Help me find my lost children

melbi_uk

I have found this website that might be able to help you:

http://www.separateddads.co.uk/how-get-see-kids-help-other-separated-dads.html

mrsspendalot

Sounds like a case of parental alienation syndrome http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_alienation_syndrome http://www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/pas.htm

Skipmaster

mrsspendalot wrote: »

Have you tried facebook and bebo to see if your children have accounts on there?

Trust me, I have searched them all with a toothpick.

Someone even signed me up by my full name (now who would know that?) and correct DOB on a dating agency website. Im currently making enquiries with the administrator as to identifying the IP address of the user that signed it up and I bet it will match the Internet subscriber account as the one google.co.uk has.

AnxiousMum

You might do better on facebook by searching for friends of your ex rather than your ex.....or, create a bogus facebook account with a made up name as she would likely have you blocked. You may be able to get some info through friends posts though?

Skipmaster

melbi_uk wrote: »

Did you ask if they had any information or did you voice your concerns for the welfare of your children?

Ring them back again and explain you are very concerned for their welfare as they seem to have disappeared from the face of the earth.

Go to the police and report them missing - worth a try?

Havnt dont that - I dont think this is abduction as such

Have you moved since your last contact with them?

Yes, but I still own my previous address, mail is forwarded and the landine number is re-routed to me, plus I keep a special mobile number just for my children to contact me. A hotline to me.

Could the mother have had an order placed and due to you moving house you haven't received this information?

When did you first lose contact with them and how?

They became more and more unwilling to see me on contact days, it got to a point "I was forcing them to go out with me" and they chose not to see me at all. I used to get the occasional call when they wanted something - e.g. a Ps3. Even they were clearly being taught to show disrespect towards me.

There has to be some reason why the mother is behaving in such a way.

She wanted the house of me, then she has since lost it when she want on a mad spending spree and creditors got a sale order on it. Not even the conveyancing solicitor will give me a cluse where she went.

mrsspendalot

When did you first lose contact with them and how?

They became more and more unwilling to see me on contact days, it got to a point "I was forcing them to go out with me" and they chose not to see me at all. I used to get the occasional call when they wanted something - e.g. a Ps3. Even they were clearly being taught to show disrespect towards me.

This definitely sounds like parental alienation syndrome!

I really feel for you

Skipmaster

mrsspendalot wrote: »

Sounds like a case of parental alienation syndrome

I took this to both Social Services and CAFCASS, and parential alienation is not officially recognised.

The CAFCASS report even indicated the officer didnt even know what parental alienation was. She quoted the words as spoken by me in inverted commas in her report to the Judge.

mrsspendalot

AnxiousMum wrote: »

You might do better on facebook by searching for friends of your ex rather than your ex.....or, create a bogus facebook account with a made up name as she would likely have you blocked. You may be able to get some info through friends posts though?

I agree with this - hubby's ex has blocked him so to him she doesn't appear on there at all, but I can see her name in the friend's list of a mutual friend so I know she's on FB

mrsspendalot

Skipmaster wrote: »

I took this to both Social Services and CAFCASS, and parential alienation is not officially recognised.

The CAFCASS report even indicated the officer didnt even know what parental alienation was. She quoted the words as spoken by me in inverted commas in her report to the Judge.

This is so frustrating :mad:

I do know someone who I think was successful at getting PAS recognised in her child contact battle with their father (they lived with their dad, and he refused her contact) .... might see if I can still contact them and find out how they got on and what they did ....

EDIT: maybe there will be hope soon though if it becomes recognised in the DSM-V of recognised disorders.....

Currently, PA is not officially recognised although there is much activity worldwide to influence its acceptance in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, DSM- V, which is due to be published in May 2012 (www.psych.org/mainmenu/research/dsmiwsmv.aspx).
Ref: http://www.fnf.org.uk/law-and-information/parental-alienation

Skipmaster

tattycath wrote: »

Sorry what's A SAR?

A Subject Access Request.

www (dot) out-law.com/page-410