The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

graemecarter

MessedUpAndFedUp wrote: »

Having a few problems at home. Hubby works long hours and is away a lot and yesterday I think I ranted about it to anyone who would listen at a family do .... Hence he's not talking to me and I feel lower than a rattlesnakes belly, not to mention dog tired and poopy. He was in a mood anyway because of something else, so I didn't start drinking til late so he couldn't accuse me of being drunk. That soon went out of the window though.

So I've decided that I need to stop drinking - cutting down obviously isn't going to work for me and I don't want to wreck everything I've got, if I haven't already. I'm lucky that I don't have to work and can stay home with my little girl, we have a lovely house and now I'm feeling like an ungrateful cow because the long hours give us a good life. I really love my husband and just hope he can forgive me.

I found (by experience) that people only truly forgave me when I didn't do it again. Some people still haven't forgiven me for me actions years ago, but the longer I stay off the grog, the better it gets.
Good luck - I hope you're feeling better

graemecarter

Wanna_Bee_Free wrote: »

Our post crossed and I know how the him working away row feels too. Good luck with your June target.

I'm back on here as I need support to cut out the booze. Since I disappeared I started a new job, with long hours and a long journey. OH is working away and we alternate him coming home or me going to him each weekend. Didn't see each other last weekend and he is working today and tomorrow. I am struggling with eating healthily as I turn to pizza and takeaways rather than cooking for myself and my good habit of walking a few miles a day in London has been replaced by time sitting in the car. I've been worrying about work and not sleeping, waking up in the night etc even when I haven't drunk too much and generally feel really overwhelmed with it all at the moment. My turning point was Wednesday evening when I woke in the night feeling ill and I'm sure that it's from the lack of sleep, less exercise and eating unhealthy food. My Mum told me it was really important to cut out the booze and I know she's right and I had good intentions but thought I'd have the glass and a half that was left the next evening and then a couple (a lot less than I'd normally have) on the journey on Friday and then far too much wine yesterday from lunchtime onwards. So here I am, back here to you guys and knowing I need to cut out booze and wondering why it didn't happen any of the last 3 days. Time to rethink what I'm doing as it isn't working.

Logically I know that the first 3 months in a new job are always tricky and it should get easier. And OH is being understanding but I have been really hard work at him for quite a lot of May. I want June to be different.

I have periods of that happening to me, without drink. Not as often as it used to, but it still happens occasionally.
This tells me that it is not alcohol that's the problem. It's my thinking that is the issue.
The sober me kept on picking up that first drink, so my alcoholism is centred in my mind, not my body.
Things got better when I changed, and I cannot think myself better. I had to put in different actions, and I needed help with those from others.

graemecarter

MessedUpAndFedUp wrote: »

Thanks WBF I know I need to be patient, but I'm sure you know how I feel. I just want everything to be alright instantly, but if the boot were on the other foot (and believe me, it has been), I would be just as angry with him.

Daughter had a hissy fit because she's tired, no nap and a late night yesterday, and she's got a splinter in her hand so we've had a battle to try and get that out, with no success. So she didn't want to get up with daddy. It makes me feel even worse as she sees less of him than I do, and it breaks my heart that she relies on me so much and I'm such a state. It makes me feel sad for him as well, because now the two most important people in his life have !!!!ed him off today. It must hurt to be rejected like that.

Worse thing is, it was a kiddies party that descended into chaos - his family do's usually do. His mum doesn't drink and was driving yesterday so I'm sure she'll be up, so I'm really biting the bullet to not phone her.

I can't believe I've been so stupid again. Writing on this forum is upsetting me but I've got to talk to someone. I could go round my parents house, but I'm too scared, they know I drink too much and about our problems, but for pity's sake I'm should be able to deal with this on my own, and I don't want to upset them, or hubby (he'll think I'm telling tales).

Oh good grief, why do I get myself into this state?

This baffled me for years but I now know the answer to why I am like this. Still, that doesn't help unless I do something about it.
God bless

mackeroo

Roll up roll up...anyone else want to join this weeks SNC??

So far we have ........

:A School Night Challenge :A

Mackeroo
Shaggy

:A3 night special :A

Bearacus

maman

Would you put me down for 3 nights for the SNC, please mackeroo?

I'm hoping to be celebrating Swansea City's promoton to the Premier League tomorrow;).

May2013

maman wrote: »

I'm hoping to be celebrating Swansea City's promoton to the Premier League tomorrow;).

...and I'm hoping for a Reading win ...got my tickets and will be heading off to Wembley at 10.00 tomorrow morning :D:D Can't wait!!!!!!

and as such I will also be pledging just 3 for the SNC please Mackeroo

Hope you enjoy the game maman, just sorry that one of us will be disappointed xx

maman

May2013 wrote: »

...and I'm hoping for a Reading win ...got my tickets and will be heading off to Wembley at 10.00 tomorrow morning :D:D Can't wait!!!!!!

and as such I will also be pledging just 3 for the SNC please Mackeroo

Hope you enjoy the game maman, just sorry that one of us will be disappointed xx

Have a great time May. We'll be watching in the pub but my brother will be with the 40 000 Swansea fans! A bit torn here as I'm from Swansea but DH is a Berkshire boy.

May2013

Feeling really pleased as I've just notched up another AFD!!!!! . That puts me on 15 AFD's for May please Shaggy.

...and I'd like to pledge 15 AFD's for June please.

Hope you all have a great BH Monday xx

mackeroo

:A School Night Challenge :A

Mackeroo
Shaggy

:A3 night special :A

Bearacus
Maman
May 2013


Good luck everyone xx

mackeroo

shaggydoo wrote: »

Set your targets for June

21 for June please Shaggy
Thanks for keeping the scores x