I can't take no more

creamcrackers

What would you say if your partner did not tell you how much he earns a year so you can claim tax credits and working tax credits.or refuses to sign the claim forms.

I've been with my partner for 12 years we split up five years ago for about 9 months during that time i started working full time.
When we got back to together as i was earning good money i did not claim tax credits at all, 3 years on i lost my job and for the past couple of years we have been living on my partners wage. He gives me a certain amount each week to pay the main bills
i pay for shopping, telephone bills,clothes,christmas,birthdays, I do work around 5 hours a week which brings in some money.

I am really struggling to make ends meet. The most frustrating thing is seeing my partner coming home from work each night with cans of beer. going out at weekends and bringing home a takeaway for himself. He never takes me out or even gives my son pocket money the list goes on
I've tried talking to him but he just shouts out me and swears and becomes abussive
　
To be honest if i wrote a book about my life with my partner and gave a copy to Steven King I know he would turn around and say ''Creamcrackers, This is way too far- fetched!

I'm just at the point i can't take no more, i cry most days,I feel like i'm living without a soul and so numb inside i'm walking on egg shells to protect the kids from seeing the way he treats me.
sorry for going on I just don't know what to do any more or which way to turn.

nickyhutch

That's not a partner. I'd leave or get him out straight away; no-one deserves that.

shellsuit

What would I say?

I'd tell you to kick his arrsse to the kerb and concentrate on yourself and your child/ren.
He is a waste of space and a selfish pig ~ you can't go on living like that, it's awful!

Do you own your house or rent it?

meritaten

hun - your OH is living in the 'Dark Ages' ..........but you dont have to live there with him!
Its abuse, plain and simple! you need to read the Thread about abuse/womens refuge on the top of the page.
you need to make a plan to either leave or evict your OH!
I am so sorry this is happening to you! I expect that you will get a lot of help and support from people on here who have been through this themselves.
may I just say hun, you have taken a brave step by posting here! you have acknowledged the problem and I am sure you will now get the help you need to solve it!

jayII

I would agree, you are worth so much more than that. Time to get out, before he flattens your (and your son's) self esteem even more.

Big ((((((((hugs))))))))))

sjc3

You walk on eggshells round him, he swears, shouts, is abusive, controls how much money you have and is limiting you from claiming any tax credits you may be entitled too. He also treats you as if you aren't equal to him. Going out and buying take-aways just for himself and forgetting you as if you are invisible. Does this guy have no morals or self respect. What a disgusting way to treat you and an awful example to his impressionable young son.

I agree that isn't a partner. I must ask why are you still with him? Would you not be much better off both financially and emotionally to divorce this guy and make a go of things on your own.

BlueAngelCV

I would say "Goodbye"

Sambucus_Nigra

nickyhutch wrote: »

That's not a partner. I'd leave or get him out straight away; no-one deserves that.

Word for word my reaction.

creamcrackers

this is only time i can reply tonight.

I do own the house with my partner.

I shall write again in morning

thank you

pupsicola

OP you are being abused. Many people think there has to be violence to suggest a relationship is abusive. Mental abuse is just as destructive to someone and it takes longer for someone to realise it is happening. Sadly in alot of relationships where there is mental abuse it can escalate to physical abuse at some point.

Its no wonder you can take no more. No-one should be treated like you are being. I bet your self esteem is shot to pieces right now. I have said enough on here, but have been in your position and put up with it for too long. If you need any help or advice feel free to pm me.

(((((hugs)))) think you may need it.

sjc3

creamcrackers wrote: »

this is only time i can reply tonight.

I do own the house with my partner.

I shall write again in morning

thank you

Are you concerned for your safety? This post just has a tone of someone living in fear OP I really hope you are okay