Paying 'keep' HELP!!!

kelloggs36

My DD is 22 and unemployed - she currently gives me half her benefits towards her keep. When she was working she argued about giving me £50 per week and said I was out of order as she wanted to save up!!! I told her that as she was an adult, she had a choice - pay up or leave and find somewhere where everything included cost £50 per week. Her BF lives in a shared house and pays £75 per week but has to buy food - all bills are included - she plans to move in with him once she has a job - it will save me a fortune in food and heating/lighting as she has her TV and laptop on and lights on until the early hours every night and eats a huge amount! Oh, and when her BF visits, she feeds him too - no, she doesn't ask! It seems that at 22 people expect the world to continue paying for them as though they were children.

LadyMorticia

digitalphase wrote: »

Neither can I. The thread is obviously a wind up. Some people are getting really angry. People - it's not REAL.

Somewhere out there it's real for someone else.

pollypenny

Pack your bags and move out, you horrible girl!

Your mother is in need and you don't care.

No, you cannot be real with such a selfish attitude. I've fallen for a troll.

digitalphase

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Somewhere out there it's real for someone else.

That's as may be, but some people are getting upset/wound up by it, and the poster is sitting back laughing to have created a thread that has spanned so many pages.

juliethemuse

it might not be a wind-up, children just have absolutely NO idea, and my son thought we were trying to take money off him to go to the pub with or something like that, when i told him i wanted £40.00 a week he seriously thought i was bonkers for suggesting such a thing,
i dont know why i bothered asking really, i mean if he resented £20 lodge money, there was no way on earth he was going to pay £40,00.
he had to get his own place before he would believe me about the cost of heating/food/washing powder/lighting etc etc etc,

youngmummy

Sweetheart wrote: »

I only earn £1,200 a month as I've only just stated out in my career.

3 of us live off £1000 in my household !!!

Primrose

Your mother, a single parent, has kept you for 23 years, and your brother for 21 years, struggling on her own to ensure that her children have a roof over your heads and a secure place in which to grow up.

I think you need to grow up and start understanding what's it's like to live in the real world where bills have to be paid or the gas and electricity is cut off, mortgages have to be paid or the house is repossessed, and supermarkets expect customers to pay for their food or they can starve.

You come across as a totally self-centred young lady and I feel very sorry for your mother. After all her hard work and struggles as a single parent to ensure her children had a secure upbringing, she must feel like she has just been kicked in the face. You don't deserve her, and quite honestly I hope she does tell you to move out and start funding yourself. It will be a very hard lesson for you, but I hope in the process, it will help you understand what real life is all about.

charlieismydarling

Selfish, spoilt, rude and clueless.

That should cover it.

loulou123

I am also convinced this is a troll, but thought i'd add my comment anyway.

When i was 20 and living with mum and grandmother, mum had to give up work to care for my gran as she developed demetia and we didnt want to put her in a home at this stage (we also had another relative living with us who needed caring for, after a car accident left her brain damaged)

So at the age of 20 i was paying ALL the bills - the mortgage, the electric, gas, food, insurance etc etc. I was lucky to be on a fairly good wage (although no where near as high as the OP!) and just about managed to pay for everything - sometimes only having a few pounds left for anything that i wanted.

I didnt even question doing this, i just did it - surely thats what families do?

My mum eventually then went on to work nights and me days, and although that made the 'money' issue easier i was then 21 working full time and sometimes having to get up 5 times a night to deal with my gran or relative, and my mum did the same in the days.

So i cant believe that anyone could be as selfish as the OP and actually hope she is a troll, as £100 a week seems more than fair to me in the circumstances.

anxious_mum

I hope this is a troll thread. I remember when I was 16 years old, I wanted to stay on at school and study languages, but one day I overheard my dad tell my mum that he wanted to leave, and if I stayed on at school he would go for half of everything in the house, as he didn't want to pay maintenance for me. I'm going back to the late 1970s now, when divorce wasn't as easy and clear cut as it is today, and my mum panicked! So, I left school, got a job two days later earning 80.00 quid a month. I paid my mum 60 quid a month, because without it she would have struggled, and I lived there too, so why wouldn't I help out? When I left aged 25 to get married, me and my husband to be made sure she was OK financially and would never have left her to struggle. After all, she is my mum.

She lives with me now, and although I don't ask for it, she insists on paying me 100 quid per month towards her keep. Well, she's 75 now, and she looked after me for long enough.

I think the OP, if she isn't a troll, is a selfish, nasty, spoilt brat. I'd love to have her mum's phone number. I'd give her a call, mum to mum, to let her know what her daughter is spouting on the internet about her 'scam' and how selfish her daughter is. But, you know what? Mrs Troll probably already knows.