My home is a mess

Adela31

OH has absolutely nothing to say... really, not even mentioned it after the terribly nice lady left! I am dreading what he would say really, it would be all my fault somehow lol. Still the chocolate fudge cake we made was awesome, better not eat the whole lot cus I am depressed!!!

Found a website for supporting people who are in my position, so I can stop bothering you lot, just dont have anyone else to talk to. Dunno why, maybe I smell, but I dont have friends.

Buffythedebtslayer

Blimey Adela that sucks hugely. I wonder if they have done it as a way for you to get support? bloody horrible tho. Hope you are ok and not massively worried?xx

thanks for the hugs.

As another "magic" weekend is approaching I guess I should cheer up at some point but too tired.

hang in there folks.

xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

We cross posted Adela, please don't feel like you don't have friends, as long as MSE is going you have loads of friends - my virtual friends have been my absolute rock over the last few years

keep posting or I will worry about you xxxx

kittywight

hugs adela, if you ever need a friend im here

hugs for buffy and everyone else who needs them.

Ive done a bit of cleaning today... dont ask me how, im practically crippled (yes! im moaning again, im sorry :cool:) ive messed my foot up, no idea whats wrong with it, i do have arthritus, so im hoping its just siezed and is gonna stop soon. meant to be going to the pub saturday, no way am i going to be able to wear heels ... i can barely walk in trainers...

ive managed to get a lot done today, despite not being able to stand

2 loads of washing
put one load of washing outside on the line (first washing on the line this year :T)
put dishes away
done a load of dishes (got more to do but have run outta liquid)
washed the cats bowls (urgh minging, they had curdled milk in them )
sorted rubbish
tidied livingroom
hoovered livingroom
put scented candles on around house
made ds bed, changed bedding and aranged soft toys
sprayed bath and toilet (run outta bleach as well)
been shopping around town to get a few bits
made packed lunch
took ds to school


and now im sitting down ...................... bloody foots killing
gonna sit on my bum and catch up with the sky planner with a nice cuppa:o

xx

sonastin

Adela - don't think of it as "children at risk"; think of it as a "family at risk" register. You are coping admirably well with what you have available but the cramped conditions are bad for all of you. It just that the SWs can only justify helping the kids or they'd be stuck looking after all sorts of folks who can't cope as well as you're doing. They will need to put the kids on the register to set the wheels in motion for getting you some help but remember that time runs so slowly in local government that to the rest of us it looks like its going backwards. And some SWs appear to be born with a superscillious attitude that comes across like a slap in the face when you're almost at your wits end anyway. But it is rarely personal against you, rarely as judgemental as it comes across and usually a very good disguise for someone who desperately wants to help but is completely out of their depth. Usually there is a very good support system behind the scenes propping these muppets up so that they can get on with giving you the support you need. Its just that they aren't very good at letting you know that the support is there.

Adela31

I also wonder, I work with disabled kids, does this mean I will have to lose my job anyway? hmmm

Anyway i wont stop posting, I''ll just stop moaning as much! Doesnt get you anywhere, thats for sure!

bearcub

Afternoon messies.

Missed all yesterday's posts, as I was with dd1 for the day. Huge hugs to Adela, Buffy, and Kitty, too. :grouphug: Depression makes everything seem bad and, when things really are bad, it's hard to cope, I know. It would be such a shame to give up your job, Adela, but our governement wants to encourage people to work. Hang on if you can, because it'll probably help your self-esteem. You really don't want anymore knocks.

Well done with the de-messing, kitty, but make sure you rest your foot, with it raised, as much as possible.

Jps, yes, only a week :rotfl: but I had mum over here. I usually clear up a bit before she comes.

Now have my new car. It came with a small suitcase of cleaning products. Maybe I'll keep the car cleaner than the house? Yeh, right!

jpscloud

bearcub wrote: »

Jps, yes, only a week :rotfl: but I had mum over here. I usually clear up a bit before she comes.

Ahhh me too. Mum doesn't judge or anything but I hate to have her visit knee deep in carp!

bearcub wrote: »

Now have my new car. It came with a small suitcase of cleaning products. Maybe I'll keep the car cleaner than the house? Yeh, right!

Ooooh.... my "new" car was clean for a few months until I got too tired and run down to keep it that way...

Adela, you moan all you like. We all do! It's lovely to have you on the thread, and we all need a good moan sometimes.

laurel7172

I once dated a man who found the state of my car distressing. As the weeks went by, the comments became ever more anguished. He even bought me a sponge and shampoo. I offered to let HIM use them if it was bothering him so much, because by now I was making the point that it was MY car and none of his business.

Basic incompatibility there. Having escaped one abusive relationship, I am not going to put up with a man telling me I'm not good enough ever again. Love me as I am...or b*gger off

bearcub

Good for you, Laurel! :T

If you could see the state of OH's car. We have horses, horses mean mud and mess, and I think most of it is in his car. He hasn't washed the car for 6 months or so, but I don't think he's cleaned the inside since he bought it 2 years ago. It's quite disgusting, and we could probably grow veg in it now if we added water.