Seriously need help...please :)

shellyruby

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prosaver wrote: »

so you get 7 grand in tax credits..sshhhhhh:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
why cant she?
trollock as you say :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

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kate2954

Good for you Sweetie Jo for trying to find a way to parent your own children rather than expecting institutions to parnt them.

sunnyone

kate2954 wrote: »

Good for you Sweetie Jo for trying to find a way to parent your own children rather than expecting institutions to parnt them.

But only if you you dont expect the rest of us to pay for it!

Some of us went back to work a few weeks after giving birth because we needed to earn to keep our families without expecting everyone else to pay for it.

kate2954

You will probably have to "pay " more in childcare fees than if she brings up child herself .

Spendless

sunnyone wrote: »

But only if you you dont expect the rest of us to pay for it!

Some of us went back to work a few weeks after giving birth because we needed to earn to keep our families without expecting everyone else to pay for it.

but as I already pointed out, unless you are paying for all childcare out of your income, someone else is paying for it.

bestpud

shellyruby wrote: »

thanks for pointing that out.goodness dosent take much to get people riled up on here simply because i liked writing in bold..i didnt realise bold writing was very hard on the eyes.

The poster pointed out that bold writing is difficult to read for some.

I'm not sure why you thought that very reasonable response was from a riled poster? Nobody else got riled about it either.

You, on the other hand, come across as very irate and confrontational.

Ironic, given what you are complaining about. :cool:

sunnyone

Spendless wrote: »

but as I already pointed out, unless you are paying for all childcare out of your income, someone else is paying for it.

we payed for any child care we needed because in 1989 there was no tax credits to pay for it, we tried to work around each other hours as much as possible and used my sil who was a child minder the rest of the time and we paid the going rate.

be*eventful

This is an interesting thread!
I am a new poster but have been reading for some time.
I just wondered about all of the posters who complain about their taxes going towards paying for benefits for others, have you never claimed any benefits, or would you, if your circumstances changed, not claim anything at all?
Or what if you had a close family member who made the decision to give up work to care for their children, would you advise them to stay at work and not claim any benefits as you don't believe your hard earned taxes should contribute?

I have just found myself without a job due for the first time since I was 16. Having always worked full time, only taking a few months maternity leave with both children, have made the decision to be a stay at home mum until my youngest starts school in August. I am also going to look into what benefits are available to my family - without feeling ashamed about it.
We have not claimed tax credits for the past few years as we have not needed to but we will now.

My husband doesn't earn a massive wage but with the help of tax credits etc, we will be able to get by without my full time salary for a while.
Once my wee one starts school, I will look for full time work again and stop claiming whatever benefits we end up getting.

After reading the comments on here, I am sure I will be pounced on and told that I should be getting a full time job again right now and not expect to have other members of the public help us!
I hope that some others on here don't have a change in circumstances and find themselves having to claim anything, but if they did, once I am working again, I would be happy to contribute my taxes to help them out.
xx

no-oneknowsme

shellyruby wrote: »

thanks for pointing that out.goodness dosent take much to get people riled up on here simply because i liked writing in bold..i didnt realise bold writing was very hard on the eyes.

Even though you come across as a very defensive person I thought I should reply to this^^^^.

I did say that I do not wish to get involved in the squabbles which are on going in relation to whether the OP should stay at home and raise their child. The reason I wont get involved is because I just couldnt care either way!

Do you think the opinion of people on a forum is is going to change the OP's mind once she has it made up?

I will however say that if you think that this post is me being "riled" then it is obvious that you are new to the boards :rotfl:.

I was merely pointing out that posting in big bold letters is sore on the eyes!

Seem you didnt like the advice? Oh dear...tragic...how sad. :rotfl:

michelle1506

What do you think used to happen in not so very long ago times? The current system of heavily subsidised childcare for a broad range of incomes did not exist even when I had my eldest child and he is still in Primary school. People either worked round the other parents shifts if they could, asked family members to help them out or delayed the return to work till their youngest child went into f-time education.

Some of us DON'T HAVE other family members to help them out