The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

maman

Chloris wrote: »

8 AFD in August, please Shaggy. I could not be bothered to go to the shops last night :rotfl:.

That's the very best way, don't buy any!!!

Have a great weekend all.

RuthnJasper

Hello all,

Had a grim couple of evenings, but not doing too bad. SO glad to hear about Miss P's car - hope she and the Piglets have a fantastic holiday!

Thanks to EVERYONE for your support this week - not sure I'd have made it without you.

Something to smile about though - today, Jasper's blog is FIVE YEARS OLD! Hurrah! I am going to treat myself to something small tonight to celebrate. And possibly to help the creative juices flow for "helping Jasper" with his anniversary post... Don't worry - after a week of alcohol-exile I am not going to do anything silly.

MUCH love to you all - have a terrific weekend!

R&J xxxx

P.S. Jasper's got a new after-shave that smells of breadcrumbs.
The birds love it.

beckseven

Happy anniversary Jaspers blog! I was af last night so thats 7 afds for me. I had a couple of glasses of wine and a can of lager (how classy that sounds) on Thursday night but I felt absolutely terrible yesterday. i don't think it was the alcohol but it probably didn't help but I felt so tired and ill i had to put dd to bed at lunchtime and put the telly on for ds and had 2 hours of sleep. I've been working nights and a lots of shifts at the weekends etc and usually when it's school time I get a bit of free time during the day to clean and chill out and have a bit of me time with ds being at school and dd at pre school but I haven't had that so i've been with the kids all day with full on days out to parks etc and then coming home to do another full on day at work 4-11pm so I think that yesterday my body just said ENOUGH! Went to bed at 10pm last night and woke up at 8 and drank some perfectly clear mineral water and feel a lot better for it today! I'm going to my brothers tonight for a bbq so wont be alcohol free but I want to get another good night's sleep in to make myself feel better so will be careful.

RuthnJasper

beckseven wrote: »

Happy anniversary Jaspers blog! I was af last night so thats 7 afds for me. I had a couple of glasses of wine and a can of lager (how classy that sounds) on Thursday night but I felt absolutely terrible yesterday. i don't think it was the alcohol but it probably didn't help but I felt so tired and ill i had to put dd to bed at lunchtime and put the telly on for ds and had 2 hours of sleep. I've been working nights and a lots of shifts at the weekends etc and usually when it's school time I get a bit of free time during the day to clean and chill out and have a bit of me time with ds being at school and dd at pre school but I haven't had that so i've been with the kids all day with full on days out to parks etc and then coming home to do another full on day at work 4-11pm so I think that yesterday my body just said ENOUGH! Went to bed at 10pm last night and woke up at 8 and drank some perfectly clear mineral water and feel a lot better for it today! I'm going to my brothers tonight for a bbq so wont be alcohol free but I want to get another good night's sleep in to make myself feel better so will be careful.

Thanks SO much Beckseven! SO sorry you had a rough day. Hope the BBQ makes up for it and you have a better week! xxx

shaggydoo

one4theroad wrote: »

Am i too late to set a target for August?

Not at all - whatever you want! How many AFDs have you done as well?

graemecarter

goodtimegirl wrote: »

Hi all

I've been a lurker on DFW for a while and saw this thread today.

I too have been having a nightmare with alcohol - had put a lot of weight on, made a show of myself all the time. Decided to try to give up for a while and get healthy. Was doing really well but then went to an event last week and fell off the wagon and again made a show of myself. Spent all of Friday being sick and actually blacked out in the bathroom and fell down injuring myself. As if that wasn't enough then met up with a friend (or perhaps not really a friend thinking about it as not sure can trust them) on Sat afternoon and got hammered again, spent loads and had an awful saturday night passed out on the sofa and then felt bad about myself all day today.

I'm pretty sure the reason I am unable to find a man is because of my drinking. But it's really hard. Have been through a lot over last couple of years (fiance left me for someone else who he is now marrying, had to move out of our house, got into debt because he wouldn't give me back what I paid towards the mortgage and now having some other issues I don't want to post here) and alcohol has probably been a way of coping.

Also, if I don't go out (so as to avoid temptation) I sit at home all weekend by myself.

Really hate myself at the moment and worry all the time about what my reputation is - feel like people laugh at me and their impression is "she's always p1ssed". I really do want to stop and haven't had a drink today (even though I've felt like it because I've been so bored) but just don't know how to prevent myself from giving in

So many parallels here. This is a powerful post.

I found it hard to be in loving, honest, relationships until I started to love (and even like) myself.
If I don't love me, why would anyone else?

One of the ways I love myself today is by not drinking. I am powerless over alcohol so putting it in my body is being abusive to myself. And I don't abuse those I love.
I couldn't love myself when drinking as I would do things I regret, and then beat myself up about it.
I would never talk to anyone in the same way I would talk to myself.
My alcoholism always wants the worst for me, so I need to be aware of that everyday and be good to myself.


Good luck.

graemecarter

fakeplastictwee wrote: »

AFD #1 for me today please, finally.

Khufu (cat) still very unwell, have wanted a glass of wine tonight as I'm fed up but decided to keep off it.

I used to want a drink when fed up, and I don't think it ever helped me.
But amazingly, the next time I was fed up I'd still want a drink, and never learnt that it didn't help

shaggydoo

maman wrote: »

Just popped back to say Happy Birthday to AnnieG for Tuesday. Have a good time in Devon!

and Chloris too

graemecarter

elantan wrote: »

hey all still floating about and still proud of you all ... hubby is nearly 10 weeks alcohol free now ... its hard going for us all ... and it doesnt seem to be getting any easier yet ... but it will i am sure ... keep up the good work

It only got easier for me when I changed myself.
The sober me picks up the first drink, so that tells me that my issue with alcohol is centred in the mind, not the body. Thus I need to change my mind if I am to have a free life without alcohol (and not be white-knuckling it)

graemecarter

mrsrainman wrote: »

Hi All!

Bearacus - thinking of you and your mum at this time. :grouphug:
Yoemma - well done for passing your exams :j

And welcome to al the newbies. As the others have said, you will get so much support here.

Well i'm still up against it with MrR. I can't remember the last time he went a whole day without having a drink. We're both so tired, but rather than having a sleep he would rather have a drink. I keep saying that the drink just means he falls unconscious, not sleeping. Which means he doesn't wake up in the night when LO does.

I'm fed up!!!!

MrsR xx

While my drinking declined a little after becoming a father, I didn't do anything about my drinking until my children were toddlers (and they were not the trigger for me getting help)
As an alcoholic, I put alcohol before my children. I hated that, but that's the nature of my addiction.
I owe it to my children to do everything in my power not to drink. I don't want to die early and not be around as much as I can, though that's what drinking was doing.