concerns about some children

heretolearn_2

"Far more of a worry than a girl wearing just knickers/trousers is seeing them in little bra shaped bikinis implying that they do have something that needs covering up, that is a far more sexual image than them wearing no top at all."

Hear hear!

gingin_2

peachyprice wrote: »

Far more of a worry than a girl wearing just knickers/trousers is seeing them in little bra shaped bikinis implying that they do have something that needs covering up, that is a far more sexual image than them wearing no top at all.

I couldn't agree with this more.

I find it odd when I see prepubescent girls at the beach/pool in bikini's and I certainly wouldn't let dd wear one, or any two piece until she was old enough to have a strong opinion on it but there seems something sweet and care free when you see a small child running around the beach/ garden in just their undies or swimming bottoms.

Blackpool_Saver

So you'd think it was ok if it was a boy??????? *shrug*

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

It's not ok for boys or girls to be naked in the street, I am against the playstation generation myself, playing out is fine but please put clothes on first !

Blackpool_Saver

rachbc wrote: »

Yep and its the 'dirty minded' people who are a disgrace, not the kids. How dare we take away their innocence by telling them the can't take their clothes off incase some hedge lurking peado can't help themselves - what message does that give them - that its their fault??? For goodness sake!

No, you are missing the point, you don't have to tell them WHY they should be covered up, just tell them they should.
Of course it's sad we have to, but let's live in the REAL world and not the world as you would LIKE it to be....

balletshoes

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

No, you are missing the point, you don't have to tell them WHY they should be covered up, just tell them they should.
Of course it's sad we have to, but let's live in the REAL world and not the world as you would LIKE it to be....

okay, the real world in this situation is a little kid running around on her own street and popping in and out her own house, with other neighbourhood kids around, at 6.30 on a weekend evening, with no top on. thats the real world - i still don't see the problem?

themull1

I didnt let my kids out when they were three, its not the responsibility of other kids to look after them. Is it so all the parents can sit on their fat bums and watch Jeremy Kyle? cos tiny kids only seem to run about on rough housing estates.

RacyRed

themull1 wrote: »

I didnt let my kids out when they were three, its not the responsibility of other kids to look after them. Is it so all the parents can sit on their fat bums and watch Jeremy Kyle? cos tiny kids only seem to run about on rough housing estates.

What rubbish! Children are allowed to play when their parents deem it safe.

The local kids run about in the quiet (village) street where I live. It would look to a stranger as if they were unsupervised, but glance in at many a window and you will see adults with an eye on them.

And what a healthy, polite, happy bunch of kids they are. If the traffic gets a bit busy, whoever spots it calls the kids to get out of the street and off they race to safety of the playing field with a smile and a wave.

Of course there are always a couple of littlies toddling along in the wake of their older brothers and sisters. And I don't recommend trying to stop the tiny tots if you value your ear drums. Better to pop out of the gate and stand in front of the cars until the little ones are clear and safe.

We should all be doing whatever we can to preserve the right of children to inter-act with each other and explore the world they live in, with a balance of freedom and security.

rachbc

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

No, you are missing the point, you don't have to tell them WHY they should be covered up, just tell them they should.
Of course it's sad we have to, but let's live in the REAL world and not the world as you would LIKE it to be....

Yes and in the real world the vast majority of children DON'T get abused, and those that do are usually by a relative or person in a position of trust not a stranger who has seen them running about without a top on!

And perhaps if a more people lived their lives how they would like the world to be it would be a better and safer place for everyone - rather than a world of mistrust, fear and isolation - where kids are only allowed to play in a supervised, controlled, sanitised soft play version of life cos the 'real world' is just too scary!

RacyRed

p_joker wrote: »

Im not sure if Im just being a busy body or if there's someone I can talk to about this, I visit my dad once a week and a few doors up from him there are a family with a few kids, I don't have any concerns about their overall well being but I was quite shocked the other day - they allow the kids to play in the street for hours even though their quite young I don't allow mine at age 4 to play in the street and I think one of theirs is younger than that, but on Saturday the little girl was in the street around 6.30 naked apart from a pair of knickers! she went back in the house and came out with a pair of trousers but no top, but she's been doing it most nights, she runs about with hardly any clothes on, I find it shocking that in this day and age her mother lets this go on. What would you do? If i have a word with the mother i run this risk of being told to do one and I don't want to phone anyone if I can avoid it

Try popping out and chatting to the kids. You will soon find out if you have any cause for concern or not.

peachyprice

themull1 wrote: »

I didnt let my kids out when they were three, its not the responsibility of other kids to look after them. Is it so all the parents can sit on their fat bums and watch Jeremy Kyle? cos tiny kids only seem to run about on rough housing estates.

Where did you deduce that fact from, the Jeremy Kyle show?