Paying 'keep' HELP!!!

Pollycat

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

Why do people bother responding to such an obvious troll? I honestly don't understand why people take this sort of thing seriously, I find it almost amazing. A 16 page thread, it's the height of trolling success. You've all made the OP very happy.

Because we're having SUCH fun!
_party_ :dance: :j

And on the pretty remote chance that the OP is for real and not actually a troll - we want to make sure she gets the message.

That OK with you?

anxious_mum

Jane_Blackford wrote: »

Should be the upper case of your 3 on the top row - unless it's done a runner having seen this thread !

Yeah I know, but that is a # sign. And if I try the # sign (thinking maybe they were swapped, I get a ~ :j

wonderpupp

I moved out of my parents home when I was 19
Basically, as soon as I finished A Levels, couldn't afford to go to Uni (and didn't want the debt) so got myself a job, and moved to a bedsit to start with and built up from there.

My older brother lived with my folks till he was 25 and only moved out when his girlfriend and he found place cheap enough to rent.
He paid £50 a week, but had to get his own food and chip in when bills came in.

That was in 2002.
I guess £100 a week all in is a bargain in this day and age.

Maybe we should get a lodger...

Think of it as an investment - when she dies, you inherit half the house...?

alwaysskint96

anxious_mum wrote: »

Yeah I know, but that is a # sign. And if I try the # sign (thinking maybe they were swapped, I get a ~ :j

Change your keyboard from american to uk english

mama67

January20 wrote: »

So you didn't have to pay £3-4000 per year for student accommodation then, did you? Did you pay anything to your mother whilst you were studying?

My 18 year old is about to embark on a university course and she said she wants NOTHING from me. She wants to study, get a part-time job and try her best to survive on her own! Take a leaf from her book!

Well Done your daughter :T

My 15 nearly 16 yr old is just deciding which A levels to study with a view to then going to university, he already has a part-time job and pays us petrol money as he would pay a bus fare or taxi fare, his choice, he also treats the whole family to a takeaway every now and again.

He has asked myself and Dh to sit and talk to him, he has stated that he does not want us to be in debt for him going to Uni, he will fund it from his part-time job and student loans etc.
He has been saving for the last year for driving lessons and his first car and he still has another year to go.

He may well go to a local Uni and live at home but he will pay us "keep" whilst doing so as he would have to pay if he lived away from home. This was taken as read by him.

When I first started work approx 25 yrs ago I paid £100 per month from a salary of £4000 pa, as that is what was needed to pay the bills, and my sister did the same, and when my mum died 4 years later my dad signed the house over jointly to myself and my sister, we then took on paying all the bills between us and dad paid us rent as he couldn't work due to ill health, dying himslef some 6 years later. We had both by then had salary increases but at age 21 losing a parent and then suddenly finding you are responsible for everything is a big jump.

Be very gratefull Sweetheart for what your mum is doing for you as you only have one mum and should respect her

mama67

Fang wrote: »

I have no doubt the OP is a troll, but I am quite amused by all the people demanding that everyone must pay a certain amount. If the OP were real, then of course she should help her mother - absolutely no question. But have any of you 'must-payers' considered the payback of such action? A relative of mine (through marriage) was effectively prevented from leaving home by his mother who took his wages and handed him back a small amount which meant he had very little money. Doing that meant he had to walk miles to work every morning to do ten hours of a very physical job rather than get the bus because he couldn't afford it. All the time she told everyone that she was teaching him how to be an adult and that one day he'd thank her, but she never thanked him for all the things his wages paid for her - her rent, her food, her holidays, her caravan and more Bingo than is healthy. She now lives with him and he charges her rent, and he charges her for every single thing he does for her and as far as I'm concerned that is absolutely right.

Obviously not every situation will turn out like that, but can't help but wonder what the 'must-payers' would if the situation were reversed in the future?

When there is a need then it is only fair, but when there isn't a need, then shouldn't a parent be helping their adult children by saving the excess in order to help them with a house deposit?

Why should parents save for a house deposit for thier kids?

DCFC79

I reckon the OP is a troll, had no rpely since thread was started unless of course they have seen the replies and no 1 agreed with her and went off in a strop

mama67

anxious_mum wrote: »

Yeah I know, but that is a # sign. And if I try the # sign (thinking maybe they were swapped, I get a ~ :j

alt 0163 = £

hth

some1shy

Sweetheart wrote: »

No I'm not a troll!

First mistake, Considering you JUST signed up this month and have 21 posts, You are considered a newbie and the proper response should be "whats a troll?" not "I am not a troll" means that you are a troll lol most people that are newbies dont even know what that means, but you do, hmmmmmmm. just sayin

System

Having just had to oay out £250 for gas and electric the OP is bloody lucky she lives with her mum still! I don't think she'd cope in the real world!