Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! 2

RedwoodBrook

Teenie_D wrote: »

With all due respect RedwoodBrook I'm not sure if your "nice cheery message" was altogether called for especially on pregnancy threads. We know you have been through a terrible loss and none of us can understand what you have or are going through, but we are aware from the moment we get our BFP's that things can go wrong right up to delivery (and further beyond the worry never leaves you!) I'm not sure it is something we need reminded of.

My deepest apologies if I offended, that was not the intention in any way. I just think there needs to be more awareness and with all due respect, I think pregnancy threads are an ideal place to start.

pigpen

PHNARRRR!!! Silly MW just rang me..

Had a rant about yesterday.. and she should have booked a rescan but didn't get one because of the upcoming bank holidays.. I said that is a convenient excuse for not seeing people.. disgusting! Apparently the hospital have made 2 appointments for me to go.. but haven't told me.. and she doesn't know what time just dates.. I just laughed.. not be going to those then!Nice to see such a complete lack of care in a supposedly caring profession.. hate to think what it would be like in any other!

I made it quite clear I am not going with the scan date so they can either give me another dating scan and nuchal OR they are sticking with my dates (which they are supposed to do anyway if the scan date is within a week of your own dates!) A few extra days having Squeak would have killed me.. possibly literally.. I am not having a 'it'll do' measurement deciding that.

anyway.. we are sticking with 15th October.. and I won't be persuaded otherwise and the MW said to write it on the notes and she'll sign it when I next see her..

They want me to go for more bloods doing on the 4th May.. but I think it is some ruse to get me there the tried this last time and I won't play..

and the MW clinic at the back of my house is stopping then and moving to a 10 minute drive away.. so I said well I'll not be coming at all then.. and they won't be seeing the baby after it arrives after the first few days either.. I went to them with Squeak a couple of times.. I have invader issues in my house.. i won't have them.

She asked if she could come to the house to do AN's.. erm.. no.. I don't think so..

I hate this.. I hate having people think they have a right to invade my life and think it is ok to make appointments for me I don't want and to ring me and try to blackmail me to do what they want.. they make me behave like I am 3 and I dig in my heels and say no.. If i want them I'll ring them.. is that so hard to comprehend.. though they might *laughs at own funniness* actually listen when I ring them because I wil only ring when something is wrong.. I'll not hold my breath.

I think I feel better now...

Teenie_D

RedwoodBrook wrote: »

My deepest apologies if I offended, that was not the intention in any way. I just think there needs to be more awareness and with all due respect, I think pregnancy threads are an ideal place to start.

Well we will just have to agree to disagree then, I for one am very aware of what can go wrong, as I imagine are most ladies on these threads I don't really want to be reminded, it is always there in the back of my mind anyway but hey that is just my opinion.

sohurtandlost

RedwoodBrook wrote: »

Just posted a nice cheery message on the 12-24 week thread...about stillbirths

There was one woman asking about baby paranoia etc and she mentioned Amanda Holden's loss at 6 months. I felt obliged to comment.

My puppy had 'the snip' on Friday. Well, it wasn't so much snipping for her..more 'pulling it all out'. Poor little doggy! Although since having her belly shaved I have noticed she has a nipple missing!

I am sorry as im more of a lurker but i disagree with you! Im sure alot of women have paranoia but all you have done is confirm their worst fears! Yes babies die, mine did. Whilst i fully appreciate that it was a huge step for you to talk about your son, you are not a councillor. You are a bereaved woman who has just made it feel like death is even more real! I dont feel pregnancy threads are totally appropriate for the talk of stillborn and miscarriage although i agree that its difficult to find places for good support.

I am sorry for being rude but i too have lost a baby and expecting another, hence why i dont post much. You appear to me to be still fresh with grief yet excited for your new baby, dont get those feelings confused when offering advice to others.

waitingforpost

Good news on all the scans so far this week!
FIngers crossed for you Glitter.

Got my scan at 3pm tomorrow. Really wish it was earlier but nevermind! I'll probably not be online til late as I'll be going to my parents after the hospital and hopefully have lots of phone calls to make to friends and family. Only immediate family and close colleauges know so if all is well, I can't wait to share the news with everyone else. Can't believe I am 12 weeks today - it feels like forever since I got my BFP.
Good luck to Looney and Winnie xx

IamJen

Hope your little one holds on tight Glitter!

Congrats to durham and pebbles on the good scans & best wishes to Winnie, Waiting and Loony (that's just fun to type) for tomorrow!

Got a call from the midwife today. She seemed lovely on the phone, and was able to work in an afternoon apt for me (get out of work about 2 most days), so that was great.

It's way past my bedtime, so I'm off now. Played at the playground/park all morning in the super bright sunshine with two giggly three year olds and the dog. So tired, I think I may sleep til Friday.

missymoo81

fingers crossed glitter hun, keep your chin up and nice positive thoughts.

durham and pebbles lovely that your scans went well.

Good luck for tomorrows scans.

advice please.... I have been really silly, well not silly but didnt think. I've had to get rid of my chickens and Put them in a box them moved them to the car, I didnt realise quite how heavy they were, now I feel like ive pulled my stomach badly and am now panicing about have a MC. Does anyone know can this cause a MC should I be worried as I jolly well am, my stomach feels odd. I feel sick with worry, what should I do....

pigpen

missymoo81 wrote: »

advice please.... I have been really silly, well not silly but didnt think. I've had to get rid of my chickens and Put them in a box them moved them to the car, I didnt realise quite how heavy they were, now I feel like ive pulled my stomach badly and am now panicing about have a MC. Does anyone know can this cause a MC should I be worried as I jolly well am, my stomach feels odd. I feel sick with worry, what should I do....

Not much can cause a mc.. but lifting heavy things can strain the relaxed ligaments and muscles which is what it sounds like you've done.

Stop worrying you wombat and start using your head before your arms!

tomorrow you should rest those tummy muscles so no more heavy lifting!

missymoo81

ok sorry Miss pigpen. Im just so used to being so independant especially with OH away all the time, it doesn't occur to me not to do things. Thank you for putting my mind at rest my lovely, hopefully I will rest a little easier now!

By the way I'm sorry your midwife was being such a ditsy moo, doesn't help you much does it!!

pigpen

missymoo81 wrote: »

ok sorry Miss pigpen. Im just so used to being so independant especially with OH away all the time, it doesn't occur to me not to do things. Thank you for putting my mind at rest my lovely, hopefully I will rest a little easier now!

By the way I'm sorry your midwife was being such a ditsy moo, doesn't help you much does it!!

I saw her last year too so I knew what she was like already.. but at least she said we are sticking with my 'proper' dates rather than the fake 'it'll do' dates.

I've moved house and furniture and all sorts when pregnant.. I've even crawled under a car to tie the exhaust back on at 2 days overdue, in labour on my way to hospital.. my mother was taking me and had recently been in a car accident and severely injured her neck and back so I had to do it lol.

Think of your baby/uterus like a blown up balloon filled with water with an apple in it... you can shake the balloon, and roll it and bounce it and squeeze it but the apple moves away from the force or is protected by the fuid... that is what your baby is like.. all safe and snug and protected.

I've had Squeak kicking my tummy earlier.. I did keep moving her legs but she moved them back.. played havoc with my scan bruises but the baby will be just fine.