How to Get Through The Tough Times The Old Style Way.

ceridwen

grandma247 wrote: »

rachbc I am so sorry to hear about your fil. I don't know if it is possible for you but could you take on some of the more menial but necessary work for mil? If you can do something be specific about what sort of job you can do eg; housework,ironing etc. and explain that you want to help but don't know how.

Good suggestion there. I assume you probably pay a weekly visit by car to a supermarket? If so - MIL might like to come along too and it would make it much easier for her to do her shopping (without it even causing you much effort to do that....depending on where she lives in relation to you that is of course....).

Also - maybe once in a while little "thinking of you" type presents - eg cheap bunch of flowers or large bar of favourite chocolate or something similar?

ceridwen

GreyQueen wrote: »

Kidkat any progress on accessing that cabinet? I've often thought a little bit of lockpicking skill would be a useful OS skill; probably someone somewhere on a LETS scheme does it.....

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Naughty lady GreyQueen :whistle::silenced::rotfl:
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We have had the odd bit of discussion re some things peeps wished to trade;). So - we accepted someone offering life modelling on the one hand and no-one offers home-made alcohol on the scheme (errrr....errr.....well....not that we know of...:cool:). I have the feeling that lock-picking would soon get rejected as a "skill" somehows...:rotfl:. There have been discussions before now about "broadening out where we recruit" v. the way things are/places we "recruit" at at present ensure that we can all feel comfortable that we can trust each other...

rachbc

Had a long chat to MIL - its not so much practical stuff she is struggling with much more emotionally -lots of anxiety about FIL's health and what the future holds for them both and so on. OH is going to take his dad out for a evening every week to give her a break and I am hoping I will be able to take her away for a weekend over the summer and OH will look after his dad. We've also made it clear we want her to talk to us about how she is feeling as she has been worried about burdening us as she knows how much it upsets OH (he's a sensitive soul!).

Thanks for all the suggestions
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ceridwen

The question of whether G.Q. is doing anything "unauthorised" in this respect has been raised several times by a few people - and answered in detail each time.

Most of us have read the details of this now and are quite satisfied that "nowt is amiss" here - so I hope this particular issue can now be "put to bed" finally - as sorted-out, re-sorted out, sorted out yet again and accepted that all is kosher.

I certainly can sympathise re the hearing what a neighbour says through the walls. My house isnt as bad as that - but I have been surprised/shocked/upset at JUST how much comes through the walls sometimes...lets just say I know the neighbour one side often speaks at "shouting" volume (rather than normal volume) and I have been able to make out what he is "shouting" sometimes :eek::mad:.

jackieglasgow

Ceridwen if you had bothered to read my post and my response you would have seen it was the Housing Officer's behaviour I was questioning, not Grey Queens.

cat_smith

Hi there. Just back from the clients - been there since 10am. Actually quite enjoyed it, and they took me out for lunch I'd been panicking that I wouldn't be able to solve some issues, but we worked through most of it. And loads more to do tomorrow - lots of lovely money:T

BD been subdued a bit.

No houework done though. Or cooking. But NSD so not so bad and free meal so won't need much for dinner tonight.

jackieglasgow

Glad to hear it Cat, I did think about you this afternoon.

westcoastscot

Greyqueen do you know for sure the young man doesn't have a mental health issue or a learning disability of some sort??? Sometimes something that appears to be bad behaviour can be a sign of something more serious
WCS

cat_smith

Thanks jackieg. Much better day than I expected. Feeling much more positive. Also DH didn't go to TA tonight so he's around and I'm not sitting vegetating. Have a very soggy hound at my feet looking adorarble (and wanting treats):D

7_week_wonder

Evening all. I hope everyone is doing ok. My quest to tighten our belts and downsize our spending is continuing!

I've been experimenting and have found that I can cook both pasta and rice by putting them in boiling water, letting the water come back to the boil then turning off the heat completely and letting them cook in the residual heat for the time it says on the packet. I guess most of you know that sort of thing already - but it was news to me when it worked!

I had to nip to Mr S to get milk for the coffee club at work (I get re-imbursed) so I took the opportunity to get some of the basics tea-bags someone recommended to try at home. If they pass the OH test that will be great because we drink a lot of tea! I also like the fact that they are fairtrade. Then I called in the Card Factory to get some cards. Why have I never been there before?! Really nice cards at about 1/4 of the price I normal pay.

And when I got home I phoned up and booked a table at a restaurant for our anniversary. It's somewhere we've been before, but I managed to get a groupon so we'll have a great evening out for much less than usual.

I did fall of the OS MSE wagon yesterday though. My mum is down in the dumps and even though I've been phoning her and stuff I thought she needed cheering up, so I sent her a surprise bunch of flowers to be delivered the same day. And whilst I don't regret a penny of it (she was so chuffed when she got them) I did afterwards if I could have done it more OS - any ideas?