The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

bearacus

:ASchool Night Challenge:A

AnnieG
Bearacus
Chloris
Danielly
Fakeplastictwee
Maman
May2013
Pricey
Yoemma

:A3 nights:A

Gien

:A2 nights :A

LindsayG

Any last minute takers welcome

gien

Evening. Legsand, I understand exactly where you're coming from and I know that posting on this thread and getting support is a huge step forward.
I'm not AF tonight , had wine with dinner, but much less than usual.
I'd like to do the rest of the SNC please ( sorry, on phone so colours/fonts hard), need to save alcohol and money!

May2013

Evening All

Welcome legsand :hello: you sound really determined and focused, what a great place to start!! Good luck on your AF journey, you'll get loads of support and encouragement here.

Well done bearacus for staying AF last night.

FPT - sorry to hear about your van, how awful for you to have this happen twice! Is there anywhere else you can keep it so that it stays out of harms way?

AF tonight - 11 AFD's please shaggy and 1 for the SNC please

graemecarter

danielley wrote: »

Hi,

Just discovered this thread by searching 'teetotal' in the forum search. I've not read all of thread, as my broadband is playing up and keeps losing connection, but what I have read is very inspiring.

I went out last night and mixed my drinks and ended up having to come home because I felt so unwell. I ended up being sick and then collapsing in bed, and I have been ill again this morning.

I'm usually very conscious of how much I drink and make sure I space out my drinks and have plenty of water, but every 6months or so, I will have a night like last night when I go too far.

I feel really ashamed today; I can remember flashes from last night and I remember speaking to some acquaintances of the boss of my ex, and I told them some information that I probably shouldn't have and would never have done if I was sober or just 'merry'. I also remember some of my friends partners laughing at me; they find it hilarious when I get drunk, as 99 times out of 100 I stay the most sober of everyone, and they usually tell me to relax more and drink more, so I think they find the novelty of my inebriation hilarious.

I know that I didn't do anything terrible last night and it was a one off (well an every six month or so occurence) but the fact that I could have done something really humiliating has terrified me, as I have done so very bad things in the past when drunk and this has brought it all back to the forefront of my mind.

So.... I have been thinking about becoming teetotal, but at this moment I dont know how I would manage it, all of my circle of friends drink and I know from when I used to work in a pub, it is not pleasant socialising with people when I am sober and nobody else is.

I'm sure that many others have faced this dilemma, of considering becoming teetotal and I just wanted some advice really; maybe I am overreacting because i had one bad night.

I apologise in advance if I have offended anyone, I know that there are people struggling with addictions and my post probably sounds like self indlugant twaddle, but the though of never drinking again seems so alien, so maybe I am addicted?

Just speaking from my perspective, and mine alone. I used to think I was in control of alcohol as I didn't always get drunk. Sometimes (quite often) I would have a few drinks, and knock it on the head.
However, sometimes I didn't intend to go out and get wasted, but I did (especially at the most inopportune times!)

If I lost control of my car in 5% of all journeys, I am sure that would think that I was NEVER in control, and wouldn't drive at all.
That's like me and alcohol, just because I am out of control sometimes, means I am out of control all the time.
I need to remember that.
I cannot drink the smallest quantity of alcohol safely.

Thus for me, cutting down is not an option. I tried that and couldn't manage it. I am all or nothing, so I don't drink at all.

I was good at stopping drinking, but could never stay stopped.
Thus I needed help, and then I could change myself. It's the sober me that picks up that first drink, so my problem isn't alcohol, it's me.

Good luck whatever you decide

graemecarter

legsand wrote: »

Hi,
My attitude to alcohol is out of control, I am unable to have just one or two glasses of wine from a bottle I drink the whole bottle.
I dont drink every day, but I do think about drinking everyday and would like to drink everyday.
I cant pin point when alcohol became such a large part of my life I have personel problems then we all do i am no different to anyone else.
So i have now wine in the fridge, no wine in the rack Today is day one of being alchol free.
I am crying while typing this not to sure if its because I have admitted I have a problem with alcohol or because Im not having anymore wine LOL.

Snap

This seems fairly common (perhaps it's just me and the company I keep).
I hope things get better for you

PriceySOS

1 SNC please, Bearacus!

Feels good to be back on the wagon after my indulgent holiday.

Hope everybody is well.

maman

It probably sounds ridiculous but I really enjoy jumping back on the wagon on a Monday:) Unfortunately I really enjoy jumping off at the weekend too:o

6AF for August please Shaggy and 1 for the SNC thanks Bearacus.

bearacus

AF for me last night please shaggy and 1 for the SNC

legsand

Morning
I didnt drink last night:)
Did drink my fizzy water out of a wine glass though:rotfl:

Am going to find a money box and put the money I would spend on wine in lets just see how much I was spending a month.

Off to work now Hope you all have a good day

xx

happyshopper

Hi all old and new. GG and Jo, great to see you!

Am on 9 thanks Shaggy. Hope you're enjoying your Bath.

I bought the M&S 2 meals for £10 deal yesterday and chose the non-alcoholic option instead of the wine. Had to talk myself into it but wouldn't even have considered it before I came here.

hs