My home is a mess

Cat501

Oh Emm!!!!:(:(:(:(:( I'm so sorry for whatever's going on, you sound absolutely desolate ((((massive hugs)))) xxxxx

Laurel that's brilliant advice and so true, EVERY little thing is an achievement, and I do feel that whenever I have a shower or post a letter or something! Blue, unless there's an urgent reason why you have to get lots done very quickly, be seriously proud of ANYTHING you achieve, and don't stress if you don't do what you planned. I planned to start decluttering drawers/bags/boxes over a week ago and have done nowt! I also planned to declutter one thing a day but looking at it now that's too optimistic so if I clear one bag of say, random mail/school stuff/paperwork a week I'm going to be really chuffed:) And if not I shall console myself by coming on here:)

Helen, we'll have to start calling you Busy Bee from now on! Well done:T

Hi cherryjack:wave: Welcome

Made a good start on DS's room, got an hour and a quarter to do some more before heading back to hospital, hopefully still looking at tomorrow for coming home but there's still wheeze and his blood oxygen levels have started to drop again since they took him off the oxygen, so although he looks quite well they're still being cautious.

YORKSHIRELASS

Oh Emm, sending you hugs. I have been staying away from here for a few days because I feel so miserable so maybe we can just be sad together. I am getting worked up about Christmas too. My son doesnt cope very well with Christmas, he doesnt like changes in routine, doesnt cope well with surprises and finds all the people coming and going really stressful. Then he gets upset because he feels like he should be enjoying himself and he worries that he is spoiling it for everyone else. This usually ends up making him ill. I wish we could just afford to go away somewhere for Christmas but we cant. Oh and everyone else seems to be out partying and having fun. I have no job, no money, no friends and no social life so at the moment I wish I could fast forward to mid January! Sorry everyone but I do feel a tiny bit better for getting that off my chest.

On the decluttering front have hoovered the whole house today, mopped floors, done ironing AND put it away, done a roast dinner for tea and tidied the airing cupboard a bit. And I finally took a bag of stuff to the charity shop so thats a bag less on the bedroom floor. This meant DS has been in front of the telly most of the day which I feel really guilty about. At least it gives me tomorrow free to spend some time with him.

candygirl

Massive ((huggles)) to EM n YL:A:Aeel free to vent away on here, that's what we're here for:D
I had a bit of a cry today, as have not had much work lately and feel useless, but I know there are other peeps far worse off than me:(:(

Sceptre

Hello again.

Well, I've sort of started! Feeling a bit better today, so spent a couple of hours just doing basic tidying and shuffling.

Where I've been out of action for a few days, things just lay where they lay, if you know what I mean!

Anyway, tomorrow afternoon, I NEED to wash the kitchen floor and clean the kitchen window. God I hate cleaning windows.

Wish me luck! Positive vibes to everyone.

Blue_Elephant

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

My son doesnt cope very well with Christmas, he doesnt like changes in routine, doesnt cope well with surprises and finds all the people coming and going really stressful. Then he gets upset because he feels like he should be enjoying himself and he worries that he is spoiling it for everyone else. This usually ends up making him ill.

That sounds like me! I don't like folk invading my house unless it's completely on my terms - I like my friends, but I want complete control, including over when everyone goes away. It annoys my parents, but when I get home from work I want an empty house and ability to veg out, they have other ideas and think a house full of folk in the evenings is fine. Then they think I'm being selfish if I hide away, and well, I am being selfish, but it drives me to insanity otherwise! I don't know how old your son is, but hats off to you for being supportive.

Cat501

Big hugs to YL and candygirl!!! xx seems like everyone is finding things tough right now:( Also worried that we haven't heard from muffin.....:( If you're out there muffin, love to you too!! xx

YL, is there ANY way you can really cut back on the number of people coming and going from your house over Xmas? or if not, how old is DS? Can he stay out the way when it's busy? I know people will want to see him but they really should understand!

Well done sceptre, and good luck with those windows! Funnily enough, my kitchen windows are the only onces that get cleaned semi regularly, because all the others involve some kind of climbing over furniture or using a stepladder and frankly....I CBA!!!

DS looking well tonight and doing well, was disappointed all the babies have been moved from his bay to another ward upstairs though, have got quite attached to one of them! The staff are all just about in tears, he's been in there a few months and is a right wee rascal!

I wish we could have a Messy Christmas Night Out:(

Cat501

oh lord Blue, that sounds awful! I too NEED my own space and like neither visitors nor visiting!!

helen_jelly

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

everyone else seems to be out partying and having fun. I have no job, no money, no friends and no social life so at the moment I wish I could fast forward to mid January! Sorry everyone but I do feel a tiny bit better for getting that off my chest.

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I have no job, no money and no Real Life friends but I do have friends here and so do you YL and I count myself as 1 of them if allowed to. This time of the year gets most of us down as we feel we should be full of festive cheer but thats crap cos the festive time brings its own misery. You do a fantastic job with your DS and you should feel very proud of yourself hun, have a hug, if I was nearer I'd do it for real. You and DS sound like you need a bit of a pick me up - would a walk in the fresh air somewhere nice suit both of you, maybe a bar of choccy and a DVD to share, I hope you feel better tomorrow

DH has just taken himself of to bed and I think I will camp out on the sofa tonight as he's not feeling great - that way we both get a rest. He can have the bed to himself and not worry about waking me up if he's restless and I'll sleep anywhere so the sofa will suit me.

Hugs to everyone - Candygirl you do so much for SOTD and DGD so have a break and think of yourself for a couple of days, take it easy hun

Helen x

PS Cat - hope DS is better in the morning, look after yourself as hosp visiting is worrying, stressful, expensive and tiring x

candygirl

Thanks darlings:D:DI just feel really under valued at the mo cos i'm not bringing as much money in:o:oNo matter how much I do for SOTD, it's never enough:mad::mad:

snookey

Yorkshire lass you do have friends on here and your not alone. As for going to social gatherings well Iv one on Saturday and if it was not for my nieces eighteenth birthday Id gladly stay home. Everyone will be drinking and Ill be near sobre as I drink little and I can not stand drunk people.
If you can maybe ask people to space out their visits over christmas and let them know how upset your son gets. There is too much pressure put on people to act or say things just because we are told to. Iv learned that saying no is okay and that christmas is what you want it to be. My dad and cousin will be staying this year and we have told his mum and dad that we wont be having them this year.
Every year we have had his parents so I dont think its unfair not to invite them this time.
What Im trying to say is that its your home and its up to you who is invited.
Candy girl maybe fate is telling you that you need some rest so try and find something you enjoy.
Emm sorry to hear of your family conflict . Sometimes there is no reasoning with people and you have to just let things go over your head. Hopefully it will sort itself and you will get some peace.
Take care everyone.