My home is a mess

muffin_man_7

Cat501 wrote: »

pfft - a washout of a day, no achievements apart from cooking, and a row with DD1 to finish things off (pointing out her mess and failure to help much is "starting a row" and end of conversation - we can only talk about things if they suit her). Starting to think might have to cancel party on Friday as I just can't get it done by myself.....so tired and lethargic....night all, hope you've had a better day - sorry for the whinge!! xx

cat (((BIG HUG)))) I know just how you feel ive had a bad few days and my son was very strarnge when he got back from clinic hyper and in wind up mode he kept turning all taps on messing wcorombi boiler really trying to annoy me then said something very hurtfull i dontever want another day like today its stuff like this going on every day that stops me doing things like clearing my room wich wouldnt be cluttered only for fact i have to lock stuff up orhe takes it destroys it then trys to imply he made itfrom scratch when i know he didnt :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:i'm so annoyed with him its really got to me todayso much that its set my head off im just hoping its not going to be a 3day migraine like last time i can hardly see out of my right eye so if this is all muddled sorry in advance its days like this ireally feel like whats the point i wish i had the strength to do what was needed and handle himas well but no chance of that i know object sshouldn't be important but to me they are because a lot of things ofmine got destroyed or( sold behind my back) by ex so i haven't got much left hes doing the same now i dont even get anything for the food i put in the house he gets more than me and is take take take im sotired of it i don't want all of it just hin to pay for his own food cigs and chip in with bills £16 20 aweek does that sound too much to ask by time ive paid out and got 3 days food all my money for 2wks is gone then im called all the names plus because i wont get this or that its NOT wont CANT NO MONEY LEFT i plan my shop day down to the last penny and still end up going without hope you sort it out could you do something different foryour birthday if i still feellikethis on my birthday i'll be spending it on my own so noone can hurt me thats one of the reasons i have no friends i got hurt when younger so many times its just easier to be on your own not so many hassles
in my headive done my room overand over but i cant actually do it cos no one will allow me todo it the way i need to at my speed (slowly and in a specific way like rubbish out group stuff together kids just stuff in a bag or bin brand new stuffcos cant be bothered sorting it why do i let themget to me? hope you feel better after some sleep and sorry for the moan it just like forthe first time someone other than my eldest actually understands what i'm going through

tattycath

Hi all. I managed to prepare 3 containers of apple to freeze and put the washing machine on before i came to bed last night. Got to take DD to dentist this afternoon, so need to get some stuff done this morning. My lovely OH has just brought me a cuppa so now i need to get my a*&e in gear and jump in the shower/bath.
(((hugs))) to all who need or want.
Laters peeps. xx

Mumof2_2

Hi everyone, I was up and showered by 7.15 so a good start to the day, took the dog to the vets, DH took the kids to school. I've stripped our bed and remade it, done the kids bed and just need to put the wet washing up to dry.

Got a typing job come in which I'll need to do and then I want to:
* unload DW
* sort out kitchen drawer
* vacuum right through
* sort through kids toys

There'll be more to come onto the list but it's all progress isn't it.

Hope you all have a good day; sorry I'm not replying to people's messages but will when I get a chance

xx

tattycath

Well, I've had a shower and coffee and so far today I've:
emptied tumble dryer folded all clothes and put them away,
put another load of washing in dryer
put another load in washing machine
sorted out papers and magazines and put in recycle box
washed out various empty bathroom products bottles and put into recycle
tidied up 1 of my many 'messy corners'.

helen_jelly

Muffin Man - does your DS stay at home with you, if so, is there anyone [social worker, DS's Dad or one of the other children] anyone who can help you with him - how old is he, if he's working he should ABSOLUTELY be paying his way or even paying a small bit towards his keep if he is not working. I really do feel for you honey but you MUST get some help from somewhere. Are you able to have a family meeting maybe, and sit down with the children and tell them how you are feeling - be really honest [as hard as that can be] you really need some support - what a shame we're not nearer cos I would willingly help you, in the absence of being able to help take a hug hun [hug]

Today I have
School run stuff
Shopped at Tesco [doubled up my vouchers and got a new coat and cardy and it cost nowt]
Put away food shopping
Ironed
WM x 2 done and another 2 to do
Had a lay down as AF is 3 months overdue and I'm knackered [not preggies maybe menopausal]

Need to put the ironing away now
Tonight I'm away to pick up some curtains I've got from someone on freecycle - will adjust them to fit DS's window

Have a lovely rest of the day everyone

Helen x

kittywight

hiya

done lots today , tidied and hoovered livngroom, put new throw on couch
tidied kitchen and did dishes
made a pie (minced beef and veg) ready for the oven later
made pastry, ready to make cornish pasties later
lit scented candles
got rid of the massive piles of clothes in livingroom (just threw them in the bedroom lol )
took rubbish out

so far so good,
having a new friend over later, so a bit nervous, shes never been here before..

ill tidy ds room before i go get him from school, itll only take 5 mins

so glad ive finally been able to do something, itll take some pressure off for the nex few days

hope everyones doing well

xx

Mumof2_2

Kitty, I'm sure it'll be fine with your new friend - try not to be nervous, she's come to see you, not the house. Saying that I know what you mean and always clean/tidy/put away frantically before anyone I don't know very well comes !

Helen, I looked on the Tesco website and printed off my vouchers - turns out I've got more than I thought I can spend which was a lovely surprise! We've got stuff for the kids for Christmas/birthdays so going to treat myself and buy some things for me for a change. Guilt free shopping .... lovely!
Have you been to the GP re AF being 3 months late? Maybe they could run some tests for you? I'm sure you're way too young to be menopausal honey

Tattycath, you've done a lot too - been a good morning for lots of us by the looks of it.

Just picked the dog up from the vets so am £70 poorer than I was 30 minutes ago :mad:. Need to do my shopping list as Mr S is coming tomorrow and I haven't ordered anything yet except for teabags .... best get going hadn't I.

tattycath

Been to dentists with DD
emptied tumble dryer-all clothes folded and put away
refilled tumble dryer
Need to put washing machine on again - just having a cuppa first.

Cat501

helen_jelly wrote: »

Muffin Man - does your DS stay at home with you, if so, is there anyone [social worker, DS's Dad or one of the other children] anyone who can help you with him - how old is he, if he's working he should ABSOLUTELY be paying his way or even paying a small bit towards his keep if he is not working. I really do feel for you honey but you MUST get some help from somewhere. Are you able to have a family meeting maybe, and sit down with the children and tell them how you are feeling - be really honest [as hard as that can be] you really need some support - what a shame we're not nearer cos I would willingly help you, in the absence of being able to help take a hug hun [hug]


Helen x

muffin man really can't say it any better than Helen has, you sound at your wits end and you NEED help! You can't possibly cope with this alone, nobody could! If your doctor is sympathetic speak to him/her too, if not, find another doctor. Big hugs and I too wish I was nearer xx

FelinePrincess

Hi

Can I join in please? I was really good at the beginning of the year, and over the past 2 years and did ENORMOUS amounts of de cluttering.. I have come a really long way - our 1 up 1 down house was literally overflowing with stuff (thanks to hoarding OH!) and now we we are able to move around and the place looks almost 'normal' but I seem to have fallen at the last hurdle and neglected my duties over the past few months.. things haven't really got any worse but they haven't got any better either. For me it's not just clutter now, it's also general mess The house is so small it just seems to get messy so easily and I struggle to get motivated to sort it out. But enough is enough, I'm going to tackle the mess and clutter starting from today

I'll get to work in a bit and might post some before and after pics if anyone would like to see them