Living life, loving life.......hypno's having a ball!

Karmacat

Onwards and somewhere ... thats a *beautiful* phrase.

hypno06

Thanks MrsMoo and KC - I normally write "onwards and upwards" but sometimes I feel that there is just too much of an expectation there - which then leads to a feeling of failure if you don't actually go upwards, if that makes sense.

I found that when I have typed "onwards and upwards" recently, I have done so with a physical *sigh*.....and that said quite a lot really!

Am heading somewhere, of course I am.....and I am starting to see that it doesn't necessarily matter *where* I am heading, as long as it is not a bad place, and as long as I (and those around me, eg the children) gain *something* from it.

This week I have reacquainted myself with several things that I have found "special".....not just for me, but watching what other people have - interactions between a father and son that made me smile, sitting outside on a mild night with someone just looking at the stars, having some facebook chat conversations with friends that I've not spoken to for a while, or have only had time for a fleeting "hello" recently......that sort of thing.

MrsMoo, I think one of the problems with the dreams that I had when I was little, is that I have completely blown them out of the water, or have realised that actually they are not what I want. I wanted to be married....I know the reality of that one was not what I dreamed of (although of course I have two fabulous children from it).....I wanted that big house on that particular road - had been dreaming of that one since I was about 7....and when it came to it, I realised that my current home was actually much closer to my dreams, and yet a world away from that "other" dreamhouse that I had been nurturing for over 30 years!

I met my husband when I was 15.....and spent the next 25 years with him. Most of my dreams, therefore, revolved around *that* life.

It is time for new dreams to be dreamed. I am learning....I am often surprised at the answers.....but I am definitely heading *somewhere*.

xxx

ZTD

hypno06 wrote: »

Thanks MrsMoo and KC - I normally write "onwards and upwards" but sometimes I feel that there is just too much of an expectation there - which then leads to a feeling of failure if you don't actually go upwards, if that makes sense.

I found that when I have typed "onwards and upwards" recently, I have done so with a physical *sigh*.....and that said quite a lot really!

The "onwards and upwards" phrase has been subverted so it no longer means what it says. What it means now is "Get me out of here" - where "here" is perceived as very much downwards.

The phrase is now a sign of endurance, rather than of aspiration.

hypno06 wrote: »

Am heading somewhere, of course I am.....and I am starting to see that it doesn't necessarily matter *where* I am heading, as long as it is not a bad place, and as long as I (and those around me, eg the children) gain *something* from it.

But you've got to be careful of the "something", otherwise you'll end up in Bolton for an away match, where the "something" is "Don't go to Bolton..."

hypno06 wrote: »

It is time for new dreams to be dreamed. I am learning....I am often surprised at the answers.....but I am definitely heading *somewhere*.

That's good. And remember, just because you didn't dream of it, it doesn't mean you shouldn't have.

hypno06

We got 3 points away to Bolton.....it wasn't all bad!! Besides, I wasn't even remotely tempted. Someone even gave me their ticket.....and it sits firmly in my purse unused!

ZTD wrote: »

And remember, just because you didn't dream of it, it doesn't mean you shouldn't have.

This is very true - thank you

Have just returned from an impromptu coffee with my lovely friend. Does mean that I now have to go without a lunchbreak, resulting in a looong day - but I can cope with that one

lucielle

Coffee with friends......lovely.
L

MrsMoo2U

This week I have reacquainted myself with several things that I have found "special".....not just for me, but watching what other people have - interactions between a father and son that made me smile, sitting outside on a mild night with someone just looking at the stars, having some facebook chat conversations with friends that I've not spoken to for a while, or have only had time for a fleeting "hello" recently......that sort of thing.

:T:T for me this is what the "something" became when I started to think about where I was heading and what I wanted in life which I realised was to just start to appreciate life itself for what I had. Loving the image of sitting and looking at the stars. I am lucky enough to live in a rural village near a beach so at night here the stars are astonishing, breath taking and very magical.

MrsMoo, I think one of the problems with the dreams that I had when I was little, is that I have completely blown them out of the water, or have realised that actually they are not what I want. I wanted to be married.

And this is why it is important to look back and remember what your dreams were because then you can see that you have actually achieved some of them, you were married, ok it didn't last forever but things in life rarely do but you fulfilled your dream. And you can also sort the wheat from the chaff and realise what you do still want and what you can let go of......... dreams have a habit of holding us back and making us sad sometimes. As well as putting too much pressure on us. And then you are left with anything that you might still want to pursue in the full knowledge that now you have the strength, experience and ability to follow any dreams that you might have had.

It is time for new dreams to be dreamed. I am learning....I am often surprised at the answers.....but I am definitely heading *somewhere*.

How about.................

Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead. Louisa May Alcott

hypno06

Thank you xxx

Triciaxx

A lot of people (me, included) married young with the belief that it was forever. It is pretty awful when your dreams are shattered and you do need to grieve for what might have been.

I do think, though, that if our dreams don't change as we mature, we get stuck in a rut. My ex still has the same hobbies he had when he was 16, he worked for the same firm all his life, lived in the same town and has not changed anything in the house since I moved out over 30 years ago - yes, you heard that right - NOTHING.

Read my sig - it comes from my rather wise granddaughter aged 19! I've no idea where she got it from but it really sums up how life really is.

Have a great weekend.

MrsMoo2U

OK Hypno, spill the beans. What was the workout like and was it all CV or some weights

hypno06

I just do cardio.....I get more benefit headspace wise from that sort of thing.

just got home and runchum has invited me to the village pub for a drink. I'll do that - very low key and close to home to make an exit if I need to.

Tricia - I think there are a lot of people "stuck" like your ex. I just know I am not going to be one of them

Have a good evening everyone x