Will he ever change?

RacyRed

shelley_crow wrote: »

, "I know I've lost control, everyone else knows I've lost control and next time I will try harder to grind you down and make sure you don't leave me next time"

I 100% agree with Shelly's interpretation of what your ex has said. Please don't even give him an inch.

Well done on getting your life back, you sound so full of hope - it is wonderful to hear :T

Mankysteve

It may well be the kick in the backside he needs to sort his life out people can and do change, but personally I wouldn't return to thsi relationship once the trust and faith have gone it hard to rebuild. Having suffered from an abusive partner myself I know this abit not quite as bad as you have

My old childminders husband(his second wife)was on long term sick leave due to bad back. He started to suffer badly from depression after she changed careers and started working away from home , started using emotional blackmail and stuff. They spilt up in the end but has allowed him to turn his life around back in work, lost weight(in a good way) much happier person.

Some people are destined not to be able to be long term relationships but we have this thing in our current society were one of the definitions of happiness is being in relationship when really it shouldn't be. I suspect your ex may be one of these people.

meritaten

well done aimeesmum! thanks for the update!
while I dont agree with the others that people cannot change it is a bit telling that he says he will win you back! what are you? a trophy he has lost to the opposition?
I would hope though that this will encourage him to sort his mind and his life out! not least for the childrens sake!
as for yourself - your independence has been hard fought - dont give it up too quickly!
best wishes
merit