concerns about some children

pigpen

rachbc wrote: »

kids just don't like wearing them - my dd is a perpetual undresser - we compromise at knickers if we have company!

I had a naked one too.. she learned to strip at 14 months.. and refused to wear anything until she went to nursery at 3.5.. and it was only while at nursery.. she once got herself naked strapped in the pushchair.. snowsuit, cardigan, dungarees, tshirt, bodysuit and nappy... she was about 16 months and it was snowing.. she stripped in tesco.. everywhere we went it was a nightmare.. she liked to draw green circles on herself too.. and with biro.. we called her Stig!! She is 8 now and much better thank goodness

Vaila

I dont get it. Folk go on about "the good old days" where children were out playing in the streets all day, yet when a parent allows their children some freedom some busy body thinks their being neglective!

What would be better, a child plonked infront of the tv all day and night or one outside playing? The clothing is not an issue, and obviously the parents feel that the area is safe for the child to quite rightly play unattended.

carefullycautious

I was thinking about this situation the other day.

1.We have a family by us who have 4 children who have been allowed to roam free from very early ages. The two boys are very close and are often seen cycling on the same bike together all over the streets and fields. They are the fittest healthiest looking children I have seen for a long time.

2.On the other hand you have children again living by us who never see the light of day, are ferried to and from school and are on the way to being obese/unfit adults. They are not 'allowed' to play in the street.

The first family get the most remarks from neighbours about how terrible it is that these children are allowed to roam, ferel kids remarks etc

You cant win sometimes.

ellay864

What's the street like? Mine played outside from quite a young age as it's a small cul-de-sac leading onto a quiet through road. Our house wasn't near the 'open' end and I could see them from my house, I also know other mums in the street watched too...the kids thought they had freedom when in fact there was a lot more surveillance on them than they realised. 6.30 on Saturday wouldn't have been that dark...I'd worry more if young kids were playing out late when they should be in bed let alone indoors. You say you don't have any general concerns about their well being so I'm assuming they're generally clean and well looked after. It doesn't sound to me like this is neglect but being in an environment where they can be happily relaxed

janninew

I wouldn't be overly concerned about the playing out at a young age, I would be more worried about the child being cold. It's hardly been the weather to play out half naked, I wouldn't allow my toddler outside in this weather in next to nothing! Its still only March, not the middle of summer!! I've had to scrape ice of my car for the past 2 mornings!

Svenena

peachyprice wrote: »

The world is the same place it was 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago

One thing that has changed is that there are a LOT more cars around. If the child is actually playing on the street, that would be a concern for me. At that age she's small enough to be difficult to spot, and probably not have a great deal of road awareness.

p_joker

VfM4meplse wrote: »

It's not acceptable for children of that age to be out half dressed and unsupervised, if you're fearful ofpersonal repercussions then inform social services and let them take action - at this stage it will only be a warning. If someone chooses to neglect their children in this way they don't deserve them.

well thank goodness Im not the only one that thinks this isn't right,
Im quite shocked at how many people think its ok. I don't lock up my kids all day in front of a tv, i take them to soft play places, park etc for one I have more respect for my neighbours to let them make a noise outside their house and how is it ok to be running about in your underwear at 6.30 at night in the cold? - hot summers day in a back garden with a paddling pool - fine an evening in march down a steet not being watched - wrong !

Keeping_Motivated

If you feel concerned in any sense then I would phone the NSPCC, you can do it anonymously and you can ask for their advice and guidance.


Worried about a child? You may be their only hope. Call the NSPCC Helpline now on 0808 800 5000

clearingout

ellay864 wrote: »

You say you don't have any general concerns about their well being so I'm assuming they're generally clean and well looked after. It doesn't sound to me like this is neglect but being in an environment where they can be happily relaxed

My 19th month old leaves the house to do the school run at 8:30am and is generally spotless. By the time we're leaving school at 9:15am he's usually filthy - rolls around the play equipment with the older children, crawls on the floor, falls over....I often wonder if other mums think I never wash him!

rachbc

p_joker wrote: »

well thank goodness Im not the only one that thinks this isn't right,
Im quite shocked at how many people think its ok. I don't lock up my kids all day in front of a tv, i take them to soft play places, park etc for one I have more respect for my neighbours to let them make a noise outside their house and how is it ok to be running about in your underwear at 6.30 at night in the cold? - hot summers day in a back garden with a paddling pool - fine an evening in march down a steet not being watched - wrong !

How do you know she wasn't being watched and how do you know she was cold? How often have you seen this happen?