First Time post on here - felt sick and a loser

mrslawrence2003

bugbabe wrote:

i cant belive you said not helped by my posts the reason why your not finding my post helpful is cos your not telling the full truth about how much you really get this is the last i will post on this thread as i cant stand the fluffy bits as your girls are disabled you will be getting their dla but lets close our eyes and pretend your not when you are ,lets not ask why you dont want to add a couple of hundred pounds to you list of incomings like i said last am going to post as this thread is going no where

i understand your questions - but it is not really helpful to state that because he has not included it in his income, he is being dishonest. he is clearly struggling at the mo, and will not be thinking clearly and able to remember everything. my understanding of the DLA as that it is going directly to his children - so he doesnt actually receive it and therefore has rightly now included it in his SOA.

if he could receive the DLA directly, then it may well help him get out of the hole he is in more quickly. but clearly there are reasons as to hwy this is not currently happening.

bugbabe

last post if his girls struggle like he says then he will have power of attorny so he will be getting their money to manage for them

Sinkingindebt_2

I think most of the time DLA can still be easily paid to the parents if the kids live at home, I read about it somewhere on here? Anyway without OP confirming it we are purely speculating on wether he recieves it or not. As I said before, he may be recieving it but spending it on care for them.

jellyhead

well without asking the details of what is wrong with his children (and no, i'm not asking - that's his business) i don't think we should assume the money should or could be coming to him. my cousin gets DLA and it has gone into her own bank account since she reached adulthood. she lives at home but she keeps her money, and if her parents are okay with that then so be it - not everyone pays board to their parents, whether disabled or not.

just because dla is not declared on the soa doesn't mean fred is not truthful. please be nice to other moneysavers.

bugbabe

i thought they were of school age as he had took them out of school, anyway i have tryed being nice and cant see anywhere on this thread where i havent i was only saying as if extra money coming in it would bring the out going s down and dla if a person cant manage there own money you get attorny where you manage it for them etc clothes things they may need

jellyhead

is that your last post?

i don't know anything about fred's children, i didn't read the other thread. but his child benefit suggests 2 children, and there are 4 children so i assume 2 are adult. perhaps they are the ones getting dla. but that's besides the point, he hasn't included dla as part of his income, so it's not. family dynamics can be complicated and maybe he doesn't want to air his family's dirty linen in public.

i'm trying to think of other stuff you can do freed. what's the aol thing about? isn't your internet free because you have sky?

Broken_hearted

The DLA should be declaired as income, we get ours taken off the other money coming in.

Anthillmob

weymuffred wrote:

I have found it tough to get motivated today, feel drained after not sleeping for most of the night. It wasnt't helped by me reading posts on here by bugbabe and anthillmob, which are not helpful at all so please stay away from this thread if you do not have anything useful/helpful to add.

excuse me? you kept DLA 'quiet' when doing you SOA thats all i was saying. dla must be included as an income.

anyway some other help i posted that i forgot about. get a skype phone and a £10 top up and then youll get free calls for 6 months (i believe its 6 months). saves on the phone bill.

Anthillmob

mrslawrence2003 wrote:

i understand your questions - but it is not really helpful to state that because he has not included it in his income, he is being dishonest. he is clearly struggling at the mo, and will not be thinking clearly and able to remember everything. my understanding of the DLA as that it is going directly to his children - so he doesnt actually receive it and therefore has rightly now included it in his SOA.

if he could receive the DLA directly, then it may well help him get out of the hole he is in more quickly. but clearly there are reasons as to hwy this is not currently happening.

if the girls are receiving dla themselves direct to them then why are they also in receipt of an extortionate amount of pocket money?

jellyhead

if there are 4 kids maybe the older ones get dla and the pocket money is for the younger ones?