Single mum .....i WILL survive!!!!

*Twizzle*

bertiebots wrote: »

Sublime I get the feeling its time for you to re-think the whole carpet scenario and maybe get some laminate flooring down?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I AGREE :rotfl::rotfl:

*Twizzle*

Well it has to be said that was on of the worst mothers days known to me and believe me i've had some bad ones

Went to pick kids up from their god dam idiot of a fathers, had to discuss the DMP with him and even though a lot of the debt is in his name he thought i would still be paying half so i told him it doesn't work like that - his debt he pays-my debt i pay.......what did he do....threw me and the kids out :mad: he didn't physically touch us, just verbal and then said 'i will let you know when i want the kids again' I told whatever he thought about me he cannot do that to the kids its not their fault!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what an idiot ....its about time he grew up, took responsibility and got a bl00dy life and a grip AAARGGGGGHHHHHH @RSEWHOLE :mad:


Took kids, bikes, mutt up to the field ...they ended up falling out and screaming at each other (kids not mutt:p ) marched them home and did something i swore i would never do......cried, blubbed wailed, sobbed my heart out which in turn made the kids cry so now i feel b00dy awful!!!! Bad mum :mad:

I am now sat slowly getting drunk with my bottle of wine i got for mothers day

Sublime_2

Hi Spike, sorry to hear about the problems you are having re: maintenance. Honestly, some men have no idea re: costs. Have you thought about going to the CSA? Its not a route I'd want to take, but it sounds like he's being unreasonable.

You've worked really hard, life isn't fair sometimes. I never wanted to be a single parent, but is what happened. I've only recently learned that sometimes its good to have a good cry. Gets it out your system. Never used to.

Have your mothers day bottle of wine, you deserve it. My box of chocs are history.

Hope you have a better day tomorrow. xx

bertiebots

Right hun deep breath.

This is just why you split up with this man..his behavior is beyond unreasonable and I can only offer you a virtual hug:grouphug:
You knew there was a possibility he was going to react badly to you wanting to sort this out...but not that badly.
Its time to seriously consider whether you want such a dysfunctional person in your children's lives.

..and yes you have had a horrible day..but tomorrow is a fresh start so don't go beating yourself up about what has happened. You are human and thats that x

I will support you and your family will support whatever you decide to do but you must make one thing your priority..your family -you and your children. No more can you continue to feel sorry for this man or try and support him. He only cares about himself and has proved today that by you simply wanting to discuss what should be perfectly reasonable , he is incapable of just that. You cannot reason with him and need to start protecting yourself and your children from the damage he is causing emotionally.
If he has an ounce of decency he would not have done what he has done...so please keep away from him and keep the kids away too.
We both know he has mental health issues that he refuses to address or even admit exist. Your children need you now to protect them from anymore damage he may cause and you need to protect yourself too. I wish there was something else I could suggest but if this were the otherway round you would be saying the very same thing to me hun x if you need to call me call x


Put it this way...would you accept this behaviour towards yourself and your children from anyone else?

*Twizzle*

bertiebots wrote: »

Right hun deep breath.

This is just why you split up with this man..his behavior is beyond unreasonable and I can only offer you a virtual hug:grouphug:
You knew there was a possibility he was going to react badly to you wanting to sort this out...but not that badly.
Its time to seriously consider whether you want such a dysfunctional person in your children's lives.

..and yes you have had a horrible day..but tomorrow is a fresh start so don't go beating yourself up about what has happened. You are human and thats that x

I will support you and your family will support whatever you decide to do but you must make one thing your priority..your family -you and your children. No more can you continue to feel sorry for this man or try and support him. He only cares about himself and has proved today that by you simply wanting to discuss what should be perfectly reasonable , he is incapable of just that. You cannot reason with him and need to start protecting yourself and your children from the damage he is causing emotionally.
If he has an ounce of decency he would not have done what he has done...so please keep away from him and keep the kids away too.
We both know he has mental health issues that he refuses to address or even admit exist. Your children need you now to protect them from anymore damage he may cause and you need to protect yourself too. I wish there was something else I could suggest but if this were the otherway round you would be saying the very same thing to me hun x if you need to call me call x


Put it this way...would you accept this behaviour towards yourself and your children from anyone else?

BAH! crying again

Sublime_2

*Spike* wrote: »

BAH! crying again

Better out than in. Have a hug from me. Tomorrows another day. :grouphug: xx

Sublime_2

Morning all. Wishing everybody a lovely day today. The sun is out, so feeling positive, despite lack of sleep. I go through stages sometimes. I will get that unit built today! :rotfl:

I'll let you know if I've done it.

*Twizzle*

Quiet please i have got a headache (self induced)!!!!


Morning all :wave:

What an absolute carp day yesterday......hey ho! Today is another day tho...all be it with very tender head :rotfl:

Thanks to :ABerite:A i'm afraid i was on the phone with her til very late last night so apologies hun...bed early tonight me thinks Think i would have seriously lost the plot by now if it wasn't for her!!!!!!

I have a lot of serious thinking to do...but as my head already hurts, not today! :rotfl:

Back to other serious stuff.....MSE-ing

Shopping came to ~ £40.92 :mad: Although it included my Mothers Day treat of a bottle of wine and a Sainsbugs 'take away'

Meal Plan for the week -

Breakfast - cereal/toast. Hols - eggy bread/egg sandwiches.

Lunch - DCs...packed lunch. Me...Sandwich and or HM soup.

Tea ~
Sat - DCs at dads. Me...'Take away'
Sun - Steak pasties (reduced) New pots cauli and gravy
Mon - Sausages in gravy, new pots, peas
Tues - don't know
Wed - DCs at aunties and she feeds me
Thurs - DCs at Grandparents. Me - HM Soup
Fri - DCs at their dads????? Me - fish and chip (free)

Looks veeeery boring at the mo but i will be more creative as budget gets under control!!!!

Sub - i lurrrrrv flat pack erecting!!!!!!!!!! Enjoy!!!!

Off to pick the doggy doo doo up before it rains!!!!!!

Enjoy your day peeps x

Spike x

bertiebots

You are welcome..lol! Not sure who berite is but I presumed you meant me:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

LAM2011

Aw thanks Bertie (or is that Berite lol) - hey that actually sounds good - be rite - everything will be all rite lol.

Anyway Spikey - hugs from me too. I have been AWOL a bit lately not intentionally got lots on. Its good to have a cry and get it all out and then you find you have renewed strength to get up and carry on. We are all here (most of us virtually) to help you through. :grouphug: This smiley alone always makes me laugh lol!