My home is a mess

Cat501

Soworried wrote: »

Sorry Cat, I did not mean to belittle it

And no apologising either! Be PROUD of what you achieve! Even if you're not, we all will be! x

Faith177

Well judgement day is here :eek: My mum arrives at about 6:30 tonight (i get home at 6)

House was still a bit of a mess when I left but OH has promised me he will work on it today as he has the day off. I'm really hoping he does otherwise I'll be up for murder by 6:01 :mad:

He got home about 4 yesterday and had not do 1 thing. His argument was that he doesn't often get evenings off. I understand this but what does he think I do all when I get an evening or weekend day off??

Anyway rant over lol Hope your all having more luck than me. I just need to get through tonight and then my mum and me go away for the weekend

Soworried

Try not to worry Faith. I am sure your Mum will only care that she gets to spend time with you.

Isis_Black

Oh so worried its a very hard journey but there is light at the end of that tunnel I promise you :-)
You just need to take things one day at a time
Forget about the big stuff, there's will be time to do that later, yes things will be a mess for a whole but your health comes above all that.
Once you are feeling better then you can begin to venture out a bit, to begin with baby steps out into that jungle of a garden (believe me my garden is the same, there is a weed as high ad the kids slide!!!! No joke lol)
And you can begin maybe with a little pot of flowers, or get a small shelved greenhouse and grow some seeds, it is amazing how relaxing potting plants can be :-)
Then you can when ready to ask others for a little bit of help, they will understand, either in helping you to tidy or see if they have any spare plants or bulbs to help in repairing your garden :-).

All will become good :-) xx

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi all

Oh I seem to have missed a lot! Welcome SoWorried and hugs from a fellow messy. I know I have said this before but a lot of us on here seem to have suffered with some kind of emotional problem - either in the past or still ongoing. Whether that makes us messy or whether our messy houses contribute to us being depressed I am not sure but you are amongst friends!

Sonastin that was a great post and full of good advice. Baby steps all the way.

I am struggling a bit with DS at the moment, he seems all over the place, full of beans one minute and down in the dumps the next. At the moment he is in bed and refusing to get up. No idea whether this is medical, psychological or both. We are at the hospital again tomorrow but he will tell them he is fine.

I think Cat will have gone now wont she? Hope she has a lovely holiday and glad that she has gone away feeling a bit more positive about stuff.

On the messiness front I managed a massive declutter and proper clean of the utility room yesterday. I can so much relate to SoWorried when she says about the garden because my utility room was making me really unhappy. OH just doesnt understand this. It looks so much better. Would look even nicer with a new floor, new units and worktops but thats not going to happen any time soon.

Ah well, off to try and persuade DS to get up bless him then get the hoover going again.

Gillybean103

Afternoon

The sun has decided to make an appearance after a night of rain.

OH is currently outside moving plant pots and making the garden more presentable. This morning I have cleaned the kitchen and put the DW on but I find it difficult to do things when he is on nights as he is asleep all morning and I hate making noise and waking him.

I am going to sort some washing out I think and get a load ready.

Pie and mash for tea, although for now I'm watching the tennis.

bearcub

Oh bless you and your DS, YL. Such a difficult situation, difficult to know what to say and do, I'm sure. <hugs>

I'm not going to get much done at all today, I know. Horses this morning, of course, and I've been continuing to type out the minutes from Sunday's meeting, but keep coming across bits that I've either fully written down, and can't remember the details. I'll have to contact someone and ask. This afternoon, I have to trundle over to the church, as someone's coming to give us a quote for painting the vestry, and I'm the only key holder available - I'm also the one who lives furthest away. When I get back, I just have to go and have a cuppa with Mum, as she's bored stiff not being able to do any gardening.

I've been our garden, and I was paddling, but I did tie up some plants that had fallen over with the weight of water. The sun's out now, though. :j

Soworried

I hope your hospital visit goes well for you and your son YL.

Well I was dressed by the 10am deadline I set and I have also done half of the dishes.

It is raining here so not been in the garden yet today. I will try to around dinner time.

bearcub

Soworried wrote: »

Well I was dressed by the 10am deadline I set and I have also done half of the dishes.

:T Well done, soworried. I know, when your head's not in the right place, it's SO much effort to care about anything, so it's a big thing you've accomplished. I can remember vaguely being aware that I was being really horrible to OH and DD1 (DD2 had already left home) by not caring, but I wasn't capable of doing anything about it.

Gillybean, your earlier comment about finding it difficult to get behind the steering wheel made me smile. I didn't bother after 7 months, as I found it so difficult to get OUT afterwards! Mind you, that was only for the first. When DD2 came along, DD1was at nursery school, and I had to drive her there, or she' never have got there in time!

We've just about got sun here, too, but it's now raining, too.

Gillybean103

OH said I should move the seat back back but I can't reach the pedals if I do that and I cant bend to move the seat back to make it easier to get out.

I'm only driving to midwife appointments now if OH is at work and I'm really not liking sitting in the car for long anyway