OS Sunday 26th November 2006

Penny-Pincher!!

Hi Queenie

He did actually speak/confide with me 2 weeks ago. I suggested all the normal advice regarding saving money etc but I think it was more to do with his partner running up the debt which he didnt know about till 2 weeks ago. Im going to post a thread later on DFW in more detail.

I have gone through our converstaion in my head many times the last 2 days and I did everything I could/say to help but I still feel so guilty. His partner had walked out the week before and not explained anything or told him how much debt they were in. I suggested that they talk and communicate and at least they would know what they are dealing with and take it from there. I kept positive about his partner and reasoned.

No funeral date yet as its counted as suspicious and an autopsy etc needs to be done.

I feel so awful! It was obviously all too much for him to take in. They were due to get married in February.

PP

Dumyat

PP that is so sad. suicide for any reason leaves more questions than answers and so many "what if's" dont blame yourself.

well at last a day off for me. No more essay housework is badly needing done but I am home alone tomorrow and will get proper deep clean done from top to bottom.
today will visit family, sort out my mum's sky subscription (they have cut off her beloved sports channels,) She is elderly and poorly, and gets mixed up when she has to phone about stuff like this. So will need to be there listening in while she phones them. They will only discuss it with the account holder. does anyone know if you can get round that?
will drop in to asda on the way home to get a few bits and pieces to tide us over until payday

cheerfulness4

PP - So sorry to hear about your friend. Debt (and dishonesty) can have such tragic consequences, the poor man.

Had slept so well last night and have woken up to lovely sunshine, so definitely full of cheerfulness this morning. Rained mercilessly on us yesterday when we were shopping so hoping to stay dry when we nip out again today.

WM on, crossiants just going in oven for breakfast and feeling goooood!

Take care all.

iwanttosave_2

PP I am so sorry to hear about your friend, I will be thinking of you.

Queenie

Penny-Pincher!! wrote:

.... I have gone through our converstaion in my head many times the last 2 days and I did everything I could/say to help but I still feel so guilty. His partner had walked out the week before and not explained anything or told him how much debt they were in. I suggested that they talk and communicate and at least they would know what they are dealing with and take it from there. I kept positive about his partner and reasoned.

No funeral date yet as its counted as suspicious and an autopsy etc needs to be done.

I feel so awful! It was obviously all too much for him to take in. They were due to get married in February.

PP

You have absolutely nothing, *nothing* to feel guilty about!!! It's natural for those who endure the aftermath of a suicide to feel guilty, but truly, there is no 'blame' to be laid. It's a very individual decision; taken in a moment.

It's unusual to treat a suicide as a "suspicious death", because they are very different. But yes, an inquest will need to be held. Even without an inquest, they should still be able to have a funeral. When a close relation of mine committed suicide, the funeral was able to be held a week later but the inquest was held the following month. Whoever is dealing with the arrangements may need to ask questions about that so they are certain of procedures.

My heart goes out to all who are touched by this sad, sad event.

tired_mum

PP dont really know what to say except that you were a good friend to them and you did yor best to help when they needed it
well all quiet in the tired house ironing done fri so just general clean up mum over for roast and then hubby on nights mystery shop tomorrow and then off to collect some bits from freecycle telewest coming to install cable upstairs as well
good luck to all the little OS'ers playing footie or other sports
hugs to all who need them
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TWINK:beer:

comping_cat

:bdaycake: HAPPY BIRTHDAY TWINK:bdaycake:

PP - sorry to hear about your friend :grouphug:

DS had a bad day at the football yesterday, Plymouth lost and then when we got home, DSs main team also lost. He was then gutted when Ben was in the bottom 2 in XFactor!!!! Poor lad, it always comes in 3s!!!!
We then went to a friends house for a 'housemoving' party, and had a lovely time (even though i wasnt drinking!!!) but we didnt get home until 12.20!!!! We were all shattered, so went straight to bed and have only just gotton up!!! (even DS who is always up early)
Ive put my bedding in the WM, and im just about to put the lamb in the oven for lunch today, i love a Sunday roast!!!!
Right, due to our slow start, need to get moving, and want to watch Strictly come dancing that we taped last night.
Have a lovely day everyone,
Take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

susiesaver

PP that is so sad. My thoughts are with you.

Sue

Churchmouse

:bdaycake: Happy Birthday Twink!! Have a great day!! Let everyone else do the work.


PP ((((hugs)))) to you and your family in your sadness. Such a tradgedy, but you did all anyone could do. Take care.

Topher

PP Very sorry to hear of your loss. What you're going through is entirely expected and I hope you come out of it understanding that you tried to do what you could, and that there is no guilt apportioned to you.
As I said, I am so sorry.

T.