The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

bearacus

Mollypolly- :j congratulations on your anniversary
Gien- well done on a friday night AF

I wasnt AF last night as me and hubby had a few drinks while watching a dvd . I will be Af tonight and tommorow though x

Next week I will be doing a MON-Thur challenge if anyone wants to join x

bearacus

bearacus

:j Wednesday to Sunday Challenge :j

Bearacus :)

Gien :):)

3 Night Special

Miss P :)
Rachelww1

I'm happy to list 1/2 nights if anyone just wants to pledge for today or tomorrow

darwins_mum

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

In the last few years of my drinking I remember being bored with it, bored with the people around me and just bored with life in general. Yet I couldn’t change my behaviour and I seemed to be stuck in a loop repeating the same actions over and over again. It was only when I got help, changed myself and the way I was thinking that I managed to break out of the loop. Any other methods to control drinking failed for me until I changed myself and removed the need to drink.

Thanks CardboardChewer. I contacted AA last year, but didn't have the courage to attend a meeting. Still not sure if I like the idea of accepting that I am powerless to stop drinking. I thought I was previously powerless to give up other addictions, but I have successfully done so.
I am completely bored of people around me and bored with life in general. I have had a very emotional 18 months or so, but have taken bigger steps than ever before to feel better about myself.
I had a horrible realisation the other day that I have drunk consistently for all of my DS2 life and only drank excessively when I got married 17 years ago. It continued after the marriage ended, and now we are finally dealing with the financial aspects of our marriage (didn't realise we are still financially linked and I am taking legal action). This is increasing my anxiety levels which leaves me feeling as though I need to drink (sorry for the waffle).

There is a bit of me that thinks that I will stop drinking once the legal issues are sorted, but could do with some help as I feel as though I have become a little pitiful and dont like that feeling.
:mad:

maman

bearacus wrote: »

Mollypolly- :j congratulations on your anniversary
Gien- well done on a friday night AF

I wasnt AF last night as me and hubby had a few drinks while watching a dvd . I will be Af tonight and tommorow though x

Next week I will be doing a MON-Thur challenge if anyone wants to join x

bearacus

I'll be up for the Monday-Thurs challenge, please Bearcus.

Sorry to hear about your fuzzy head darwin's mum. While I have no experience of AA myself, it might be wrth you trying a group(s) to see if it suits/helps you? Enjoy your wedding today and then resolve to sort something out next week. Putting it off until the legal wrangling is over is just that - putting it off. Sorry if that sounds bossy but I'm assumng you want to give up completely as you're thinking about AA. Have a good day.

rachelww1

Not AF last night. Had too many vodkas to count. Have a banging head now. Mum phoned last night, she'd had the results from her last biopsy. She has cancer of the bile duct, and there's no cure. She's going to have chemo, but it will only prolong her life not cure the cancer. I'm not ready to loose my mum yet, she's only 74. I lost my dad to cancer 13 years ago when I was pregnant with my middle son. My eldest daughter knows as she lives with my mum..she's gutted. I have no idea how to tell the boys. They are 13 and 7. I think I'll leave it until we know how long she has left. I'm not really feeling emotional about this, as this is how I cope. Or maybe I'm just a hard !!!!! after all.

bearacus

Really sorry to hear your news rachelww1 x sending lots of:grouphug:

Life really isnt fair sometimes xx

hugs to to you and your family at this hard time x


bearacus x

maman

:grouphug: sending you this rachel. I don't think you're hard, it's just what I'd do myself (including the too many drinks too). I find that it means my family/friends just expect me to be strong and cope with situations which can be hard when others are having loads of sympathy and attention. Take care.

StressedOutSue

6 AFDs for me please Shaggy, thanks

darwins_mum

rachelww1 wrote: »

Not AF last night. Had too many vodkas to count. Have a banging head now. Mum phoned last night, she'd had the results from her last biopsy. She has cancer of the bile duct, and there's no cure. She's going to have chemo, but it will only prolong her life not cure the cancer. I'm not ready to loose my mum yet, she's only 74. I lost my dad to cancer 13 years ago when I was pregnant with my middle son. My eldest daughter knows as she lives with my mum..she's gutted. I have no idea how to tell the boys. They are 13 and 7. I think I'll leave it until we know how long she has left. I'm not really feeling emotional about this, as this is how I cope. Or maybe I'm just a hard !!!!! after all.

Hugs to you and yours at this hard time.
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jo1972

Rachel, big big hugs ((((())))) xxxxx