The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

Chloris

13 AFD in May!

I managed 30 AFD in a row spread across April and May, then I had a celebratory drink about something else with DH on Wednesday. Two things happened. First I felt soooo bad the next day. I didn't drink a great deal but it was bubbly. Two of my children wet their beds that night so drunk dreams and changing beds and cleaning, settling children. I could not believe the hangover. The second is ongoing - the bells. They are so much worse now. I thought it would be easy to pick where I was, learn and just carry on. It is not as easy as that. I am having reaccuring internal debates about whether to drink or not and thinking about wine etc a lot.

Now all of the above is blindingly obvious I know. I just forgot it all on Wednesday. I often have thought what is so wrong with having the occassional drink without going mad? But surely normal people don't have bells? They are not tormented by them?

I borrowed a book called Potatoes Not Prozac from the library yesterday. It sounds interesting. The author has done a lot of work with alcoholics. Did you know most rehabilition centres only have a 25% success rate? The thesis deals with sugar sensitivity. I am suspicious of self help books but it is a free read!

Well done to everyone who has managed to stay AF! 365days -:j

mackeroo

Morning everyone
Havent been AF since Wed eve, went to friends on Thurs night and had a couple of glasses of wine, when i woke up the next morning to get ready for work it reminded me why i hate having a drink on a school nite as i feel fuzzy headed the next day which makes it a looong day at work. Was out last night with 2 friends, before we went out we consumed 3 bottles of wine:eek: and when out i had 4 vodka tonics. I skipped the last 2 rounds of drinks by getting a pint of water each round so dont feel too bad. The lure of chips and pakora was too much to resist before heading home, need to be extra good before next weeks fat class:rotfl:
Heading to friends this eve for dinner and im planning to be the driver which will be a 1st in a long time, (DH always drives) i need to set myself the challenge of being AF in company of people drinking. So i guess i have mixed feelings about it, hope i manage to remain firm about offer of driving and not give in later this afternoon and ask hubby to drive. Im just not looking forward to listening to the drunken drivel chat that i know i do when p*****. Hmm will keep you all posted
Have a good day everyone

maggiesoop

Afraid I've dropped right off the wagon and haven't had an AF night for almost 10 days. Nothing horrendous but back to usual tricks of using favourite TV progs as an excuse (The Apprentice !!!) Due to having to take strong pain killers for my sore back and having a few large ones each night feel really tired and listless and back to "cant be bothered" mode.

Haven't been reading this thread very often, out of guilt I guess. Am going to read over the success stories and get myself motivated again. I loved feeling so well and full of life, it makes you wonder why you keep going back to this self abuse

maman

maggiesoop wrote: »

Afraid I've dropped right off the wagon and haven't had an AF night for almost 10 days. Nothing horrendous but back to usual tricks of using favourite TV progs as an excuse (The Apprentice !!!) Due to having to take strong pain killers for my sore back and having a few large ones each night feel really tired and listless and back to "cant be bothered" mode.

Haven't been reading this thread very often, out of guilt I guess. Am going to read over the success stories and get myself motivated again. I loved feeling so well and full of life, it makes you wonder why you keep going back to this self abuse

Well done for coming back and being honest:T Why don't you just go for the one day at a time. If you're not ready to start today make a plan for, say, Monday. Good Luck.

mrsrainman

RecoveringAlcoholic wrote: »

Have a look at Al-Anon.

http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/about



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Thank you!! I had a look on the website this morning. And I 've been googling stuff as well. With only 10 weeks to go I know I need to start being more forcefully, but I also know that he will only stop when he wants to.
He makes me sad that I log on here most days and see how well you guys I doing, adding another afd each day, and I log on and add up the units drunk the night before, (23 thursday night, 26 last night, so that's 70 in 3 days). Letting it out on here as been a bit of a lifeline as I know you guys won't judge as you all realise how hard it is.
Just wanted to say thank you!!!

MrsR xx

mrsrainman

Chloris wrote: »

13 AFD in May!

I managed 30 AFD in a row spread across April and May,

That is a massive achievement in itself. Well done!!

Mrs R xx

mrsrainman

sumsup wrote: »

Evening all, very quiet here tonight, guess everyone else is out having Friday night (AF!) fun! I'm having an early one as doing the Moonwalk tomorrow. AF again, so 13 for May please Shaggy, and SNC completed Bearacus.

Hello 365days, I wasnot around when you used to post regularly, but just wanted to say, 19 months is fantastic, and an inspiration when I'm not even at 19 days yet. Any tips?

Good luck with the Moonwalk!!

kdenty

* Big Hugs* for Mrs R.

Really someone can only decide to stop themselves. But it's great that your are encouraging and supporting Mr R.

I know it took a long time to get my partner on board with getting debt free. That seems easy in comparison to dealing with an addiction. I know myself and I'm not a heavy drinker how much I crave the stuff sometimes.

darwins_mum

Hi all, I hope everyone has had a good day/evening. 14 AFD for me please Shaggy.

A bit of a mixed bag here at Evolution Cottage - spent the day with extended family. DS girlfriend met the family, unfortunately she had been wearing what can only be described as "fragrant" footwear which wasn't particularly well received.
Had a long heart to heart with little son, who is convinced I am not interested in him. He made reference to an off the cuff angry remark that I made when hungover a few months ago. The horror and shame has brought me up a little short.
I am trying my hardest not to re-live all of the unpleasant conversations that I have had when drunk or hungover, I am determined that I won't continue to behave like that.

DM

changing_ways

Not posting often these days, but this thread gave me so much support when I decided to stop drinking and I thought of it today on my second AF anniversary (see sig).

For me, being AF follows 30 years of drinking too much and unsuccessful attempts to reduce my intake. I've learned that failing a lot of times doesn't mean failing forever!