12 year old daughter caught stealing from us

Sublime_2

Shes only 12. Temptation obviously got the better of her. She saw her friends with pocket money, and couldn't/wouldn't resist. Its not an abnormal thing, and I'm sure plenty of other children have done so.

I would have given her pocket money in the first place, but now she has stolen, might be time to set up a reward chart/scheme. She needs to earn it, so i would go with tasks such as making her bed, keeping her room tidy, and washing up the odd time for pocket money. Nothing major, but you need to show her now, that money must be earned.

joeblack066

I have a friend who follows this: her son (13) has 5 jobs that are his responsibility every week. They range from keeping his room tidy to putting the bin out/ recycling. The jobs were agreed between her and her son at the outset. She does not nag, or remind him to do them. At the end of 4 weeks, she puts £1 per job completed into his bank, for which he has a debit card. Ie all jobs done, lad gets £20, 2 jobs missed, £18 put in, etc. She gives him a 'wage slip', denoting any deductions, and why. Needless to say, after the first few times, he does all the jobs, and she never has to nag. Excellent IMO!!

Fruit_Gum

Thanks for all the replies.
When she said "can we be friends" it wasn't that I was cross with her, I didn't discuss it with her at first as I wasn't sure of the best way to deal with it. Also her dad had told her off so I thought that was enough. The silence from me may have given her the idea that I wasn't her "friend".

Yes she is my eldest child.

Over the past couple of days she's been an absolute joy to be around. Asking me if she can help me around the house, playing nicely with her little sister. It may be guilt I'm not sure but became her dad haven't said anything else to her about it. It's not such a bad thing having the laptop taken away, she's done more reading, homework and talking to us about things!

I never refused pocket money. Tbh she's never specifically asked for it and I gave her money when she wanted it ( which tbh isn't that often).

Sorry I'm on my phone and wasn't sure how to quote.

liam8282

joeblack066 wrote: »

I have a friend who follows this: her son (13) has 5 jobs that are his responsibility every week. They range from keeping his room tidy to putting the bin out/ recycling. The jobs were agreed between her and her son at the outset. She does not nag, or remind him to do them. At the end of 4 weeks, she puts £1 per job completed into his bank, for which he has a debit card. Ie all jobs done, lad gets £20, 2 jobs missed, £18 put in, etc. She gives him a 'wage slip', denoting any deductions, and why. Needless to say, after the first few times, he does all the jobs, and she never has to nag. Excellent IMO!!

Isn't there a law against child labour in this country?