How to Get Through The Tough Times The Old Style Way.

Charis

mardatha wrote: »

Think a lot of people now will be reconsidering having a car at all...

I certainly am. It's really only an illusion of freedom I'm preserving, cos I can't afford the petrol to go out much these days. If I lived nearer to facilities I would happily use public transport, as my family has grown up and I no longer have to travel to work. The only thing is that after dark or when an emergency happens and I need to get somewhere, I can't. There are very few taxis locally and a very patchy rural bus service, almost non existent after 6pm - and I live in a market town, not a rural backwater. When I lived in London I had no idea rural transport was so bad and I suspect that few do until they have to depend on it.

EstherH

Wow, loads of pages to catch up on. I love this thread. Can't keep up enough to post to often and really get involved and dont feel I have a lot to contribute anyway. But I would hate to see it closed again. Spats happen from time to time, but we always seem to come back round to topic. More tips would be nice, but the general support for one another is lovely. Let's get things in proportion. If some don't agree with what is said, it won't last for ever. This may all be a mute point and sorted by now anyway because I have quite a few pages to catch up on. But just wanted to say that in general, you are all a lovely friendly bunch.

Charis

JackieO wrote: »

My local council has made the swimming for under 16s and over 60s free so that will be another afternoon outfor us all

Our local council did that. A month before my 60th birthday last year they withdrew the concessions due to the cutbacks.

de1amo

i have always viewed cars as a luxury so i would hate to think how rarely i would use one if i lived back there! i ride a scooter and a fill up costs me 6 quid for 2 weeks fun! we live centrally and i ride it the mile to work or 2 miles to the gym--i know how lazy of me but its the only fun i get!- The uk is about the only place i know in europe where people prefer to live away from the hub of things-my wife cant comprend why my parents choose to live in the middle of no where(and they are questioning the sense themselves now they are getting immobile in their 80s)--my ancestory comes from the rural idil but i am definately a city boy now!

ceridwen

...and for a bit of light relief - me - I'm still wondering if one of the "old style" ladies on the Superscrimpers is anyone familiar to us here - and have been laying bets with myself as to whether one of them might be our JackieO here.

Now - c'mon Jackie...you dont have to tell us which one...but I AM curious if we've now seen you "face to face":D

EDIT: Quickly clarifies - I mean one of the ladies "of a certain age" that is giving us helpful Old Style hints......(I can get away with saying that phrase because I'm "a certain age" myself.....).

floss2

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Please start posting or keep on all you who have a mind to. About anything you like if it pleases you.

I'm very fond of a bit of adult discourse and am especially fond of engaging with people who don't hold the same views as I do. It keeps my mind limbered up and is sometimes the only human contact I have day-to-day, so I value it immensely....

Personally I am interested in GQ's saga, but I appreciate that not everyone will be.

I am also mindful, as B&T says, that forums & threads such as this are the only contact with other people that some folk have, and they may be glad to see "normal" bickering & discussion about things we sgree / disagree with.

bertiebots wrote: »

..... It is now 10 months since we decided to seperate and I would love to know when I will stop getting so peed off with his lazyness?

Erm.... separated in 1999, divorced in 2001......he's still not fulfilling his promises to our 2 sons but hey, they are both adults now & can make their own minds up

ceridwen

Hmmmmm.....:think::idea:

I've had a thought (I do every so often......:rotfl:). GreyQueen - I have noticed over t'weeks that several posters have commented on your "writing abilities"......and now the latest comment was suggesting that you might like to have a blog.

Why not? Why not indeed? I am a great advocate of peeps setting up personal blogs - its summat that can be done for free and in a matter of minutes. Many will just turn out to be very "personal things", many will lead to attracting like minds and then there IS the odd one that "goes kerching":D:beer:.

Anyways - G.Q. - maybes that aint such a bad idea? - ie to set up a blog (and linked to MSE by making it your "home page" perchance???). Thata way - you are totally free to say what you please and if peeps are friends/interested in how things are going then they can click into it. If not - well...they don't...

Anyways - even non-technical me has managed to set one up in just a few minutes on:

www.blogger.com/

which is one of the main free blog sites.

I think this might well have value of itself on the one hand and ('scuse me here - but, coming from this family where the "business type gene" obviously predominates...:rotfl:) yer never know....stranger things have happened than "someone" chancing on a blog and turning it into a (successful) book:D. Frankly - I'm a huge advocate of "If there is a way to buy your way outa trouble - then take it and be thankful...:D" philosophy. I "bought my way" outa the address that was becoming "known" (for all the wrong reasons...:mad::() - so if thats one possible outcome - then yay:T:D.

Whatever the end result - it might be a useful thing to do - errr...maybe...you never know....??:). I think, at the least, that it will help "externalise" problems - rather than having them going round the "hamster wheel" in your mind....(understandably...). I do think that, at the least, you could just as well write short articles for magazines, etc, about your life as quite a few I've read. I have been astonished by just how "thin" a lot of articles are in magazines/newspapers and just how derivative they are and quite obviously done just to earn a coupla hundred quid...but the author/ess really doesnt have anything "new/interesting" to say. You are coming from a very different perspective to many one reads - so yer never know yer luck...

de1amo

my wife has bought one of those rubber ball thingies you get at gyms--she is bouncing away upstairs and it sounds a bit like a hamster running the wheel!
i wish i could grasp technology as well as you. my wife converts all the computers i ever see into turkish and it makes it impossible to follow prompts-i am doomed to be dependant on her!
Just listening to the mid day news about david cameron wanting imigrants to all speak English-i hope turkey doesnt take the same stance with me and the thousands of Brits who retire here and never pick the lingo up!--by jolly they will understand me if i speak English loud enough!

ceridwen

:rotfl:De1amo - you are a total "renegade" - but I like you (shades of Benny Hill or whatever that comedian was called....)....the "If I speak English loud enough - they'll understand...":rotfl:

Me - I'm still onto the G.Q. blog/possible paid article thingie - and wondering about "USP (aka Unique Selling Point) and target market"....:)

Okay-dokey....USP = a person who is obviously highly intelligent/articulate/sense of humour - stuck in situation that most peeps who fit that description have "earned their way out of"...but life (and M.E.) happen...and "earning a way out of" hasnt....

Target market - everyone else who has found themselves in a similar situation and is looking at a way to "distance themselves from it" (in order to keep an objective take on it) and hoping to way a find out of it...

:think:...hmmm...you'll excuse the braincells being in overdrive at the moment...as I have just found out that "things are worse than wot I thought" re a situation going on in my own life and am back into "Can I buy my way outa this situation?" mode personally at present...

:think::think::idea::think::think::eek::eek::mad:

de1amo

About 8 years ago i lived in a nightmare place and i hated my neighbour-he was another İB but i owned the property as did he. For years we battled and i must have had dozens of Black marks against the property due to having to bring in the council and noise people- i could see no way i would ever be able to sell because everything would have to be revealed to the buyer- i let it out and bought a new place with a massive mortgage(about 8 times a single salary)-one afternoon the free holder wanted to check something and needed to see inside my place and i gave him the tennants number.
They were leaving and packing when he visited and it turned out he was desperate to buy it for his future developement plans--he rang me and bit my hand off with full market value and cash on the nail no searches!--someone upstairs loves me because that place was a big part of the reason i got ill and i am sure if i was still saddled with it i would be bankrupt by now!