Worry about leaving my son :((

lilac_rainbow

Spendless wrote: »

If you'd had a bad experience when others are watching your children then that will influence your decisions. For a few years I refused to go away o/night because there had been an occassion when we had a spare ferry crossing to use up (we'd been let down over a family holiday let after booking the ferry and for various reasons were unable to use it on a different family hol) so we asked a family member if they would have the children and if so we would go the weekend that suited the person babysitting. So far, so good. Apart from the person we left in charge decided to do something else instead that weekend, 50 miles away from our home and left a teenager in charge instead, something they hadn't mentioned to us, or we'd agreed on. They were even going to leave the teenager in charge overnight, till DH had sharp words and they changed their mind. We were overseas by this point with no way home till morning.

That's actually pretty bad. I'd have gone berserk tbh.

I do leave my kids overnight but only ever with their grandparents, I wouldn't trust anyone else enough, and I do it when I'm doing child unfriendly activities like going to a concert or (dare she say it) a nightclub. The kids love their little sleep overs & their grandparents do too

lisaloo1977

Hi everyone,

Thanks again everyone and thanks especially to nenen for your great responses and the time you took to write them:T:T

I don't think I explained myself well, or I made it come across in a way I did not mean.
My son is 4, I have left him before to go to a birthday party at Jack Daniels that I won on here:D I was nervous but also excited to go, hubby stayed home with him, I think that made me feel better:eek:

My son has stayed over at his cousins house and his nana's, he is fine with that and I am fine with that. In fact he loves it, who am I trying to kid! I often went to my Nans who lived on a farm for the summer holidays and had great times. I don't want to smother him or cause him to have separation issues, I don't want to do anything that makes his lovely little mind worry or doubt things, I'd like to think there's plenty of time for that later in life:eek:

I know it boils down to my fear of flying, which I manage quite well, I mean it does not stop me taking flights. I have been to Cambodia this year which took several flights on each leg, didn't like It but it didn't stop me. I think it's just panic about our first trip without him, both leaving him. I don't doubt he is in safe hands, and will have an amazing time but I still worry, I can't help it.


My hubby is of the thoughts that if I did back out it's my birthday present so it's my loss:o however as I am typing my son is ringing his nanny to say night and telling her all about him coming to visit. Whilst I will worry and I will question myself a million times between now and going, we will go.

Can I also ask for my husband for more info on a flozie (sp) lol he really wants to find out if he is missing out lol. Also we regular have time just for us, we go for meals, cinema, gym, walks but we also do lots of things as a family as that is what we are first and for most a family.

I joined the mummy club because I wanted someone to share our life with, a little part of me and hubby and that has not changed, and yes I love him lots.

As it stands we are going, we are going alone and I'm going to try to breathe and think positive thoughts every time I have bad thoughts.

Oh and if that does not work, I'm going for Billie Joe as the chances of being that close to him again is well pretty impossible. Failing that Valium and a few drinks. ( not !!!!ed, it's bad for you on flights to drink)

lisaloo1977

poet123 wrote: »

I know where you are coming from here.....I never left mine for anything that involved a plane journey until the eldest was 18! and even now the youngest aged 13 always travels with us when we fly. Its def something to do with the flying, I used to be fine, flew all over the world! Now I just worry so I totally understand.

It is irrational, as we have left them all with grandparents, and with each other when they were older, when we have gone away in this country for the weekend.
Agree again, I'm happy to leave him here, I am happy for him to go play at friends house, in fact his best friend had a sleepover here on friday and we took him to diggerland

Like you it is the plane which is the issue. Completely irrational as we could just have easily left them orphaned in a car crash 2 miles away, I
know this, but I never managed to rationalise it enough to get on
Not sure if I will, but I am going to
try!

Fortunately, or unfortunately, whichever way you view it, I never had to
make the choice....I do hope you manage to go, it sounds wonderful and
a lovely thing for your OH to have done. I know how hard it will be
though.

thank you so much, your last comment is nice to read, I know I'm not alone in these worries and there is no right answer but I'm going to try my best:o