for ds so gonna have a look and see the best way to do it

by for now

Have a look on the shabby chic thread Wilf, and maybe ask on there.... they're a nice bunch by the looks of it and I bet they'd have good ideas about the best way to do it.

Faith177

Yeah Bearcub he is a deputy manager atm (what they pay him though he might as well be slave labour )

Soworried I would love to be able to move but I have a mortgage and the house needs too much doing to it to rent. Plus my work is going really well & I'm getting on better than I have anywhere else. Also if I leave I might have to pay back my exam money which could be up to 2K Also I don't know how they would be with all my animals lol I was hoping it was rumours but just spoke to him and looks highly likely.

Sonastin wish my MIL would just fall asleep when I'm at hers. She doesn't like travelling so she never comes to our (which suits me down to the ground as she p's me off :beer:)

JPS that's what it's been doing here it was beautiful when I left work by the time I had gone shopping for dinner it was horried again.

YORKSHIRELASS

Emm - how did the physio go? Hope it helped.

Sorry to hear you and OH fell out on hols Sonastin. Sometimes being on holiday can actually be quite stressful as a couple - away from your normal routine, together a lot more than usual etc. Hope you sort it out.

Oooh and a Dri-Buddy JPS. I am jealous, I have always liked the look of those. We have been lucky to have good weather here this week so I have got lots of washing done and dried.

Faith, that sounds hard being away from your hubby like that. I would hate it but I do know of people whose husbands work away and they do make it work.

Well thanks for the encouraging kick up the pants everyone. I did get the hoovering done and finished the paperwork - which is a relief because I have been dithering about with it all week.

Going to visit my parents tomorrow with the dog. Fingers crossed it all goes well because I am hoping that I can leave the dog with my parents for a day next week and take the kids out. Much as I love this pooch I am seriously in need of a little dog free time and I think the kids would like a day out without him too!! We havent left him alone yet but we need to start thinking about it this weekend.

Soworried

:rotfl: I feel the same way about my mil faith.

Thankyou JPS, I am sorry you have suffered as well. I am ashamed to admit it but I had never had a sick day in over 10years, so I thought things like this were made up , then something bad happend to me.:(
I "thought" I was dealing with it, the same strong faced person I had always been. Then I started to struggle to sleep, having nightmares which I had never suffered from before.
Then I sort of became a zombie, it was April when I started to come out of it. I am getting stronger all the time and know what is happening around me 99% of the time now. I have been diagnosed as having PTSD, like war veterans.
I hope you are starting to heal. I would not wish this on my worst enemy and thanks be to god that I have a loving husband, children, family, friends and MSE to get me back to the woman I really am. :j

sonastin

Faith177 wrote: »

Sonastin wish my MIL would just fall asleep when I'm at hers. She doesn't like travelling so she never comes to our (which suits me down to the ground as she p's me off :beer:)

Soworried wrote: »

:rotfl: I feel the same way about my mil faith.

Lucky for me, OH feels that way about his own mother :rotfl: If he didn't stick with his dentist down in Hampshire, I don't think he'd ever see her. Means that I don't have to see her very often which works for me. This could very well have been her first and only visit to our house. He doesn't even want to invite her to our wedding! I keep telling him we should but its a struggle to give reasons why

bearcub

That's a very difficult situation, isn't it, Faith, balancing his job with yours? I'm so glad that DD2 gave up the work or, rather, it gave her up. She became ill (again), but all the experience she'd had in pubs and a large hotel got her the job she has now, so nothing was wasted. I hope you can both sort something out somehow.

Jps, I've never heard of a Dri -Buddy, but I do love your description - a purring hairdrier on a hatstand, in a bin bag! :rotfl:

Sonastin, I'm sorry you and your OH hit a bad patch while away. We often found we fell out with the DDs when were on holiday, until I lost my rag and told them how ungrateful they were. I suppose you can't really do that with your OH though, can you? Oh, hang on a mo - maybe you can!

YL, I can understand about the dog. Our elderly cat is always around us atm and, when she's not, she's yowling. I feel guilty when I get annoyed, as we won't have her much longer, but it would be so nice to have her not so 'there' all the time.

All washed towels dried in the sun and wind, kitchen and bathroom floors washed, card made for DD2 to send to her friends (although I have to post it to her, first!), and most paperpwork done for tomorrow.

Heard the fireworks going off at the Needles a little while ago. Forgot about their displays in August.