My home is a mess

snookey

Adela dont you dare go anywhere else. We are really supportive of each other on here . Nobody is a perfect parent . I sometimes think Id have been better off just having animals,lol.
Iv given the downstairs a good scrub today. We had dog and cat paw prints all through the downstairs, It took lots of bucket fulls of water to get it clean.
My dad is a bit better now staying with me and going for tests on his blood weekly.
Dog is as mad as ever. Iv ust got back from giving him his 4th walk and he is still hyper. Chewing an empty bottle of lemonade.
Iv had a go at all the family on their lack of help in the house of late. Iv put a rota on the fridge and given the kids a list of things they must do ie change bed,bring dirty clothing down.
Im glad to see people being busy it gives me a kick to keep plugging away.
Take care everyone.

Buffythedebtslayer

The weekend has not worked ANY magic.

I have gone out twice and to be honest I felt sad on both nights. One night - my friend is in a very loved up relationship - If there is anyone who deserves it it is her.

And then tonight I went to dinner with two couples. I am SO single and so sad about it. and it has been couple and baby city everywhere.

I know the grass is always greener and I know there are couple people who are envious of my perceived freedom as a single person but today and recently all I can see is loneliness. I am old I on the shelf and its a mess!


so there.

Have a good Sunday folks xx

rosalie-lavender

Sorry you are sad Buffy. It is true though, the grass isn't always greener. I've been married nearly 22 years and I feel sad because my DH couldn't show less interest in me if he tried. I feel like a glorified housekeeper. Tbh I am and always will be second best to his mum.

Lets hope we both start to feel better later. It looks like it might be a sunny day here anyway.

sonastin

laurel7172 wrote: »

Have washing line poles...at last!!!!!!!!

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Me too! :beer:
Well, rotary clothes line anyway. Did 2 loads of washing yesterday to try it out... then had nowhere to put it all when I had to bring it in once the showers started . Still, its back out there today and hopefully should be dry by now.

Have to be careful when hanging out though - clothes line is in the centre of a muddy circle at the moment so lots of pegs needed and must make sure that I don't throw stuff everywhere as I pull it out of the basket :rotfl:

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I know the grass is always greener and I know there are couple people who are envious of my perceived freedom as a single person but today and recently all I can see is loneliness. I am old I on the shelf and its a mess!

Is it wrong that I have been with OH for nearly 3 years now and yet I still totally identify with this feeling? I think it was because I was single for so long that it is still more familiar than being in a couple.

The thing that got me through, particularly when I was with those couples who couldn't comprehend why I would be single at my age, was thinking back over the opportunities I'd had to be coupled up - you know all those failed dates and could-have-beens. In all honesty, I was much happier on my own than I ever would have been if I'd settled for one of them. And if OH disappeared out of my life tomorrow, I'd be much happier on my own again than I would replacing him for the sake of being in a couple.

The right person will come along at some point. Just keep doing the things you enjoy doing and maximise your chances of meeting new people - go to the parties with the couples in case there's someone else there you've never met. Enjoy the parties for the sake of the parties, don't mourn the fact that your soulmate isn't there. And if it turns out you never meet the right person, at least you'll have had fun looking. But I'd put money on it happening at some point. It usually does.

bearcub

Afternoon messies.

HUGS to all those who are lonely, whether or not in a relationship.

I think DD2 feels a bit that way atm, because her OH just isn't himself atm, but I'm hopeful that he'll realise just why he feels as he does, and will seek help. Men don't like seeing doctors, do they?

Despite it pouring just a 10 minute walk away from home, we've had lots of sun, and a fair amount of black cloud, but no rain! :T Managed to get some almost dry washing out to air. Vacuumed yesterday, as Mum's coming over for dinner tonight, and I must have a quick whizz around with the duster. Got to find a home for some bits that OH kept for me, in case I'd like them for the family history. M iL passed away in summer 2010 and, while I was out on Wednesday, OH shredded all her paperwork that's been sitting in a small case in the garage. Must have been difficult for him, but he's not said a word, bless him.

jokeyjo

well 3 bags of rubbish gone to the tip hamsters cage gone and tried to tidy round but it still looks as bad and now kids are moaning about taking their stuff back upstairs well its tough if its not moved to bedrooms when i come home tonight its for the bin

Emm-in-a-pickle

Hi all, sorry I`ve been MIA, hectic days work & home. Hugs to all, but -especially -
Adela. Well, I`m having to post in a rush but can put off no longer. Read bits, and your posts are just AMAZING. With all you`re coping with, you still have what it takes to make cake with your kids, and find the strength to try to post a cheerful and hopeful word here. I think you`re a BRILLIANT Mum, reading the lines and between the lines - and don`t you ever think of not posting when you need to let off steam or have a moan here. I`m sure I speak for others too, but you have my great respect and many of us can share empathy here, moral support, and ((HUGS)) - I`m proud to think of you as a friend, and what else are friends for if not to share a moan and support each other?
Hugs(()) to all Messies, will post again soon when & if I get another moment to myself!

Adela31

This has been a magic weekend of sorts, I went to help out with the school garden (I dont have one of my own) but the rain absolutely pelted down. And you know, two hours in the pelting rain (we all had good rain jackets on) digging over a plot, I havent felt happier in a long time. And normally have trouble sleeping, nightmares and the like (and this was before Mrs Woman got involved with me) and instead my dreams were of wheelbarrows and compost.

Then me and thing one and two (after going home and totally getting changed haha) went to get Granny from the tube, oh yes, the clan are assembling... the highlanders will be having a quickening on this flat...

AND I GOT A NEW SOFA! An ikea one, nice washable covers that are all stripey

kittywight

hey everyone

today i have:
tidied livingroom
hoovered living room
2 loads of washing
put washing on line outside
done dishes
sorted rubbish


glad ive done something

ive also been food shopping and been to the beach

hope everyones well

laurel7172

Weedproof fabric down, gravel laid. The tonne wasn't quite enough-still need a bit more...but we're nearly there.

On the very long term projects list, I've put five items from the garage :eek: into the dustbin. Have to start somewhere...:o