Help me find my lost children

tattycath

Skipmaster wrote: »

Tried all that, and google images etc,, I even tried to hire a detective, but she didnt want the work.

A SAR on Google london offices revealed she (or her brother - his internet connection) has been entering my's full name into google on a regular basis since 2005.

Sorry what's A SAR?

mrsspendalot

Subject Access Request I think

Skipmaster

melbi_uk wrote: »

I'd contact SS, IF there has been any issues, they will know about it as it will be on their records.

If they have nothing, they just might start their own enquiry to make sure the children are not at risk with their mother, or her new partner etc.

My instincts the children are not at risk, otherwise I think they would be more inclined to contact me. I do know I have been denigrated which explains why they havnt tried to contact me.

Skipmaster

AnxiousMum wrote: »

Just thought - I don't know if it's the case here - but......I know that in Canada we would take 'kidnapping' reports from parents who have been put in the very same position as yourself

I explored this but police say "its a civil matter"

melbi_uk

okay, well if you want, send me their names and I will take a good look around on facebook etc. PM them to me if you feel secure enough to pass this information on to me.

AnxiousMum

Of course you have been - the kids would've been asking why they no longer see you - at first, and they would've had to have been fed all kinds of excuses - but none of them would be the fault of their mother or her boyfriend.

Go for the boyfriend's employer - maybe with any luck for you - they've split and he'll be only too happy to drive you to the home

AnxiousMum

Skipmaster wrote: »

I explored this but police say "its a civil matter"

That is just so wrong - if there is ONE thing I would like to see changed in the laws of this country, it would be that the NRP has the legal right to maintain contact with the children (of course, there are situations where this is not possible for the sake of the children's safety - but should be backed by EVIDENCE, not the word of the PWC). I think that this would trickle down to the child support, and more NRP's being willing to pay towards upbringing of children they are allowed to be a parent to in more ways than just finances. Putting the parent's needs and rights aside - the children have the right to a relationship with both parents.

Skipmaster

mrsspendalot wrote: »

Do you know if they are still living in the same area?

This has really got me thinking. I went through old solicitors correspondence and there are comments from her solicitor about her intention moving to Norfolk and later it was Nottingham.

It is a real possibility she has moved long distance.

mrsspendalot

Skipmaster wrote: »

This has really got me thinking. I went through old solicitors correspondence and there are comments from her solicitor about her intention moving to Norfolk and later it was Nottingham.

It is a real possibility she has moved long distance.

Then you need to contact the LEA where they used to go to school as they will know which LEA they have transferred to, even if not which particular school. It's even more of a needle in a haystack otherwise, but LEAs have to keep records of where children attend school, and if they leave school mid-year etc, they will have to know where they have gone to.

Once you have a school, I think tracing them will become that little bit easier, as they will live somewhere in the school vicinity to have got a place there. From there, you can pinpoint GP surgeries in the area etc....

Skipmaster

melbi_uk wrote: »

My main worry would be why the mother has chosen to hide!

This goes back a long time, right back to the days un their early infancy.

My parents told me she was a gold-digger, and I ignored their warnings and still married her. Love is blind.

It was as soon after my 2nd child was born, she turned nasty on me, hiding money (about £30,000 dissappeared), police turning up threatening to "arrest" me. Lengthy long distance phone calls. I just didnt see it coming.

When I had the contact order, the children complaied, but they too started saying strange things about me, "daddy went to prison" "blame your father" , "your lazy just like your dad" and insinuating that "you are not my dad".