My home is a mess

Shashwoo

I really admire you all... I don't know how you manage it.

I mean our home isn't a pooptip or anything but it needs a good digging out.

A bit of back ground for you...

Me and my H2B in a 3 bedroom house, we have H2B's son over on a weekend.
We both work for the same company so are out the house 7:20am-5:20pm when we get in I make the tea and he does the washing up from the previous night.

Because we are worknig all day by the time we've had tea it's usually aproching or past 7pm and neither of us can be bothered to do any housework.

I do try to put a load in the washer and then put into the dryer however of a morning whilst trying to rush about getting ready I tend to take the stuff out the dryer and put it on the bed and then it ends up on the floor on the night when we go to bed

I am not proud of this and know we should do more but I just don't have the energy.
I see a lot of people on here post after midnight and then get up and get the kids ready for school, do a school run etc, where does all your energy come from?

Our house is tidy and hoovered etc but needs more I have little drawers full of carp everywhere

I hope you don't mind me shoving in like this

helen_jelly

Shashwoo - Hi and welcome, grab a cuppa and join in. Once you have had kids and gone through the endless sleepless nights with them you never sleep properly again!!! For my part I have days whre I have waaayyy tooo much energy and run round doing lots but those days are followed by complete waste of days where I do zilch!!!

CAT - FWIW I think you have done exactly the right thing with DS and his Dad. My Ex is a drinker and I wish I had been very strong at the start of our split up and denied him access to the kids as he is a complete waste of space and is either letting them down or he plays with their little heads. DS [9] can see him for what he is but DD [11] adores the ground he walks on although little by little she is starting to see him for what he is - a !!!!!!!!!

Been shopping - we now have food lol and loo roll

I can't decide whether to go for a hot bath with a book or a visit to the Lottie - someone tell me!!

Going to investigate train prices

Helen x

ETA MK to Sheff = £65 single or £67 return

Catslovelycats

Shashwoo, you're not shoving in at all! I know what you mean about being tired after a whole day at work etc. I don't see the decluttering as being something I have to do every day - because I can't possibly. It's a case of what I can when I can. And if I'm not in the mood or too tired or something, I am not going to beat myself up about it. (Easier said than done maybe).

And to whoever mentioned the garage: :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:
I have to step over stuff in mine to be able to get to the hay for the guinea pigs. I almost think I need a skip job for there. Needless to say, the garage is bottom of my list and I'm in semi denial by just ignoring it. The garage and my filing cabinet are my 2 decluttering phobias :rotfl::rotfl::o

Cat501

welcome shashwoo! sounds like you do really well to me!!

Helen, I think the cheapest way for me to do it is to get the megabus to Manchester then a train to Sheffield, though I'll keep investigating

Also yes, the messing with the heads thing - I know he would have done that too. Manipulative and a compulsive liar back in the day!

Well, collected the washing and put another load on, and finally remembered to buy a courgette:D Shall stay here till 4 then get moving again:D

Shashwoo

Awh thanks all for the lovely replies

I think I will just have to alot a little time for everything like Monday, hoovering - Tuesday, Bathroom Etc
My H2B takes care of the kitchen so I don't have to bother about that. I think it's more a case of the things like washing floors, wiping down the staircase, woodwork, skirting boards, clearing out clutter draws sorting through clothes. but i'm sure I'll sort it.

I am also trying to plan the worlds cheapest wedding in less than 6 months so that is taking up quite a lot of time too.

I think you are all super heroes in disguise hahaha :rotfl::T

Cat501

ah, I think I vaguely remember that long-ago day when I cleaned the skirting boards.....:think:...or maybe I dreamt it

I'm no superhero shash, far from it:rotfl:Fru and Helen have seen the evidence:rotfl:

And could I borrow your H2B to do my kitchen please?:D

helen_jelly

Skirting boards - what and where are they - never bother with them meself, honestly. Got far better things to do hehe - like chat on here [my downfall]

Cat - manipulative and complulsive liar go hand in hand with drink driven people [see I can be nice]

Gotta go now but back later

Helen x

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Shashwhoo It sounds like you are doing ok. Have you thought about batch cooking. I find this helps us, when i CBA or have little time to cook. I have ready cooked chicken, stew and mince in the freezer, i usually have a bag of ready made salad and tinned potatoes (we normally use instant mash to be honest). You can just take out something b4 you go to work and bung in microwave when you get in, saves on washing up too. I set myself a job like chest of drawers and just do that, if a whole set is 2 much, just do one or even 2 drawers, or take the clothes downstairs and do in front of telly. Its amazing how little steps pile up. Anyhow, like i said u sound like your doing great.

Cat & Helen omg, i don't think u 2 will last out till August (lol), H meant to say well done on your daughter, wish mine was so studious, and yes they get too much homework, too much student debt only to end up with no job (hopefully not), phew, breathe.

laurel7172

I can't stop crying.

We had some bloody HR consultant at work this afternoon. Just to tell us how loved and appreciated we are.

But I don't feel I am. I mean, I REALLY don't feel I am in any way that matters. (Apparently, I'm fabulous, hardworking and my year group don't know what they'd do without me...as long as I know my place). A lot of stuff has gone on, but I think the last straw was that my teacher was off last week, the school is completely cash-strapped, but they'd rather pay for some semi-useless stranger whose input had to be re-taught than let me lead. (Oh, we know you'd be really good at it, but we can't set a precedent). I can tick along most of the time while looking for somewhere or something else, but to have a whole hour of false supportiveness shoved down my throat has finished me off. I don't want to go to work tomorrow. I've been fighting back tears all afternoon, and now I'm scared I won't be able to stop them tomorrow. But I've been trying to get another job, and it feels like nobody will ever have me.

I think you could say the self-pity dial is set to high.

fannyadams

laurel7172 wrote: »

Our student hasn't been anywhere near as bad-mannered as last year's, but still wants nothing at all to do with us, to the extent of simply walking off upstairs without a word as soon as he comes in through the door. Only wants to spend time with his friends-actively rebuffs son's offers of companionship. Yesterday I offered a local festival, Kenilworth, Stonehenge or even London, but he wasn't interested. Just wanted to meet up with his mates in town. And I think I might have realised, belatedly, why he and his friend have been sitting upstairs under the duvet with their coats on and the window open...yes, I am a bit thick about these things(!) Actually, after a night's airing we're not *quite* sure enough whether it's cigarettes or just *really strong* musky boy-smell...but you get my drift.
Hell, he's just being a 17 year old. But my son was reluctant to host again this year (last year's lad was from a phenomenally rich family, and made no secret of his opinion that he'd been sent to live in a hovel.) and has already said he doesn't want to do it next year. Neither do I, but the school is always short of hosts and I'm afraid I'm terminally helpful. I need a bit more backbone, I think. But it's embarrassing to admit that I couldn't make it work, and after two fairly grim exchanges, I'm starting to wonder whether it's me It's clear these private school boys arrive without manners, but maybe they feel entitled to behave like this because there's no man in the house? Or am I not assertive enough? *MY* teenagers wouldn't get away with that behaviour, lol.

OMG! :eek:
I have bad enough memories of the one time my family hosted a french exchange student. he stole stuff from my brother, he wouldn't eat any of the food my mum made (his mum had packed loads of sweets, crisps and biscuits in his bag I'm amazed he had any room for clothes) and frankly my parents were relieved to see the back of him.
That said, ours arrives on Wednesday 1st February and leaves the wednesday after and I can see that they have a fairly good itinerary for during the day, and we're quite active during the evenings.
School have just called to tell me that NO the student can't be transported to school in the sidecar, (HWTHMBO takes DS#1 to school on motorcycle/in M/c & Side car on his way to work). So now I guess I'll have to drive them (plus DS#2) to DS#1 school in car, drop them off, drive back almost home to DS#2 school, drop DS#2, then drive almost past DS#1 school on way work. PLUS school tell me the student has to have packed lunches for most days as he won't be in the school at lunchtime!
reading your bit about wanting to see mates all the time...
To cap it all we are 'out in the sticks' so for our exchange to get to town & back he would need me to drive him or catch the busses (yes that far out in the sticks) and the last bus home is at 6.30pm (yes I know, useful innit?)
I am seriously starting to worry/stress about this exchange now. DS#1 tells me only 11 families agreed to host students this year. I wonder what that means....
Well, we'll see...

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