The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

MessedUpAndFedUp

Darn, just lost my reply.
WBF I think the trigger is my general unhappiness at the moment. The counselling is supposed to help me break negative patterns of behaviour, you know, where we have the same conversation all the time. I know need help and I need his support, but I don't know if he's prepared to give it.

Daughter is watching DVDs, must be due a nap soon as she must be shattered.

My mind is working overtime and I've got a knot in my stomach. I'm desperately trying to stop myself going to mums or phoning his mum, dad, sister, anyone really.

Enjoy your walk and I hope we speak soon.

I'm new to this, so can I put myself down for 30 days in June please

Chloris

MessedUp, try to calm down. It sounds as if you were wound up last night and it all burst out, and you are still wound up today although it is now coming out as guilt. Try a walk or to get some fresh air pegging out the washing. Do something simple and break those looping feelings and fears. When everyone has had some space, try a simple apology. You sound anxious, bewildered and confused. Try something quiet and stop thinking, just for half an hour. x

kdenty, my DD is right as rain now! We can cheer each other on with our June targets.

Wanna_Bee_Free

Going for a walk made me feel better.

Shaggy, I'd like to join in and set a target for June. I'd like to go for 25/30 days next month please.

Messed up, I hope you feel better soon.

MessedUpAndFedUp

Hi Chloris - anxious, bewildered and confused sounds right, and now the tears that have been threatening to come all morning have started plopping onto the keyboard, because you are being nice to me. Thank you for your kindness x

Things always burst out when I've had a drink, and I'm not a nice drunk which is why I need to stop. I don't want to lose everything and I'm the only one that can sort my drinking out.

When I am feeling not so wretched later, I will write hubby an apology letter. I'm going to speak to his mum tomorrow to apologise and ask for her help too.

Going to splash my face with water and try to find something constructive to do now.

WBF, thanks for your kind words too, it's nice to be welcomed and not feel so alone x

penelopedee_2

Messedup, everything will work itself out. Do something nice for yourself this afternoon and try and chill out a bit. I'm always very paranoid the next morning, even if I haven't had much to drink. Hope your day perks up a bit x

Shaggy can you put me down for 8 this month please.

Hope everyone is getting on ok today, Pen x

MessedUpAndFedUp

Hello again everyone. My day has improved a little, I'm being spoken to again and have had a text conversation with his mum. I've had a little nap too, going to have a bath and early night later.

We are going to have to work on things and I will definitely be back online very soon. I can't believe how much this has helped me today, to get through the worst of my booze blues.

I'd like to say thank you to everyone for your support and we'll speak soon xx

fedupandskint

The booze blues wear off the more AFDs you build in and you realise at a point that you suddenly notice you feel much much better AF

JUNE TARGET - 23AFD (on holiday for a week so taking 7 days off the total for this month)

maggiesoop

Sheepishly signing in....Had an almost total relapse in May. I'm just finding it so hard not to have that drink just before dinner at 7. I argue with myself from about 5pm everynight then justify it. The problem is that I'm not going berserk, only 3 or 4 glasses, which makes it easier to say it's not a problem. But of course it is if I can't say no. I'm going to give myself a target of 12 for June. I so want to feel that bright eyed way I had a month ago when I had 4 consecutive days without booze. It was just wonderful.

Sorry to hear a few of you guys have had problems, this thread is a godsend if you want to open your heart.

graemecarter

lost_soul_78 wrote: »

I drink too much always have.my aloholic dad died at 54. I am scared of geting off the roundabout alcohol was any celebration.

I thought there would be no fun in life without alcohol.
Even though alcohol was causing big issues in my work and family life, I still thought I needed it to enjoy life.
I see now that's nonsense, but I had to change myself.
Just stopping drinking would never be enough for me as I would always be miserable that I couldn't drink. So I had to change myself (and stay changed) thus be able to enjoy life without alcohol.
I was at a wedding yesterday - really enjoyed it and didn't drink a jot!

graemecarter

MessedUpAndFedUp wrote: »

Hello, I've finally plucked up the courage to post on this forum. I've made a fool of myself again, only worse than usual - my husband isn't talking to me. I'm scared and a bit needy today. I don't know what's going to happen and just want to cry. I need someone to tell me it's all going to be ok

I was in this position a lot. It's a horrid place to be.
It only got ok when I did something about it, and changed my actions.
The change had to come from me, but the great thing about that is that the power is with you. You are not reliant on anyone to change.