My home is a mess

kit

Didn't do anything today; apart from cook dinner and unload half of the dishwasher. DH is going to do some housework tonight because the mess is really stressing me out and my stupid illness is not helping me get it done.

So one good day followed by a bad day .... welcome to my world

YORKSHIRELASS

kit wrote: »

So one good day followed by a bad day .... welcome to my world

Mmm, sounds like your world is very similar to mine. Been to hospital today with DS and his blood tests show that things are not too good. No surprise there because he is very pale and quiet. We have to wait now for his two Consultants to decide on what to do next.

His DLA renewal forms have arrived and I am trying not to worry too much, nothing has changed since we last applied but I dont know what we will do if he gets turned down.

Then a trip to the dentist, had to have a filling replaced.

The had to ferry DS2 to football practice and wait in the freezing cold for him. Then he wanted me to help him with his lines for a school play.

I am now tired and grumpy and couldnt give a stuff about how messy the house is. I just need DS to sleep tonight - I am sooo tired.

I will return tomorrow in a better frame of mind I promise!!

ksh123

Just discovered this thread - I thought I was on my own - just a terrible housekeeper! I did try the Flylady thread a couple of years ago but am sorry to say it only increased my sense of personal defeat - no reflection on anyone there of course, they are a lovely bunch.
Like many of you I'm disabled with a disabled daughter (just us2) and my problem is that, by the time I've done all the daily stuff: cooked, washed up, washing, fed variety of animals, maybe hoovered and tried to deal with backlog of important phone calls/letters etc I'm done in for the day. So the rest of the place goes to hell in a hand basket.
I am so fed up of seeing grime everywhere and living in a tip but its just too much

But at least I'm not alone....thanks for chance to vent

laurel7172

You know, before I got treatment for my illness, everything went to absolute hell. I used to come in from work and collapse-and I was two, maybe three years like that before other symptoms showed up. My parents thought I was a slob, everyone who visited the house thought I was a slob, even I thought I was a slob. I knew what I needed to do but I just couldn't get up off the sofa to do it.

For now, and hopefully for ever, it's under control. I still get tired, but nothing like to the same degree, and I'm lucky enough to be able to get on with most things on a good day. But to some degree it helps me to accept that I'm never going to be Superwoman and half, a quarter, some days even a tenth, of a job is an achievement.

At the moment, the house is slipping because I'm out in the garden every night, and I'm ready to drop by the time I'm finished. One of my great fears is becoming ill again, and I need to turn the garden into something a sick person can look after. Or not look after without ending up with ivy growing across the windows and Leylandii reaching for the sky, as happened last time. And if I'm one of the lucky ones and never get that ill again, I can be a genuine slob and it won't show too badly...:rotfl:

But seriously-there's so much to do, and everyone here seems to have so many responsibilities. To keep a house and garden to my parents' standard required two healthy adults working nine days a week on it between them. It's no wonder we can't do that.

Emm-in-a-pickle

I LOVE all you Messies! Reading your posts and being able to post here is a Life-Saver, reading (or posting) that one has done SOME stuff, but then had to call it a day, or that one has done NOTHING but admitted they had a CBA phase....Whatever our personal circumstances - some with illness (their own or family members), some with just too much on their plate or some with `normal` circumstances except that other members of the household leave it all to the Muggins, or some struggling to juggle obligations & priorities between work & home, we can at least SHARE the comforting knowledge that we are NOT Superwomen, so we have to prioritise, and that may mean we do a bit & leave a lot, and we are honest enough to say we CBA sometimes!
((Hugs)) to Rummer & Laurel for your car troubles.
Laurel, I understand your thing with the garden - I have a huge wild garden and I love it but it was too much to keep `tidy` even when my late hubby was alive. Now, my OH & son are so used to the wilderness and like me they like it - but they aren`t inclined to do anything to keep it from getting any wilder (ie, coming into the HOUSE!) I have to assess, organise & pay a chap with industrial strimmer etc to come and reclaim garden space periodically, and I`m on annual leave this week, and still hoping to do some pottering out there, weather permitting, before I get Andy in for the heavy stuff. I WAS worrying once about paying for garden help when I retire, but as it now looks like I`ll stay at work forever, that worry has kind of lifted (I love my job, so coming to terms with the not retiring thing, yet a couple of years ago this prospect would have had me off sick with depression!)

snookey

Went to get my contact lenses today or as my oh calls them my eyes. Its great to be able to see properly again without glasses.

Helen glad to see you have your internet back its carp when it goes wrong.

Hi to all the new people.

Iv done some painting and got son to do the dishes and kitchen floor. Oh has done the tea. Lazy cow today but I dont care.

wifefaefife

Hi Again,

Well I've had a good day, I hope you have too. I know the felling about being torn on which jobs to especially when the garden needs done before the weather changes for the worst. Some times I wish there was 4 of me......but would my house and garden be spotless??

I did go to bed late but I didn't do much after I posted last. I got up at 8 and ran about a bit headless chicken like before my friend and kids arrived. My friend was late, which was fab as my downstairs looked like a normal house by the time they arrived. The kids has a good time playing and making homemade pizza for their lunch. Friend was saying what hoarders and messy her inlaws are, the whole time I was thinking thank god you haven't seen my upstairs! After they left I didn't sit down too long and got up to tidy the kitchen and started to wash the windows (inside). My other friend arrived with her kiddies but she is a close friend that I don't mind washing my windows and chatting to at the same time. Wednesday night is dinner at my mums night so no tea to cook and no more kitchen mess for me. I have had a bit of lazy night but place loooking ok.

Hopefully I'll be a busy bee again tomorrow. Planning on getting DD hair cut then she has a party in the afternoon. My DMIL is having DD and DH for dinner while I go to the pics (free tickets v.mse) and for tea with my mum. I love half term, its nice to see more of my DMIL.

Night all x

kit

Afternoon all. Couldnt sleep last night so took a sleeping tablet at 2.30am ...... and woke up at 1.30 this afternoon!! DOH.
Missed my DD's harvest home (which I didnt really want to go to anyway) but at least woke up in time to get her from school

Doubt I will get any housework done today. Got to make a load of cakes for a fundraising coffee morning so that will pretty much take up the rest of the day. There is always tomorrow

YORKSHIRELASS

Aaargh, just typed a long post and lost it! So will just say hello and welcome to ksh!

Great post Emm - this is the cheapest therapy around so hope no-one ever says we are not moneysaving.

Hope the long sleep made you feel better Kit.

And to Laurel and others who are struggling to get on top of things, keep going - you will get there eventually!

I am needed by DS to got to go. Had a lazy day today so need to crack on with some housework tomorrow!

ksh123

Tpday has been clean out 6 guinea pigs day, plus some shopping, washing etc but we went mad and had a takeaway so that helped. (Not very money saving tho ).
Thanks for the welcome. And how lovely to read that there are other people who sleep in in the day for whatever reason. It always makes me feel like such a bad person. Having said that though it doesn't matter what time you get up the same old carp has to be don!