How to Get Through The Tough Times The Old Style Way.

fedupfreda

Evening everyone, old and new friends

My word, this thread moves fast

Funny how many of us have bad eyesight. I have worn glasses since puberty (and I am considerably older now ) funny thing is, I went for my eye test a few weeks back - to be told as I am ageing, one of my eyes is getting better

Never thought that would be one of the benefits of getting older

Still relegated to the mobile so that will be it for tonight. But I will be listening

Have a good evening everyone.

charlies-aunt

vesper wrote: »

. And the fact that our neighbour the other side has decided that they want to take over three car parking spaces outside the houses with their cars and said that as we are only renting and they own then they have more right to park the cars there. So I have to park halfway down the road in the mud.
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:mad: :mad: Tell 'em to go swivel Vesper!! :mad: :mad:


They may own their own house but they don't own the bit of road or pavement out the front of it! You can park where you choose and if you happen to choose to park outside your house ...or theirs - they can't do anything about it ! If you obstruct access to a drive which has a dropped curb, they can ask you to politely move but they have no legal right to "their" spot.

ChocClare

Congrats to you, lauren_1!

Glad you're OK, flowertotmum - VERY scary stuff. I was living in Putney when those mansion flats blew up (details here and here for those of you far too young to remember, LOL!) and I remember we were all paranoid about turning the gas taps off as a result.

Your poor neighbour must be in a hell of a state if she's so desperate and inward-looking that she can't see consequences any more. I hope they're going to give her some proper help, not just prescribe some Lustril and leave her to get on with it - for her sake as well as yours!

And welcome, 7 week wonder - your co-op thingy sounds brilliant! Where do you live (she says, bitterly aware it's probably nowhere near her)? You're so lucky to have a decent transition town thing going on - my nearest one is twenty miles away, otherwise I would love to be more involved (plus I can't be said actually to live in a "town" - I think towns generally have more than five houses in them :rotfl:)

kidcat

Another day and so many new pages - lovely to see so many people joining us, although its sad that more and more people are finding it so tough.

Huge congratulations to lauren_1, its lovely to hear the good news.

Am so busy with house hunting, not much going on here, although I did view a house that was lovely - however the owners have no real intention of moving- they said they hadnt looked, had no idea what they were looking for, or where they want to go. If it sells it sells otherwise it wont!!!! Why put it on the market if they dont plan on selling?? Told agent to make sure all future viewings are genuine sellers as we are on a deadline.

flowertotmum

lauren_1 wrote: »

Oppps forgot top pop on and update you all but cant seem to find my favourite thread so this one will have to do

Baby Casper arrived last thursday! 7lb 2oz.

Wow congratulations to you all..lovely new baby..and what a gorgeous name..well done..you put your feet up and rest..
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ginnyknit

Lauren_1 congratulations, hope alls well and I love the name. My Dgs was going to be Matilda if he had been a girl so we could call her Tillybud ( a family favourite) So I am hoping if she gets around to number 2 its a girl. Am busy making stuff for Dgs 's first birthday next month - wow has that gone fast.

Grey Queen hope the eviction is quick, my heart goes out to you, I know how awful it is having idiots living near you!

As for the eyesight, I am rapidly losing the sight in my left eye (my Mum is blind in her left one too) so my one lens was 250 quid last time and I need new glasses soon :eek: You cannot put a price on your sight though sadly so I am saving like mad. Strangeley I used to be a top notch darts player but now cannot throw for toffee - shame

flowertotmum

ceridwen wrote: »

MYGAWD!!!!:eek:

The antisocial madam quite frankly. One can only feel sorry for people who are so desperate that they try and commit suicide normally - but my first reaction to her would be blinding fury at putting other people at risk in the process. That is SO not on. No matter how bad one feels one should NOT put other people at risk of harm like that and my first reaction would not be a charitable one in those circumstances...

Even worse than where people leap in front of a train - without stopping to think about the poor traindriver (who gets traumatised by someone having done this - even though he knows its not his fault in any way and he slammed on the brakes as fast as he could). A lot of traindrivers have been put through this experience several times over - its an occupational hazard for them unfortunately.

I really really DO understand how someone could feel in such "a bad place" - but, if they are determined to do this, they should think of a way that wont hurt other people in the process...

How awful for you.((((((((()))))))

It is going to sound bad but i am sooo mad at her...i have sympathy for her too...she is having some probs at the mo..her son said that before christmas she literally threw herself down the stairs..because she wants to go and live with him and his wife...thing is they don't want her there..apparently she can be hard work..and they almost split up..seems she is determined to get there come hell or high water...i too have the sympathy for the train drivers..my brother is a copper and has had to go and literally pick up the pieces from one of these incidents..he still has nightmares..my other brothers MIL is a copper too(surrounded by the !!!!!!s)..and she has to deal with it on a monthly basis..not fair on all concerned...
ftm

jackieglasgow

BOOKMARKING, you lot talk too much :rotfl:

bertiebots

anguk wrote: »

My DD's eyesight deteriorated badly in her early teens (so did DS's) but she absolutely hated wearing her glasses outside the house so we paid for her to have contacts. I pay £27 for 3 months worth of monthly lenses, 3 sets, so it only works out at £9 per month. I know her glasses are free but I also know that she wouldn't wear them at school or college (teenage girls & their vanity ) so £9 a month is a small price to pay for her eyesight. She does wear her free glasses in the house though.

Thanks for that..ds has been wearing glasses since he was 6 and is pretty ok about wearing them , its just the issue of lense thickness. Now I am getting back on track with my finances it will definatley be something to consider because £9pm is affordable:D.

Hello to the new faces:wave:

Congratulations lauren..a new baby is always lovely news, hope you are looking after yourself!

ceridwen

flowertotmum wrote: »

It is going to sound bad but i am sooo mad at her...i have sympathy for her too...she is having some probs at the mo..her son said that before christmas she literally threw herself down the stairs..because she wants to go and live with him and his wife...thing is they don't want her there..apparently she can be hard work..and they almost split up..seems she is determined to get there come hell or high water...i too have the sympathy for the train drivers..my brother is a copper and has had to go and literally pick up the pieces from one of these incidents..he still has nightmares..my other brothers MIL is a copper too(surrounded by the !!!!!!s)..and she has to deal with it on a monthly basis..not fair on all concerned...
ftm

I dont think it sounds bad of you at all to be mad at her for it. I'm not surprised her son is so angry then - if she has been trying to manipulate him and his wife into having her to live with them and now she does this. She is trying to pull a HUGE Guilt Trip on him by the sound of it. I am wondering if she is a manipulative person generally then....

Its not fair for anyone to expect to live with an adult child and their partner in our society. Its not the norm in Britain and imposes all sorts of strains accordingly. If an adult child AND any partner they have freely invite a parent to live with them - then that is quite another matter obviously. If its freely chosen - then sometimes these arrangements can be very mutually beneficial. But to try and IMPOSE yourself on an adult childs' household is :eek:. So - I guess its no wonder that she hasnt considered neighbours' interests (like staying alive and keeping their homes in one piece) when she wont even consider her own childs' interests.

I can understand why she might be "hard work" then. Some people DO take the "patience of a saint" to deal with them and most of us ARENT saints - just typical flawed human beings and we simply cant do it and its no shame on us that we cant (just a sign of being human and fallible).

I only know one "human saint" and she has been my best friend for years now - but people like that are very very rare indeed. The rest of us cant even hope to be like that..:(