My home is a mess

muffin_man_7

Cat501 wrote: »

how long have you been on them? Sometimes they can make you feel worse for a bit but sounds like you have been on them a while. I think paroxetine were the first ones I was ever on, can't remember them having any effect at all The ones I'm on now seem to be stopping me sleeping at night, I used to sleep day AND night so I guess it's a sort of improvement lol, still too tired to actually make much use of the "awake time":o

That's such a shame you didn't make it to the tribunal, it's so unfair, if you can't get there your chances of them overturning the decision are virtually nil If you do end up having to appeal again (and I really hope you don't), just get as much help as you can. Did someone come with you to the assessment btw?:)

Been on them since january 20mg at first then 30 now 40 when i can't sleep i try to do stuff but soon have to stop cos no energy so tired but not sleepy kind of tired if that makes any sense
and yes my eldest went with me but i went in on my own she was worried that going in with me might not help shes a good un she helps with things i forget so i don't get in a panick she's not well herself atm

i too would like to get things done i start some thing but never manage to finish it like my room a constant avalanche it doesn't help when kids go in there looking for something they tip boxes out but don't put things back i have a lock on the door but sometimes i forget to lock it then i when i see what they've done i think whats the ****** point:mad::(

Cat501

muffin_man_7 wrote: »

Been on them since january 20mg at first then 30 now 40 when i can't sleep i try to do stuff but soon have to stop cos no energy so tired but not sleepy kind of tired if that makes any sense
and yes my eldest went with me but i went in on my own she was worried that going in with me might not help shes a good un she helps with things i forget so i don't get in a panick she's not well herself atm

i too would like to get things done i start some thing but never manage to finish it like my room a constant avalanche it doesn't help when kids go in there looking for something they tip boxes out but don't put things back i have a lock on the door but sometimes i forget to lock it then i when i see what they've done i think whats the ****** point:mad::(

I'm with you there! Exactly the same in my house with my kids! My bedroom floor is ankle deep in THEIR clothes, they were neatly piled up once up a time ready for sorting for charity/binning/keeping....2 days later they weren't and you really do think, what's the ******* point!!:mad: And I seem to be the only person who knows what the kitchen bin is for, strange that....:cool:

I know exactly what you mean by not "sleepy tired" I think - just completely drained of any energy and motivation?

That's nice that your eldest helps you, mine doesn't really and never has but she lost her girlfriend very suddenly in January which was just awful so I can't be too hard on her. Middle one at college and snowed under with that, youngest at school and has pretty bad asthma so he tries to help but I don't like to ask too much of them.

This thread is great for encouragement and support I think, everyone's lovely and you don't feel bad if you get nowt done (9 days out of 10 for me:D) How about you and me set ourselves a really small challenge to do by Monday? If you don't want to, that's absolutely fine!:)

btw sounds like it definitely is time for a change of meds, you've given the paroxetine a really good shot

muffin_man_7

cat501 thats it drained no energy what kind of challenge? sounds like a good idea (i think)
my eldest is 29 on tuesday shes at college getting ready to do a teaching course she is the brainy one she got married last year after being engaged 9 years her now hubby had 2 caraccidents then joyriders smashed their stationary car up and lots of illnesses so she really has enough without looking out for me youngest son(19) has ADHD,ODD,CD,and?OCD youngest daughter(15 in december)has asthma she had a review today and her flu jab she is lucky her asthma only flares up when its really damp or the pollen count quiet high she also has hayfever and we sometimes call her sleeping beauty cos when she falls asleep it takes forever to wake her shes the youngest of seven she does help some of the time but we clash a lot like a bull in a china shop her ideaof clearing a room simple dump it in a different room or stuff things in a cupboard which is really annoying cosshes 5ft4 and can reach the top shelf i can't but when they leave door open it never hits me it justgoes over my head hehe her other brother has been really helpful as well chief gardener while hes not working or looking after his son (13mnths )

Cat501

good grief, 7??? That must have been a handful!!:) Sounds like your eldest daughter and youngest son really have a lot to deal with

By challenge, I just mean completing a small job, can be anything, we can each pick one we [STRIKE]want to do[/STRIKE] should do:D and see how we get on, nothing too big or scary! Like, I absolutely must sort out the mountain of clothes on my bedroom floor, even just sorting them into piles - throw out/daughters (cos I never now what belongs to who so it would be one pile between the two of them!)/son/mine. I know it won't really take long when I get started, it's just the getting started I have a problem with - oh, and the thought that there might be SPIDERS under there!!:eek: No pressure at all, I often say I'm going to do something and end up doing nothing, but like I said if you don't feel up to it, maybe some other time?:)

muffin_man_7

sounds good minus the spider i don't like any crawly things i get very hot when see big spiders or moths:eek:
i can't even get in my room its too big a job too do the whole room but maybe i could just squeeze in (like getting an elephant through a keyhole) and do a corner throw out broken boxes and anything else thats broken bag up clothes for charity and put my clothes in canvas unit til i can get to my wardrobe can't remember last time i opened it to be honest might get someone else to open it don't like moths :eek:

when the kids were little all the rooms were reasonably tidy til kids trashed them they'd throw clothes all over the room then blame each other they all had to tidy it up icould find whatever i needed even in a room that wasnt 100% tidy because i wasthe one doing the most tidying so i knew what i'd put in each box even when there were 6 boxes the same i could always remember just by a quick peek now i'm lucky if i can fin the box i want
may be if i could get my room back into a usable room then i would have it how i need it to find things and it might help keepthings calmer too thanks wish the youngest could understand how i feel i try not to react now because it makes me feel worse i just write it down instead it gives me time to think how to deal with it and also helps me remember what did and didn't work

Cat501

aww MM, I can get in my room - just - but it means stepping on all the clutter, the number of times I've nearly gone flying! Doing the whole thing would be far too much for me too! That's why I thought I'd just do the clothes for now, any other carp can stay exactly where it is!:D

Teenagers tend to be a little self-obsessed I think, try not to worry about it ((((hugs))) I find that reacting only makes things worse (for me, not them) but it's SO hard not to sometimes isn't it?

Reading your bit about the kids blaming each other - I can't remember how often I threatened to have CCTV installed because I was sick of the "it wasn't me, it was her" carry on!

Aww well we'll see how we get on eh, and if we don't do anything, we'll still have a wee treat of cake/chocolate/whatever takes your fancy as a reward for our good intentions!!:D

Please join us, anyone else who fancies joining in!

muffin_man_7

this is really strange when i said i cant get in my room its because after i squeeeeeze through the doorway i mean it only open to a gap of 8inches tops i thenhave to stand on things doesnt matter how many times i pick them up they still end up on the floor

will be doing room alone youngest not feeling too good flu jab reaction her friend is making her a cuppa and they're gona have an early night

Cat501

You're not starting tonight are you???:eek: Good god, I won't be starting till at least mid-afternoon tomorrow after a few coffees!!:D And possibly even later than that, like - last thing Sunday night!:D

But if you are, good luck! :T Remember, even if you only throw out any broken boxes it still counts! That's how I look at it, the smallest start is better than nothing, and we make our own rules!:D

Hope your daughter is feeling better soon, you have reminded me that I MUST make an appt for mine and my son's flu jabs soon:o

Off to bed now, goodnight, nice talking to you and getting some desperately needed motivation from you!:j

muffin_man_7

NO WAY whatever made you think that tonight will make a plan of action like chuck broken boxes out the window so i stay in the room for at least an hour then might need a coffee break another hour 3 coffee sdoesn't seem a lot but thats tonight plan tomorrow might be a lots different depending on energy and if i get any kip why is it i wake at 6 am on a saturday no matter when i go to sleep i will make my first atempt in my roombefore it goes dark i don't do dark maybe every time i go upstairs i could just move a few things ease in gently or not
hope you manage to get some sleep been nice talking to you will catch up tomorrow im glad to help i don't have any friends in (rl) i find it really difficult making friends thank you for taking the time to talk with me its ben nice talking tosomeone who understands the good days and the bad ones nite nite mm

VJsmum

Being a mum is so damned hard, isn't it? I swear they hand you a pile of guilt along with the baby and remove your brains along with the placenta! I remember the shock when DD was a couple of weeks old and from nowhere saying to my friend - "IT's such hard work!"

Thank goodness there are many happy moments to compensate.

We have guests coming - TODAY
:eek::eek::eek:

The kitchen is a repository of carp, the bathroom needs scrubbing within an inch of it's life - the shower curtain would put Kim and Aggie into 40 fits and the ceiling has mould, DD's bedroom is a jumble sale (where they'll be sleeping) and i've marking to do, a model for geography homework to help with and loads of cooking.

Hopefully the wine will help to blur the edges :rotfl:

A friend once told me that they like coming to our house because it's so untidy and homely. I think there's a compliment in there somewhere but it's breathtakingly rude And another said that i wasn't to think she was bothered because my house was untidy, it's just that she couldn't live in it! :rotfl: With friends like these.....

At least they like coming!