My home is a mess

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi all

Have just had a quick read through, seems to be quite a few of us on here with emotional problems and I wonder if thats because we all lead such flippin stressful lives nowadays - no wonder our houses are a mess. Hugs to those in need. I know my anxiety is always hovering the the background but I have learnt to keep it at arms length - well for most of the time anyway.

No housework done for two weeks so I woke up today ready to spring into battle. I have:

Been for an 8 mile bike ride
Cleaned the bathroom and washed the floor
Dusted and hoovered the bedrooms
Done 4 loads of washing, all dried and folded including our bedding
Cut the grass front and back
Sorted some paperwork but didnt manage to find a form I need to fill in for school

And now I feel absolutely shattered! In fact everyone else is out so I am going to finish tidying up the kitchen and go and hog the sofa and the telly for a while.

laurel7172

I should have been back at work today.

Unfortunately, as the last resort of a desperate workplace, we had consultants in so we can tell them how loved and valued we are. Note how convinced I am that honest answers are welcome. Every time I've been compelled to take part in one of these exercises, all it has forced me to do is spend the time meditating upon how unloved and unvalued I feel. Sometimes I've been lucky to make it to the car before the tears start. I've been dreading today all holiday, and was unsuccessfully fighting back the tears this morning....before I even left the house.

Then I saw sense, and called in sick. I suppose it's even true, in a way. If I'd gone to the GP in the state I was this morning I don't think I'd be back at work this month. As it is, I'll have my professional mask on tomorrow and I'll be fine. Denial is a wonderful thing...as long as they let me bloody have it.

But after all that, in the end I actually had a nice day, finishing the cross stitch picture for my mum. :T Only fifteen years in the making. Whew.

snookey

The sun was out today so no rain. Took dog for a walk ,put washing on and went to the shops with dad.
Laurel I dont blame you for taking the day off. Lets face it nobody is thanked for working themselves to death.
Yorkshire lass eight miles!, bloody hell that would kill me.
Fanny dont you dare rush to get a job until you have had a nice long rest.
AKL welcome to our pit.
Emm I dont think my nagging gets through to him so Ill snitch to the doctor,lol.
Off to the vets with the mutt in the morning for a check up so not sure if Ill do any housework when I get back.
Take care everyone and Emm have a nice week off.

Gillybean103

What a horrible day, it's rained all night and a bit chilly.

Having a cosy day, got the radio blaring, just checking on my usuals on here then going to do the ironing I didn't do yesterday and change the beds and Hoover up.

OH is now going to take the dogs out and I'll do the dishwasher while he is out.

I couldn't find any recipes Dor homemade muesli bars, has anyone got one?

kittywight

hello all, welcome to all newbies

today:
did errands around town
made ds packed lunch
took ds to school
wiped down counters
wiped down sink
wiped down cupboard doors
wiped down kitchen appliances
cleaned slowcooker
2 loads of washing on airers
folded clothes
load in washing machine
tidied bath
sorted ds bath toys
tidied livingroom
shake n vac'd hoovered livingroom
made ds bed
tidied ds soft toys


im so proud of my cleaning in the kitchen today
i put all my food on the counters into the cupboards and what didnt fit i arranged into small baskets i wiped down all the appliances and cupboards/work tops i cant even remember the last time i done this

i have the other half of the kitchen to go now, i cant do much in there at once as its so small and theres just no room, literally stand in my kitchen and just put your arms out and can touch each wall, yes its that small!!!! lol

anyways heres some after pics, too ashamed to do before pics

this is half the kitchen i cleaned


my little storage baskets




yeah i know theres still a brown mark there, i think its tea, it wont come off
know it doesnt look like much, but trust me, the before was like something off kim and aggie

anyways thats it for today

xxx

sonastin

Grrrrrrrrr - I've been quietly seething all morning. OH decided to get in my way at breakfast time this morning unpacking boxes of kitchen stuff because I've been taking too long over getting round to it. He unpacked all the stuff that came from his house but then took one look in a box that came from my house and said "you'll have to unpack that because it all looks like junk to me" :mad: I told him I'd do it tonight when I get home from work and I got a lecture about how "it must be done" and how I shouldn't do any more "messing around baking biscuits" until everything is in the cupboards which went on long enough to nearly make me late for work this morning. :mad::mad:

I've been fuming ever since and getting all hung up on the little things he could do quicker/sooner/better - work should be a distraction but I've got one of those mindless tasks on today that leaves plenty of obsessing time which isn't helping.

So I thought I'd have a little rant here to get it off my chest in the hope that I can calm down before I get home tonight. I think it's a fair bet that OH ain't getting any dinner before 10pm and its unlikely to be anything he wants to eat unless he gets off his backside and cooks it himself. After all, I'm not allowed to do any cooking now until I've unpacked EVERYTHING :rotfl:



-Laurel, I used to work at a place that was forever doing employee satisfaction stuff. One of my colleagues got to the point where, when asked "what is the best thing about working for ******?" he answered "employee satisfaction surveys" and to "what could ******* do to make working here better" he answered "more surveys". I don't think they understood the sarcasm!

-kitty, my temporary kitchen was about as big as what you've shown in your photos. Now I've moved into the shiny new lovely kitchen (which I'm not allowed to use any more ) I keep finding myself working on the same 2ft bit of work top. If we didn't have 2 houses worth of stuff to try to fit into the kitchen, I reckon I'd be quite happy just using the utility room (which is what the temp space is going to be turned into!). Actually, make that 3 kitchens worth of stuff- I spent a couple of years working away mon-fri so had 2 lots of everything myself and now that's being combined with OH's stuff too. I think freecycle/car boot/charity shop/e-bay/tip needs doing!

squeakysue

Afternoon all, I am trying to get back to routine today now kids went back to school and OH back to work, he makes more mess than kids grr!
So far today I have
Put pork joint in slow cooker for tea
Made breakfast for dd and ds
Made dd packed lunch (really need to get into the habit of doing this nite before!)
Walked kids to school
Done dishes
Tidied kitchen
Tidied living room
Put wash on
Taken dry washing upstairs
Folded and put away about 10 towels that were over banister/bath/radiator etc :eek:
Tidied ds room
Made beds
Put away ds washing
Emptied bins upstairs
Tidied bathroom
Hoovered landing and ds room
Cleaned bathroom (having a big bathroom not always a great thing lol)

Now I am sitting down with a cuppa before I put some washing away then pick up kids, ds has a friend for tea tonight so needed his room cleared. Quite happy with what I have got done today, hoping to get into a routine of 1 hrs cleaning/sorting/tidying per day to keep on top of things, I got on top of my ironing pile over the Easter hols and it was such a relief!

snookey

I dont know why but Iv been busy cleaning again. Iv;
washed the dishes,
four more loads of washing,
folded up a ton of clean washing,
deep cleaned the living room,
mopped floors,
Im now sitting drinking a coffee before putting the washing away and hanging some wet washing .
Ill tell you later if Iv done it.
Well done everyone on your cleaning.

Emm-in-a-pickle

Laurel - I don`t blame you one tiny bit, sounds like your day was far better spent! Hope your first day back today goes well.
Snookey...right now if I got 8 miles away from here on a bike I`d keep on going!
Kitty - well done - I thought you`d missed a bit, but it`s some muck on my monitor screen!
Sonastin, of course YOUR stuff is just junk and OH`s isn`t!! That just about sums it up here too, only it`s not OH, it`s DS. That`s his attitude, and just completely sums up most of the cause of mess & clutter here, and the Inertia thing is largely because it takes a big row to get him to move anything or even allow it to be moved, now. And I just don`t have the energy or the appetite for a big row. I just feel rather shat upon.

I have done something constructive though. Several years ago my old airing cupboard got turned into a `pantry`. Not very big, and it`s upstairs, but initially it saved a lot of space in my small kitchen. Well, yesterday I had a good clearout there, am very much ashamed by the amount of stuff I binned, but SO way out of date, tins looking dodgy, etc. I hate waste, but it had to go, and I`m not going to stockpile like that again...
I made space for a couple of large items from the kitchen that I seldom use (pressies, like electric wok, & curry station thingy) so the kitchen is a little less cluttered too. And the small chest freezer in the spare room is desperate for a sort-out, but I can`t get to it properly for boxes of DS`s junk...I did manage to liberate a leg of lamb from one corner of it, and now it`s defrosted and just gone in the oven for tonight. Had to go out this am on an errand that took me past Mr A`s, so nipped in to get a couple of bags of their frozen mashed potato (quid each, so not expensive laziness..) and I`m going to do microwaved swede, scoop out & mix it in, and steam some Arctic cabbage (from farm shop). So not much prep, and comfort food.
Also nipped into Mr T`s to use up a tenner`s worth of tokens about to expire, and got 2 bales of good white cotton towels- 2 facecloths, 2 50cmx90cm, 2 70cmx127cm. 2.99 each bale!!Have washed them and hung them to dry. Also waiting for our Log man, delivery due anytime now.
The food, towels, and logs should have the `normal` me quite delighted by now, but I still feel miserable. NOTHING but at least ONE sack of stuff for the skip will turns things around!

Gillybean103

Well I've done
Changed sheets
Cleaned en suite
Cleaned kitchen top to bottom
Made bread rolls
1 basket of ironing and put away

Plucked eyebrows
Face pack
Painted nails

Now having a catch up on tv with the dogs cuddled up with me