Seriously need help...please :)

michelle1506

Thank you for your post :j Yours was ONE OF THE FEW which was actually worth reading! I wholeheartedly agree with the comments you made :beer: I can't believe some of the !!!!!iness that you see on these forums :mad: Do you know that there was someone who posted on here recently who had a very debilitating disease (MS) and they were SLATED for not enough having mortgage cover to cover the payments.

Well I am a tax payer and have made GOOD contributions for 27 years, and I would not complain about helping out a disabled person who through no fault of their own fell on hard times! :mad:

shellyruby wrote: »

Oh my godness..
you dont help on this forum.you are all so judgemental.the poster just asked what she was entitled too..she didnt ask you for your opinion on her life and work..why cant you just answer questions like people do on any other forum ..i work full time and have kids but i really wouldnt think about things like oh im paying for someone not working through my taxes..
taxes have to be paid whatever happens,
some of these vicious posters need to chill out and stop being bitter...
its really not your business for whatever reason..why cant you just answer what the posters ask without getting involved and being judgemental..read back through some of your replies.unreal..

GoodHouseKeeping

marywooyeah wrote: »

I'm getting really sick of reading things like this. I've just come off facebook where one of my friends was moaning that she's not surprised that people turn to crime when there's no incentive to go back to work.
When my son was 7 months I went back to work 24 hours a week, then I started my full time law degree when he was 15 months and still worked 3 days as well. I got stick from people for putting him in nursery but you know what? I might not have earned much but it covered all my household bills and he has a great time playing and learning and doing crafts and playing outside and singing songs with his friends at nursery.
I got the childcare element of working tax credit which covered a lot of his fees and used my own money to make up the difference.
When I chose to have my son I knew it would be a constant financial commitment, and so should you. You may not have had a child to put him in nursery, but if you have to put him in nursery to provide for him financially stop seeing it as a bad thing, kids love nursery and they learn loads there too.

Children are best brought up in a loving family environment not at nursery where they are not loved and often looked after by teenagers. The early years at least upto the age of 7 are the most important and society should value stay at home parents. The benefit to society is immeasurable. It's simple.:)

Blue22

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I'm glad Tax Credits just for having children are being reduced.

I don't think they are. They are going up for those on either low or no income but being reduced for those on average to higher incomes (the squeezed middle)

If there is no incentive to improve ones income, who will be paying tax to fund the welfare budget?

zagfles

Blue22 wrote: »

I don't think they are. They are going up for those on either low or no income but being reduced for those on average to higher incomes (the squeezed middle)

Yes, a single parent on IS will get a big rise in tax credits, a couple both working with childcare costs are likely to see a big drop.

Orville

zagfles wrote: »

Yes, a single parent on IS will get a big rise in tax credits, a couple both working with childcare costs are likely to see a big drop.

Well i wouldn't say a big rise, but it's around the £5 mark for me per week. From £54 to £59 i think it is.

shellyruby

michelle1506 wrote: »

Thank you for your post :j Yours was ONE OF THE FEW which was actually worth reading! I wholeheartedly agree with the comments you made :beer: I can't believe some of the !!!!!iness that you see on these forums :mad: Do you know that there was someone who posted on here recently who had a very debilitating disease (MS) and they were SLATED for not enough having mortgage cover to cover the payments.

Well I am a tax payer and have made GOOD contributions for 27 years, and I would not complain about helping out a disabled person who through no fault of their own fell on hard times! :mad:

thank you michelle.. im glad im not the only one..thats shocking about the poster with ms..its real shame that its like this...this could be a great helpful forum if people didnt feel the need to tell people how to run their lives and slag them off for asking a question.. lifes just to short to be a hater and the sarcasm and the little digs to people are so pathetic..a couple of the posters said they have given up their free to answer questions but are they doing it so they can be smug and judgemental...maybe they dont realise how they are coming across to posters who want genuine advice..im sure martin lewis wouldnt approve of the haters on here lol.
thanks michelle..apreciated your post.:T

shellyruby

tomitma wrote: »

Sweetie_Jo wrote: »

What is wrong with you people? I have been paying into the system since I was 16 years old!!

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SO HAVE MANY OTHERS OF US, MAYBE IF YOU HAD STAYED IN SCHOOL A BIT LONGER YOU MIGHT HAVE LEARNT SOME MANNERS.

YOU ASKED A QUESTION AND HAVE BEEN GIVEN THE ANSWER, Why should you be paid to breed, and stay at home?

she asked a question and got an answer and a load of abuse as well...to say to the poster why should you be paid to stay at home and breed is disgusting.you should be ashamed of yourself.. is this forum not moderated properly..what does it say at the top of this forum BE NICE TO ALL MONEYSAVERS...thats a joke..most people viewing this forum would be to scared to post..god forbid you dont fit in with their ideals.

StormyWeather_2

starchild1972 wrote: »

Dry cleaning an essential? That's a new one on me! What's wrong with buying clothes you have to wash !!!!!!????

It's for people see what's left over for to pay off debts. e.g. It's on the insolvency site, for those who have gone/about to go bankrupt to work out what they have left over for a payment order .

It's likely to be dry cleaning of work clothes, clothes that would have been bought previously. Buying new clothes is only on the 'maybe ok' list.

KxMx wrote: »

I don't think a car is a neccessity either- i've never had access to one with neither parent driving, and we've just had to make do as best we can, including moving back to a town with better public transport.

A car/vehicle could be essential for work, or just getting to and from work. Moving might not be an option.

michelle1506

Hello,

The pleasure was all mine It's great to know that not everyone who uses these forums are self obsessed bullies, and narrow minded bigots, who speak far too much from their own experience and viewpoints! :mad:

Why the preoccupation for gods sake?? As a tax payer the tax must be paid and thats that! I don't spend my waking moments fretting over where it is being spent! :mad:

I don't see the tax that I pay as my money - I see it as a shared resource! :beer:

shellyruby wrote: »

thank you michelle.. im glad im not the only one..thats shocking about the poster with ms..its real shame that its like this...this could be a great helpful forum if people didnt feel the need to tell people how to run their lives and slag them off for asking a question.. lifes just to short to be a hater and the sarcasm and the little digs to people are so pathetic..a couple of the posters said they have given up their free to answer questions but are they doing it so they can be smug and judgemental...maybe they dont realise how they are coming across to posters who want genuine advice..im sure martin lewis wouldnt approve of the haters on here lol.
thanks michelle..apreciated your post.:T

thrustmaster

prosaver wrote: »

so you get 7 grand in tax credits..sshhhhhh:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
why cant she?
trollock as you say :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I have read most of your posts on here and must say that you speak the biggest load of crap ever. 3 pages of MP expenses spam to justify your point that it is okay for people to change their lifestyle dramatically and live off the state.

Sorry, but 2 wrongs don't make a right!

No doubt if you do respond it will be another worthless post (possibly containing further information you have just Googled on MPs expenses.

shellyruby wrote: »

thank you michelle.. im glad im not the only one..thats shocking about the poster with ms..its real shame that its like this...this could be a great helpful forum if people didnt feel the need to tell people how to run their lives and slag them off for asking a question.. lifes just to short to be a hater and the sarcasm and the little digs to people are so pathetic..a couple of the posters said they have given up their free to answer questions but are they doing it so they can be smug and judgemental...maybe they dont realise how they are coming across to posters who want genuine advice..im sure martin lewis wouldnt approve of the haters on here lol.
thanks michelle..apreciated your post.:T

Writing in big bold letters does not strengthen your opinion!

To the OP - I would be more concerned about what your children and husband will think of you if you decide not to work.

Household money may be shared but both halves should contribute if they are able (by working). This prevents the woman from being marginalised in the future and pushes away from the stereotype of hard-working man and breeder at home.

Your kids will grow up faster than you think and no matter what you think you cannot guarantee your husband is always going to be there. So you should always make the best of yourself.

Also take into consideration our countries financial status - What you get this year may in benefits be severely different from next and IF you decided next year it wasn't enough to support your family you have no guarantee of getting another job (1 year sitting at home doesn't go down well on the CV - even if you are looking after kids).