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The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

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  • tearose
    tearose Posts: 78 Forumite
    Day 5 AF for me please!

    Today was the hardest day for me so far (but haven't even managed a week yet!). One thing I have realised is that I drink out of boredom. I had nothing planned tonight and after a long and boring day at work a little voice inside was telling me it would be alright to buy a bottle of wine on the way home, "I deserved it" etc. I did think I could blame stress, as I always felt more like a drink after a day at work, but I was not remotely stressed today. This is what always happens when I try to cut down/give up for a period of time, and (up until now) I'd always give in, and probably the same thing would happen the next night, and and next night and then I'd have a social event etc and I might end up having one day AF that week, sometimes none.

    Anyway, that's the basic story but there are also (because I guess I upped the ante by drinking so regularly) the nights out, and of not quite remembering how I got home etc, which although not happening that frequently, kept happening. And the hangovers after these events were certainly getting worse - wiping out whole days and sometimes whole weekends...

    Anyway that's a little part of my story, and so I've decided I need to do a month off totally and then evaluate things from there. I've accepted (I am 90% sure I think!) that a life without alcohol does not have to be a miserable one, which I think was the one thing stopping me from doing anything about it earlier - the thought of living in constant deprivation of something was just miserable... I am also fortunate in that I do have a couple of really good "role models" on the periphery of my circle of friends who don't drink but are still wonderful fun, and who I have recently come to be in in awe of. It's nice to think that maybe I could, maybe, be in awe of myself too...

    Anyway a bit of my story. I'm going to post this now as my battery is going to run out and I'm always losing long posts I attempt to make on here! Might need to come back and edit my terrible spelling and grammar later.

    X
  • Hi everyone

    Didn't do too well yesterday with not drinking and ended up having far too much wine and getting really emotional and silly, and arguing with my boyfriend - and can't remember bits of the evening which I really hate - particularly bad as it was a Sunday night but am off this week so think I was using that as an excuse. So been feeling very groggy, fuzzy headed and basically sorry for myself today - looking forward to waking up with a clear head tomorrow morning. I've pledged to have no more booze this week at all.

    So far in September then I have had 2/30 AFD - aiming for 20/30 so a fair way to go yet...

    Thanks for adding me to the list, really helps I think to log on, even if I have slipped up a bit...

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  • bearacus wrote: »
    Roll UP Roll UP .... MON-THURS Challenge

    Everyone one is welcome to join

    I'd like to come in this week too please Bearacus, and am ready to count tonight.

    I just posted a long post and then lost it. Welcome to the newbies and well done FPT and Legsand and ... and can't remember everything now.. So tired I'll just say shaggy, no target for me for September please but I've done 3 so far. Thursday, Sunday and tonight. I got up to 6 last month but mostly was just the odd glass so it should be easy to do better in September!

    Sleep well everyone. Sweet dreams.
  • Wanna_Bee_Free
    Wanna_Bee_Free Posts: 2,357 Forumite
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    edited 5 September 2011 at 9:52PM
    Thanks for adding me to the list, really helps I think to log on, even if I have slipped up a bit...

    Stitch

    Well done for logging on here, I can certainly identify with your story. I often couldn't remember the journey home from a pub with OH especially if it's cold outside I seem to get drunker on the stagger back to the tube or bus. If I'm on my own I seem to be a little more restrained, but still not enough that I wouldn't be embarrassed to see myself weaving down the road on CCTV or video footage.

    I found that socialising when I moved to London increased my drinking and then I started drinking wine at home in the evenings and it became a habit. Before that I used to drive everywhere and rarely drank. I could go months without alcohol and not even want to drink in a pub at all. Somehow the fun loving party girl who was having a great time and being a little giggly became the maudlin or a bit boring drunk in the pub or a bottle and a half of wine at home and then spending the next day hungover. I kid myself I deserve it and treat it like a treat or a stress tonic but secretly fear if I could stop for longer each month like some folk on here I'd find out my stress is mostly triggered by drinking. So I'm a bit better with AFDs this week, a bit worse next week to make sure I don't have to wake up out of my stupor and recognise that it affects me more than I think.

    Well, that's been useful for me to have to introduce myself. Thanks Cuppatea. Off to sleep now, sober dreams everyone.
  • May2013
    May2013 Posts: 423 Forumite
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    edited 6 September 2011 at 12:28AM
    Evening All - AF for me tonight so 3 AFD's please shaggy and 1 for the SNC please bearacus.

    Happy Birthday for last Saturday prettykitty.

    Not sure when or why I started drinking too much. I think like many it started off with a glass of wine every now and then at the end of a busy day, this turned into a daily occurrence and over a period of years I found that the number of AF's in a year could pretty much be counted on one hand....my wake up call was when I found that my overall well being was being affected. I was waking up almost every morning feeling dreadful, I had periods of anxiety, my mind was sluggish, my face and body were bloated, I had the most dreadful bags under my eyes and for a woman in her mid 40's I was looking well past my sell by date. I still have days when I struggle (one day at a time and all that) but on the whole weekday drinking is a thing of the past and while I still have a drink at the weekends it's a fraction of what I used to drink....and the added bonus is that I've lost a stone and a half in weight, my skin has a healthy glow, I feel 10 years younger and I'm nearly £100 a month better off....and all thanks to the support of the lovely people on this thread :)
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  • Well that's 5 for me for Sept AND I went to the gym tonight!
    Can we just take it as read I didn't mean to offend you?
  • maman
    maman Posts: 29,817 Forumite
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    Chloris wrote: »
    I have never tried to drink it defrosted :eek:.
    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
    actually found that I have severely gone off my previous favourite wine :eek:

    That's happened to me too. I thought it was maybe the quality was going down for them to try and maintain prices but I think I just lost the taste. I've always enjoyed a red. I switched to white but I'm getting fed up of too much of that too. Maybe I'll invest in a bottle of barley water!
    looking forward to waking up with a clear head tomorrow morning.

    me too stitch, it's been no fun reaching for the paracetamol as soon as I opened my eyes.

    That's 2AF for September and 1 for this week's SNC Bearacus. Thanks both.

    Anyone seen Miss Piggy lately? :wave:if you're lurking.
  • shaggydoo
    shaggydoo Posts: 8,435 Forumite
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    Morning :hello:

    One AFD for me please Bearacus.

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    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • shaggydoo
    shaggydoo Posts: 8,435 Forumite
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    please can I rejoin the list with a target of 14 Shaggy??

    Sure thing! You're on the list :D
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • bearacus
    bearacus Posts: 824 Forumite
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    morning,

    Another 2AF please shaggy (sunday and last night) and 1 for the SNC x

    Cuppatea - welcome to the thread again:hello:and good luck with your AF Journey x

    Lots of stories I can relate to about drinking and how mine got out of hand x

    Im off to the hospital with my mum today so gotta dash :eek: We alaways seem to get the earliest appointment !!

    bearacus x

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