My home is a mess

freyaluck

Can I join you messies Please:D
My house and garden have been a tip since I started working full time last sept, my now ex hub was house husband and low and behold with 4 kids in tow my home became a sty, we split in Feb and I quit my job to look after sprogs and I am still trying to get it all in order. I now have a lovely new man and have finally got rid of exs urm junk I think its called lol.
Today i have missioned and cleaned and tidied the entire house ( its only small) bar my eldests dds room, knowing full well it will look just as bad in a few days time. I really should be getting off my bootie and clearing up the dishes from dinner but really cant be a*sed. I suffer with bi polar and really struggle with motivation have no idea where it appeared from today. My new man is a clean freak - how did one of them find me :rotfl: so I hate it when he gets home and its a sty again, especially when he runs round like a headless chook cleaning:o, Makes me feel like poop especially when I know how hard he works (REMOVAL MAN) . I am determinged to get it sorted. so I am hear to share my sucess and Failures.
Right must get off here and do something, probably take one look at the kitchen and come and lurk again:eek:
Frey

kittywight

hey everyone thanks for being so kind and welcoming me .. heya to other newbies too

really havent got much done today but hey! the night is still young

things i completed:
went to poundland and bought pot pourri for bathroom .... put pot pourri in bowl lol
took bin out
did 2 loads of washing (hung one load up, and just about to hang another up)
bleached bathroom sink/toilet and bath (just need to give them a wipe down)
and i telephoned the council about the bathroom light (they coming on the 14th)



so thats it really
in my defense i did cook a homecooked meal (well toad in the hole, wernt rocket science) and i took my son to the park for over a hour and ive also had 4 fillings today (and 3/4 hours of numb anesthetic face)

its still pretty early so im gonna try maybe do something else tonight


here's hoping

edit:
also, its not cleaning related , but made a tenner on ebay (sold a coat) and got a free sample of toothpaste in dentist

another edit:
also flea treated the cat

she_who_can_not_cook

can i take part too please i have very much been a lurker for so long because i have been doing my fulltime job and my ou courses i will be having near 26-30 hours a week "Free time " lol not really will be cleaning and going back to my componant /batch cooking writing more on here and ect ect

helen_jelly

Morning all

Welcome and Hi she who can not cook

Busy day doing this and that today so not much time for cleaning - house is starting to look like one of those houses on hoarder programmes!! Carp everywhere and not enough hours in the day to even start sorting it out!!

Gotta fly now - have a good day everyone and catch up later

Helen x

helen_jelly

So far I have

cleared the stairs of all the gibble [put it on our bed so its got to be dealt with]
hoovered the stairs
hoovered all downstairs
popped to see Mum
wrapped up 2 birthday pressies
washed up
dealt with a couple of calls

Off to do some more now

Helen x

kittywight

hugs for you ellas9602, you do an awful lot, youre superwoman


so today .... not having a lot of motivation doing anything, made breakfast (toasted sesame seed bagels with philly cheese on top)
and i took ds to school this afternoon ...........

havent done much else.... i drained the sink to do the dishes .... but havent filled it back up again or put the dishes in

just really struggling for motivation

today list:
dishes
make pizza (will do this later tonight with ds)
wipe down bath/sink/toilet
bathe ds
and ill need a bath myself later ......
may try and start on some vacupacking today (doubt it i cant even get motivated to do the dishes)

i suppose being on here doesnt help lol

xx

Frugal_Dreamer

Onionbreath wrote: »

You are being treated like a skivy....Why can't teenagers cook and clean for themselves? Stand up for yourself...

Could have been put slightly less harshly maybe......but they do have a good point. Teenagers should be more than capable of helping with household chores...some lesson in life skills may benefit them in the future.

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.

pineapple

kit wrote: »

Am kinda scared of the length my list will be tho! However at least I could cross things off and see that I am making some progress.

I find it useful to make a list, then prioritise, make a separate list of priorities for the week/month and hide the big list!!
If you keep the short list easily achievable then you get a big feeling of success at handling it all.
Then go back to big list, cross off items and make another short list. And so on. It works for me as otherwise I get paralysed by the sight of the big list!

snookey

Teens need to pushed to help at times. Id go on strike ie stop doing the washing for the oldest ones, stop getting them up, no pocket money unless they help. Draw up a rota of chores and if they dont do theirs you dont do the above.
My son helps with dishes,hoovering and even the odd evening meal. My dd helps take out dishes ,tidy up and feed the animals and she is eight. Its up to you to be the boss .

twiglet98

kit wrote: »

Hi Kittywight, welcome.

I think I am going to steal your idea of writing it all down. Why havent I thought of that before?!
Am kinda scared of the length my list will be tho! However at least I could cross things off and see that I am making some progress.

Thanks :T

When I'm brave enough to dig through the vast piles of paper on every surface I occasionally find lists that I wrote in say, 2004, and have crossed off one item, eg remember to put bins out. Successive lists get everything transferred onto them, and more added, but never actually get shorter.

Writing them on HERE is a brilliant idea, no more bits of paper. But what to do about the newspaper and magazine cuttings... recipes I'll never cook, gardening tips for veg I'll never grow, travel tips for places I'll never visit, jokes and anecdotes I'll never remember, tips on decluttering that I'll never follow... not to mention years of bills and statements from the days before going "paperless"! They drive me to despair but equally they're my security blanket, I can't bear to think of throwing out that article on where to have lunch in Barcelona, torn out of a Sunday paper in 1996...

I don't buy papers, we use them at work for wrapping, so all my cuttings come from there. They're very MSE cuttings.

Up late listening to Pink Floyd night on BBC6, excellent.